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larryt9

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About larryt9

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    Contributor

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Florida
  • Interests
    The regular stuff
  • Occupation
    Finance
  • Swinging Experience
    1 year

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    Trapeze, Club Chic
  1. When I found out at 12 that my folks had at least tried pot, I was an emotional wreck for days. SWINGING????? My daughters only six, and it will be at least 12 more years before I'd even give the slightest thought to being honest with her on that, and I'm pretty sure we'd be talking my back up against the wall before I'd even broach it.
  2. My gf and I have been going to a swingers club for the last two months, and that's all we've done so far. We have sex in the group sex rooms, but just stay to ourselves. We love it as it is, but will probably slowly expand our activities. I don't think either of us has the desire to swap partners though.
  3. "BTW, you are very rude." Once again, my apologies. Spoomonkey - thanks for your response. You get exactly what I'm saying/asking. Others seem to think its all my way. I wrote "I am too jealous to let her be with another guy - therefore its something we don't do." to which someone responded: "larryt9, perhaps you are a very mellow guy... but there's just something about this phrase that just struck me the wrong way... leads me to believe that your female 1/2 doesn't have a whole lot of say in the thing, and we've not gotten to hear her side of it all." Then let me add to my original sentence - "I am too jealous to let her be with another guy - therefore its something we don't do. In addition, she has said that she would be too jealous to see me alone with another woman. Therefore that won't happen. (True - I didn't just make that up)." I actually like that she feels jealous of me in that way. Michelle gets total input (from me - get it!!!). We are 100% partners. The fact that I only wrote about my limits is only because I am doing the writing, but I'll be sure in the future to talk about her side of things. But this all leads me to another question, and the real reason I'm writing this response. More then one person has suggested I examine my feelings of jealousy, and if I can get past my insecurities, doubts, etc, and can let Michelle be with another man, it will move our relationship to a whole new level. (Read Intuition's response). I find it a little strange, particularly from a group that probably has to fight for some acceptance of their lifestyle, to not just just accept the choices Michelle and I make. I don't agree with the premise that feelings of jealosy, etc, have to be gotten over, and that I am too insecure to let her be with another man. I hope no one gets defensive about what I'm going to say, because I certainly don't mean it as an attack of any kind. To each his own, live and let live. But I don't quite hear that in return. I feel that certain acts of intimacy between a woman I love and who loves me should not be shared with others. I truly couldn't imagine another man touching, caressing, making love to Michelle. I don't think that is something I should try to get over. The "its only sex" thing doesn't fly for me. Intuition and others seem convinced that their way is "better", as opposed to just saying it is better for them. Funny thing happenned last night. Michelle and I were making love, and I started talking about how I see the "other woman" joining us, which up to now we both got into. But last night she didn't get into it the way she usually does. Later I asked her whats up. She told me she had been thinking that things are so awesome between us as it is, and she loves what we do at trapeze, and she changed her mind - she doesn't want another woman joining us. She just wants to keep it striclty between her and me. So thats how its going to be. I don't think there's any feelings either of us need to work past. Anyway, thats how I see it and what I'm picking up from some responses. Is it just my imagination, or do some of you feel that Michelle and I are less mature emotionally because we don't want to swap? Thanks Larry
  4. "Play it by your rules...for a while. My guess is, human nature being what it is, your girlfriend will eventually get fed up with you being the only one to have all the fun. Maybe not, but I'm talking about probabilities here" I've probably made a mistake. I've assumed that since Michelle and I go to a sex club and have plans to introduce a third party at some point in time that I could hang with "swingers". That doesn't seem to be the case. My apologies. Michelle and I will probably never get to the swap stage (just for the record, this whole thing started because of her interest in another woman. I just feel that whatever we do we should do as a couple). Responses like the above assume that swap would or should be our ultimate goal, which I assure you its not from either of our perspectives. Thanks for those that responded pleasantly, and my apologies to those I've offended with either my question or responses. Have a great weekend, and if you're in Lauderdale, Trapeze is an amazing club. Larry
  5. teresa, Thanks for your response. I'm much calmer now. I really am a pretty mellow person.
  6. "The only question that I have is are you in of high school yet and does you mother know your posting questions on a swingers web site. " She helps me with my grammer and some of the bigger words.
  7. To clarify things - My girlfriend has expressed interest in another woman/threesome. I do not impose my wishes upon her. I have been totally honest with her (and no, not abusive. Most people tell me I'm one of the most easygoing people they know). To state again - I would not be able to handle seeing her with another guy. This is an absolute which she is well aware of. She knows that whatever else we do, that cannot happen and us remain a couple. If that makes me immature, jealous, selfish, whatever, so be it. If she has to have that, then we would just not be compatible. As someone asked me earlier in this post, yes, I am smart enough to know that if I get mine, she might want hers, as she might be entitled to it. That is why, as I said in my post, that I am perfectly willing to give up the other woman scenerio if that is the tradeoff. I am totally happy with our sex life as is. Michelle is the most sexual woman I have ever been with, we both love having sex at the swing club (with each other), and I love her. I'm not pushing her to do anything, including the sex club, which she enjoys at least as much as I do. And if anything we do were to make it uncomfortable for either of us, we don't do it. We have excellent communication, and very congruent desires. My question was to find if there are others, both men and women, who do not like seeing their partner with other people, but in order to do what they want to do, allow their partner to have their fun, even though it might bother them. I'm not willing to do that. So I'll pose the question like this - If you knew that your partner would have equal amazing pleasure no matter what the scenerio, whether it be other partners, watching, threesome, etc, what is the scenerio you would choose? And as far as name calling, I'm certainly not the one who started that. I asked a question. I wasn't asking for advice, or some amateur pscho-analysis. I do think its arrogant for anyone to assume you can read my psyche based on one paragraph. And besides, I think I was pretty honest about things. I can't handle her with another guy. That line cannot get crossed. If she "gives" me a threesome, she will know very clearly that she doesn't get to have another guy as some sort of payback. No lies, no maybe's. And if she doesn't ever want me with another woman, then it won't happen. So answer my question if you feel like it, don't if you don't, but please don't attack me or my motives for putting the question out there. Could it possibly be that there is some truth for some of you about it being "the price you pay", and that it might hurt a little to face up to that? Honestly I hope thats not the case. I hope you do what you do with 100% happiness, and no negative emotions hiding way back there somewhere. Thats why I don't do it. Because I couldn't do it with 100% acceptance and joy. Sorry to make this my introduction to the board. My sweetie and I will be at the Trapeze club in Ft. Laud. tomorrow night, doing our own thing, totally enjoying having sex with each other in a room with 30 other couples. Hope you all have a great weekend also. Larry (and Michelle)
  8. Hi, My girlfriend and I have been going to the trapeze swing club in Ft. Lauderdale for the past 2 months. We strictly stay with each other, and currently don't plan to full swap (eventually we'll get to having another woman in some way). here's my question for those that do swap - Is allowing your partner to swap simply the price you have to pay for you to have your fun, or does the swap itself turn you on? I know I couldn't handle my girlfriend being with another guy, and if that means no other women for me, I'll deal (I love what we do just as it is, anything else will be icing on the cake). If you could have it exactly the way YOU wanted it, would you be having your fun while your partner just watches, or something like that, or is a full swap what you absolutely prefer? Thanks Larry
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