Hi there Mycok,
Just newly registered here and saw your post and have to add a similar comment to Northindy...for myself (the female 1/2) I often find myself attracted to what many would call a BHM; I like that term by the way, haven't come across it before.
Certainly the key aspect is a connection on personality but as always physicality is important and I do like the cushiony/teddybear aspect to stockier guys. As well, there is also a certain aspect to feeling their weight on top or behind me.
Just my 2 cents worths. ~smile~