Hi all. This is my 1st post on the board. This thread was such an interesting discussion that I felt I had to put my two cents in.
Though I have had the opportunity to get into the lifestyle as a "single male", I have refrained from doing so, as I didn't want to put myself into the perceived position of being a parasite. After studying this lifestyle as an outsider for quite a few years, I know how single males are looked upon..... and no, thank you. It boils down to this: If I make myself self known as a single male looking to get into the lifestyle, then I'm one of many parasites out there. I'm sorry, but I do somewhat resent that point of view although I can understand it. There are, after all, legitimate "parasites" out there.
I made a decision to wait things out, and find a partner that is like-minded in this area if at all possible. Well, it's possible. A longtime female friend of mine eventually became the love of my life, and we have discovered that we have a similar outlook on swinging, though neither one of us as done any more than dabble in it before. We both look forward to getting into the lifestyle, but want to proceed with caution, as we are both newbies.