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  1. Yes I too think that attending a club to see just what is going on is a good idea also. One more thing...here in my area a local TV News Anchor did a spot about swingers...and it was tacky...bad and all round gross. The people she had interviewed in my opinion did not even represent most of us here. Can you please try to do this in a tastefull, full representative prospective? I know it may take more work but there are decent..and very private people out there that need to be represented in all sexual domination. Christine
  2. Lets see this is a deep subject here....First I want to say that there is Very much pleasure in swinging. It for me derives from different sexual partners that are allowed inside my 27 year marraige to my husband. Its just fine to have variety..its even better to have new experiences, and partially to say my age is not young, I have sex now more often then before we started swinging. The approach of this lifestyle did come to me as a suprise though. I have to admit..the hubby posted a message on a swingers board without me knowing. When I did find out I was really upset and very head strong on not entering into the swingers lifestyle. But, I did tell him I would think about it with an open mind and make a decission. I did however take my time on thinking about it. I even did some research on it. After learning more about it the idea sounded really fun and exciting to say the least. My worries about STD's did hinder me but as you probably can see almost ALL of us in this lifestyle use and know the importance of Condums ect. I think that the key to success in the swingers lifestyle is to have a good stable relationship with your significant other, have sound rules and not too many and be safe above all. This lifestyle for me has opened up my inhibition to sex tremendously. It indeed gives me extream pleasure without cheating and a variety of other sexual partners. I too feel that in an extent it opens up the same avenue for my husband. He is quite happy having a variety in sexual partners and he enjoys seeing me have sex with other men...ditto I say! The key to this lifestyle is to be able to distinquish love from sex, and a mutual attraction. This being that when you are with another couple or one person outside your relationship you have to be able to see it as just sex. Maybe it's super good sex, but just sex with no strings attatched. Attatchment in the swingers lifestyle tends to get messy and that seems to be the time that problems arise between all involved. There are however bad experiences also. Whether it be location or the other partner..we as swingers can just move on. Interesting enough, I the wife, get to make most of the decisions in this lifestyle. As a woman I feel more comfortable because I see myself more picky, moody and concious about who we have sex with. Yes I am picky. It makes the sex better if I am willing and eager and want to do it with an individual. I think it stems to womens moral standards also, saying no or saying yes just is the right thing to do.Taking over the ownership also creates a since of stability for me. But also listening to my husbands likes and dislikes and discussing the evening's events is very important. Even if it is for about 10 minutes it really is important. Thats my 2 cents good luck! Christine
  3. Is a picture that is edited to make make his penis look lots bigger than it actually is a good game? This was actually an edited picture! This actually happened to us about a year ago. He was suppose to be 14" long and thick..when we actually got there and started swinging with the couple...ahhhh it was less than half the size and the guy just wanted to sit there and watch. My pet peeve in all the photos is that there are seldom any pictures of the men as at least I need to be attracted to them somewhat..and when you ask for one there seems to be a real lack of photos for them..but lots of the wife or other partner. We too have several times ran into men that their wives have no idea that they are even on the site searching for a couple to swing with..and as I am a straight woman..these men tend to put on too often that their wifes are Bi without their knowledge and without being Bi-sexual in any manor. I have found that if the wifes (or signifigant other) gets a chance to chat on the phone together before an actual meeting this help eliminate lots of problems in the beginning. If the other does not want to talk or discuss or even email back and forth then more than likely they are not interested or even know what is going on. A phone conversation is the best.. AND....Dont give anyone your home number...give them a cell number as if you dont like them later they can't trace out where you actually live and you can avoid weirdoe phone calls. Leaving your home location as your own private spot until you truley know a couple is a good safe idea. There are lots of weirdoes out there as you can see from this thread.
  4. Personally when it comes to sex I think that both should be made aware that the intent is there, or there is a need or that the other person wants to have sex with someone else outside the marriage. I myself have told my husband that I don't care if he has sex outside the marriage...as long as he comes home to me and knows where his heart is. I also have told him that I really don't want to know or hear about it. So this leaves him in a spot that he does not have to ask..he does not have to worry about one thousand and one questions afterwards, and he can enjoy the sex with no worries. My spot is that I would love to be able to do the same and have NOT been given the permission to do so by him. And...I am really wanting to. He has told me that if I want to have sex with someone else we can sit down and talk about it...that to me sounds like a touchy scene that I would like to avoid. Approaching this subject with my husband seems to be a touchy one for me...any advice on where to start?
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