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Menos50

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  1. Wow, pretty hard core here... Traditionally, any married person who has sex with another who isn't their spouse is cheating, whether they have permission, or are in the presence of their spouse, so now let's talk about the degree of cheating. Is a man who otherwise loves and cherishes their spouse , but who is unfulfilled in their sex life, and who goes out side of the marriage for that fulillment a less moral person? Some whould say yes, but most of the population would say that both are equally at fault. What we should really be addressing is that some sincere bond of trust needs to be established for the single male to be allowed into the sex play of the couple. And that a significant component of that must be that the non spousal male must understand his place in the relationship...primarily that he is there for the purpose of bringing heightened pleasure to the couples sex play. If he is there for any other purpose on his part, then he is in the wrong. This is presupposing that the couple is evenly balanced in their sexual need and desire and that they are truly swinging for their mutual enjoyment which is rarely the case. For just as most couples have varying sex drives, and are frequently doing this for their spouse's desires, isn't this fact is surely carried over into the swinging lifestyle as well. There are too many permutations in married relationships to go into here, but they are all alive and well in the "swinging" communtiy as well. So to say that the "evil cheating" single male is a bad commodity is only a relative designation, but one with which he is gored most gleefully by these other moral relativists called "swinging couples". So I therefore suggest that we back off the mud slinging and rather discuss the true difficulty in interpersonal relationships on such intimate levels that include ones sexuality. If single males are relegated to a dark corner from which the elite swinging couple sometimes lowers themselves to select from, then there can never be a fair and balanced quality of relationship because it is prejudged that he is of lesser status. And who of reasonable self worth would set himself within this framework? Wouldn't they truely then be men that no one would reasonably want to be with, in an intimate setting? It's so very hard to have it both ways in this worldly existence we lead. So look down your nose at single males of what ever declination, but aren't you also failing to see yourselves with retrospect?
  2. WEll, as a new guy in the "game" I can tell you that single bi women are far more sought after than single men. and most of the so called single women seeking males are seeking gullible men to sign up to other pay sites for an income! It is a minefiled out there, and I therefore can begin to understand a couples hesitantcy about bringing a single of either sex into their inner circle. If the wife isn't bi then there is really no reason for her to want another woman in her bed, and if the hubby is bi, then their is probably some contention in the purpose of the single male as well. All the more reason for the honesty and friendship as has been previously stated.... however, how do you get there from scratch?
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