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  1. I have to agree here w/ Susan, from what the OP has written the wife appears to have zero compassion for her mate. If this were a guy doing this to a woman, we'd be eviscerating him, and based on what's been written about her so far, she's got it coming. To be honest to the OP I think asking her write a you an apology letter isn't NEARLY enough after what has happened. I think she needs to understand how serious something this is. IMO saying "it was just sex, it didn't mean anything" is blowing it off, and shows very little respect for you, or the situation you're both in. Either that, or she's a complete nitwit. Regardless she will need more dramatic of an lesson than an apology letter. If there's more, please say so, but so far the picture you're painting of her isn't a good one.
  2. Great thread! The one mistake I've seen is new couples who treat swinging like vanilla dating, and draw out some sort of courtship and hold the swap like a carrot on a stick. Saying you will & then you don't - essentially not really being ready. This is very similar to your point #4 - expecting to be "wooed" I almost forgot to mention, drinking too much - not necessarily a newb thing, but when we were starting out we made this mistake - thinking, yeah lets get crazy:), but not factoring in things we wouldn't remember in the morning that could cause issues.
  3. The author of the bible is not God, it is written by men. There were several councils, in fact hundreds of years after the death of jesus christ to amend & decide what was pertinent to be written down and what should be omitted in the book. To base your theory on this fallacy, completely negates the rest of your argument.
  4. You may want to abandon the topic, if its piqued her interest she will keep it on the backburner, this way you're not pushing the idea. Back when we were gf/bf first we talked about it, he was more the one that was promoting it. I was open to the idea but we were so young and our relationship was still new. After having a couple of unsuccessful threesomes, we shelved the whole notion for a long time. After seven years we came back to it, and tried couples and swapping - it seems we had found our niche. For me the best thing that happened was when he dropped the subject entirely. This gave me the space to think it about it on my own, and not feel swayed or pressured - or that I wasn't enough for my partner. Although it took a long time for both of us come around and understand where eachother stood, we're better for it and enjoying the fruits of the lifestyle.
  5. For reasons of hygeine and to prevent frequent UTI's I ALWAYS wash my pubic region in the bathroom after a session (if I can't get to a shower). But if we were going to trade partners in the same session I would not want to break rhythm and wash after all is said and done.
  6. We waded for years after having a couple of threesomes that we weren't ready for. But once we joined a great website this year for couples in area, we felt ready and took the plunge -- there's been some bumps in the road but we handled it, and what a fantastic ride its been! girls n boys
  7. We own it! This porn film is awesome, and I stress film. There's great lighting, beautiful costumes, peripheral characters that don't have sex (I don't know why that matters but it does for some reason) It's funny and has intelligent dialogue (which sometimes the actors have a hard time with, but that part is humorous too.) It even has special effects! Can you imagine VFX in porn? It's hot, definitely the best show quality porn I have seen, I thought I could find other porn like it, but I haven't yet. It's a three disc set with an HD disc, Special Features disc, with widescreen and full screen edition, the feature runs about two hours, so definitely make a night of it with candles and wine. There's a little something for everyone in this porn with several girl/girl scenes which I was particularly into (jury is still out on the girl catfight/lovemaking session but even that got the blood pumping ) Also several nice male /female (with plenty of build-up) scenes, and a threesomes. Oh yeah with all that hot screwing, did I mention there was a story-line too? and several sub plots, that made sense. When compared with other porn it blows them away, lol at least stuff I'm, familiar with, and please give me the pepsi challenge, because I want more porn like this!!! It's great and I highly recommend you buy it!!
  8. This is true, 95% of swingers aren't like that. I am so sorry that happened to you, it sounds like you handled it really well, and got the hell out of dodge. I agree you should give it another try, take your time entering into the arena, but definately understand that most swingers aren't pushy , creepy, etc. Pushiness is major turn off for many swingers. I hope this helps...best wishes.
  9. I'm a bit new here but I think you know your wife pretty well. Do you think she could handle dinner and some wine with an experimental couple? Because if you respect her, listen to her, and not get her completely schnockered she'll most likely give you an indication of how receptive she is to the prospect. Or you could casually bring it up in conversation just the two of you, during a hot movie -- (not suggesting porn if she's not into that), but some movies can tread the line quite well. but consider too why you would want this for her, because you may want open pandora's box slowly...
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