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  1. I don't think they are overreacting at all...It's one thing to experience a sexual act with a play partner, that you haven't had with your spouse. That's to be expected sometimes. It's another thing entirely to only do that act with a play partner, even when your spouse has expressed an interest in doing the same thing. To act defensively when asked about it in a non-aggressive manner...raises red flags in IMO. To then do it again with a play partner, right in front of your spouse, is begging for trouble. That seems incredibly disrespectful of her partner's feelings. Mrs.
  2. Hubby is 6'3", and I'm right around 5'7"-5'8". When we're standing, and he holds me close in his arms, his chin rests on the top of my head. I love it, I feel so protected. Mrs.
  3. With regards to some rather blunt and direct replies to your post...I had at first thought, "Add insult to injury?" But then I realized that they are trying to give you a wake up call, even if it is a slap upside the head. What your wife allowed to happen is just not right. But the fact that you sat idly by while it happened only made it worse. Had I been in your situation, I would have stopped the action as soon as this guy's friends started making comments. That would have been the end. Even if it meant me pulling the guy off my wife, and throwing his ass out the door, along with his friends. Not an hour later, and definately not 20 minutes later after I had called for it to stop. I hate to say this, but in order to get respect, you have to respect yourself in the first place. That doesn't seem to have happened here. But I really feel for you, because I can only imagine how incredibly shitty that whole experience must have been for you. As far as this whole "monster-cock fuckathon" thing...so what if your wife likes big dicks...I bet you could find a guy that would respect BOTH of you, resulting in a pleasurable experience for all involved. But first, you need to get things straight with your wife. A time out is in order, with some serious discussion on mutal respect and understanding. Not to mention addressing her obvious inability to have any type of empathy towards your plight. That's a HUGE red flag in a vanilla relationship, let alone one that involves bringing another person into your marital bed. (Mr.)
  4. If the two of you swing again, I would suggest you BOTH make this guy (and his friends), off-limits FOREVER. The total disrespect shown for you and your marriage is enough to blacklist them. There are plenty of guys who are "hung" that won't act in that manner. (Mr.)
  5. (Mr. here) Another example of why you don't "shit where you eat." You could fight it, but if you do, your lifestyle will be known to quite a few people. You'll have to pick which is more important, your job or your private life.
  6. In the over 6 months that I (and my hubby) have been reading this board, this topic seems to come up like clock work every 2 weeks/month. I decided to put in my two cents, and then forever avoid these threads. I've had sex with around 30 guys in my lifetime, the last being my hubby. Out of those 30 some odd guys, 5 of them happened to be black. From my experience, they were no better/bigger than the rest of them. In fact, the black guys I slept with happened to think they were god's gift to white women, which was definately not the case. I know many of my girlfriends feel the same way. Just because you happen to have dark skin, doesn't mean that all white women are going to croon over you, and beg for it. Not that size really matters, but I'm very fortunate that hubby has a big 7" thick piece of meat between his legs, and god does he know how to use it! Yummy! facelick I don't need to be on some quest to find the perfect big cock, because I already have it all to myself.
  7. Oh, I'm just waiting for the put-downs to start. Namely, the only reason that JnCC wouldn't want a MFM in his commited relationship is because of jealousy, insecurity, lack of self-esteem and/or self-confidence. That's usually where the conversation heads in posts like this, which is sad. It's really quite interesting, after reading these boards with my hubby for over 6 months, how much the women run the action. I know that sounds like a no-brainer, but I'm also talking about how hard posters come down on the men when they express insecurities, and how tender and with kid-gloves it is when it's the woman expressing those feelings. Hmm, wonder why that is... Personally, I would never expect my husband to let me sleep with another man, if I weren't willing to let him sleep with another woman (which will never happen, he's all mine). More power to those folks that can soley do one or the other. But I think in a relationship, if you don't have true equality, sooner or later someone's going to feel left out and be taking one repeatedly for the "team." Mrs.
  8. Are you honestly telling me that swingers are perfectly ok with the above? How does that really feel? I mean, to know that some other woman or guy "does" your spouse better than you can, even after you've been with them for years, and supposedly know them inside and out? I seem to remember a thread in which a similar question was asked, and most responded that their spouse was always number one in the bedroom, and swinging was just "really hot foreplay." Mrs.
  9. Without your boyfriend's input, it's impossible to give a fair and balanced opinion. But from your post, it appears to me (Mrs.) that you are angry his feelings on the subject of swinging have changed. Pulling the ole' "he's trying to control me" is a bit much too. So what if he was the one that introduced you to swinging/open relationships, that doesn't mean he can't change his mind after experiencing the lifestyle. In fact, your "blah blah blah" comment really strikes me as being self-centered and immature. Communication is the cornerstone to any relationship (swinging or vanilla), and the two of you really need to work on that area, if you decide to stay with him.
  10. (Mr. here) Although we haven't, and more than likely will not take the plunge into the lifestyle, the way we even got on the topic was through our own sex play with toys, and watching select MFM porn. We started using dildos on her, of all various shapes, sizes and colors. Progressed to double penetration, and fantasizing with her while I watched her work a dildo on her own (usually with her on top of it). I also have written numerous MFM and gang bang type sex stories for her, with her as the main character, which we had posted on our blog, but have since gone to direct e-mails. (She gets sooo hot when she reads them, not only because of the subject matter, but because I wrote them) Before I came to this board, I use to think I was a pervert, or that there was somthing seriously wrong with my fantasies of sharing my wife with another man. While the Mrs. wants no part in the swinging lifestyle, we still use toys and multiple partner sex fantasies in our own bed. There's just something about seeing my wife be completely free in her sexual expression that turns me on to such a high degree. Have the two of you ever used toys? If so, maybe using them with fantasies of another male in the safe environment of your marital bed will break the ice. But be forewarned. Even if your husband does end up getting turned on by the fantasies, he may still never want to actually share you in real life. On the other hand, the fantasies and use of different dildos with your husband might just do the trick for you. One other thing...it's refreshing to see how concerned you are of your husband's feelings. Most "vanilla" men would be hurt if their wife brought up the idea of her having sex with other men. No matter that you've been married for 15 years. It's definately not something to spring on him, or there will more than likely be repercusisons. Good luck to you both! =)
  11. I have to comment on the two posts quoted below (Mrs. here). I think this is a cop out. I garner to say that most men want to be the KING in bed with their wives, and that means that they're the ones that give her the most physical pleasure. Saying that a husband should be fine and dandy that his wife is getting off more physically with another guy is hogwash. Your example is a bit off. You're comparing how this guy's wife is going to act with a bigger dick, to how this other woman is going to act with the husband. How would you feel if your husband said things to the other woman that he has never said to you, or for that matter, came harder with her than he does with you? Men are programmed from birth to compete against other men, it's in their genes and society and the media scream it out every day. How is this subject any different? They had to compete to court us to become their wives from the other male admirers in the first place, what makes allowing his wife to sleep with another guy any different, a competition. Who's going to make her cum more, who is she going to say nasty things to like "fuck me with your big dick, etc." Is she going to act in a more aroused state with this other guy, do and say things that she has never done/said with/to her husband? I think most guys would be fine if their wives acted with other men in a similar or less enthusiastic way then they do with their husbands. It's when they see something that their wife has never done with them, that's what screws with their heads. Put the shoe on the other foot and see how you would feel. As far as the penis size subject, let's be honest, men are again programmed from the get go that penis size is the one attribute that defines them as "men," other than their jobs/income. They see it everyday on television, here it in background conversations of women, and see it in porn. It is pounded into their skulls that "bigger is better." So in the end, you can't blame them for having these insecurities. Men can always refine their lovemaking technique, but they can do NOTHING about their penis size.
  12. So are you saying that the sex with this other guy was better physically than the sex you have with your husband, but that you only love your husband?
  13. Mrs. here, had to comment, even though we haven't (and will not as long as I am the Mr.'s wifey) taken the plunge into the swinging lifestyle...I have seen a number of threads and messages with the general theme of, "People in monogamous relationships shouldn't look down on those that swing, etc." Yet it seems to me, at least in this post, you are doing the reverse, talking down about people in monogamous relationships. I hate to tell you, but not every monogamous couple talks bad about their husband/wife, or cheats or lies. I have been with the Mr. for nearly five years, and I have never talked down about him to my co-workers or girlfriends. Of course, as in any relationship, there will be times that frustration and anger for one reason or another can cause some friction, but again, that goes with any relationship, swingers too. I have never cheated on him or lied to him, and your insinuation is insulting. I think the main difference between swingers and non-swingers is this....swingers feel that sex is something that is fun, something to share with others....while monogamous couples feel that sex is something intimate and a deep expression of love, that they only share between themselves. Nothing wrong with either view. It kinda urks me when people think that I am somehow "un-enlightened" because I am the one that put a stop to the Mr. and I participating in any swinging experience. Different strokes for different folks.
  14. Does the 10th Commandment bear any relevance here? "Thou shall not covet your neighbor's wife." The same would apply to your neighbor's husband.
  15. Thanks for your reply =) After reading further threads/posts, it seems as though a single female in the swinging lifestyle is a rarity. Speaking of clubs, we checked out the listings on the site, and found none in Idaho. Kinda surprises us that there isn't one in Boise. Then again, for our first experience, it might well be better for us to go out of state, just in case things don't turn out as we expect. We can only hope that the people we meet there are as mature and mentally put togther as the members of this board.
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