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curiousduo30

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    Western NY
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    Too many to list here!!! =0)

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    curiousduo30
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    moonlighters social club

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  1. Ditto to what Spoo said... However, we don't always tell each other if we have watched porn or masturbated...it has never interfered with wanting to have sex with each other so it is not an issue for us. I would like to add that my ex used to watch porn after I had gone to sleep and then instead of masturbating, would wake me up to have sex with him. On the one hand, I felt like that was a good thing because at least I got to be involved but on the other I felt betrayed because he never asked if I wanted to watch with him so I did not get the "foreplay" if you will, that is involved when Mr.CD30 and I watch together so I felt kinda left out...and to a degree used as just a piece of a**. Unfortunately (for him) I was too young to understand and communicate these feelings to him and we eventually divorced for many reasons, not excluding the total lack of communication on both our parts... Fortunately (for me) I met my soul mate and have had nothing but good experiences with him as a whole so far. So I guess it is all in your perception and communication levels with each other...
  2. I think this is true, but I know that a lot of people (myself excluded) do not use them with partners. We do not use condoms with each other, so as a couple (unless they were involved in play with others, which you probably mean...) we would not be too concerned with this...Totally different story if they were with others and also with the single men...I would be put off by this as well. I think the use of condoms is predominant, meaning that they are used in swing situations (in my limited experience) but, I also believe that these "condomless" pictures totally give a VERY BAD impression of this lifestyle and it's safety...
  3. Our experiences have led us to changing our rules together, we pretty much agree on what they should be and anything that is still questionable is a "no" until we discuss it together and agree on whatever it may be. However our rules are constantly changing as new situations arise.
  4. I would have to say no, this would not be a turnoff for me or my husband. Personally, I would probably scream enough for both of us as I fortunately, haven't encountered your particular problem. LOL. Actually, I would rather appreciate the challenge, but would also not be offended if the big O never happened, but I do think I would feel disappointed FOR you... Although, if your husband knows what works for you, there really is no reason why he couldn't be of assistance during play. I would let people know that this is a concern for you, but communication is a must for ANY situation so I can't see this as being a huge problem although I am sure some would inevitably disagree with that statement.... Everyone is different and the trick is to find a person (people) whom you both feel comfortable with and who you have communicated your concerns too, there is no right or wrong here, only preferences. Do what feels right and good luck!!!!
  5. I am WAY pickier than Mr. CD30 will ever dream of being. LOL
  6. Being fairly new ourselves we had agreed through some pretty deep conversations of the subject, that we would also not be comfortable swinging seperately. However, we were just recently discussing the whole FMF and FMM situations and agreed that if we were totally comfortable with another couple together in all ways, that we would definitely consider a you scratch my back type of situation. But again, this is still a "what if" situation for us at this point. I guess you could say we are open to suggestion when it comes to this. Since neither of us would ever swing with someone the other found to be threatening (for whatever reason) and that we both trusted, I think we definitely would give it a try. But right now, we are still in the stage of exploring together...although, like TNT so eloquently stated, I, too have learned to never say never....lol
  7. Yep, we both can! Took lots of practice for Mr. but Mrs. has been able to since high school...
  8. I do not have tattoos (the whole idea freaks me out) but I do love the way they look on some people. I asked Mr.CD30 his preference for location (he has 3 himself) and He said: woman~small of the back and right above pubic hair and man~he has to go with bicep. I say woman and man~inner thigh (what a nice surprise)
  9. This is a very loaded question... I think you will find a variety of answers and a lot of the same theme! We personally decided to swing because the fantasies were outrageous and just talking about them became out of control! When it became something we were both comfortable discussing without sex involved (which took a while), we decided to check out the online sites and get some info. We went to a party and observed and then went to another party with some of the same people we were comfortable with and it just kinda happened. I can honestly say (as the female half) there have been many BENEFITS to my marriage! 1) Better and more honest communication. 2) Better quality time and sex with my husband alone. 3) Being able to fulfill fantasies I never even would have considered before. 4) Watching my husband have his fantasies fulfilled and knowing that I played a big part in the fantasy. These are really only some of the reasons we started, but by far not the only ones. I would also like to say that we have met some fantastic people that we don't swing with that we would definitely consider friends! Both here on the board and also from SLS and the parties we attended. So I guess that would be my answer to your question (plus some )
  10. I would be leery even with the bloodwork...like you said you really DON'T know. Maybe talking rationally with your husband (no heated arguments or raised voices) might help more, have him read this thread, he may or may not be suprised by this, but MOST people in the lifestyle kinda require that condoms are used too...Now that is probably a HUGE assumption on my part, but having read posts here and talked to lots of people elsewhere, I feel I may be correct. DO NOT DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING!!!! Your husband should understand this and be supportive, but he has probably got some feelings of his own on this that he may or may not be sharing...There are plenty of people in this lifestyle who are more than happy to wear a condom and you two should discuss looking for other people before you make any decisions... Note: While I have been typing this the wise TXDUO2000 has just posted the best response as far as I can see...but I will post this as sheer backup of her and other's stances that will undoubtedly be just as effective and true!!!! Good Luck to you both!!!
  11. *Ok, picking myself up off the floor* You had me a bit stunned with that one LM!!!! Thanks for the laugh and keeping me on my toes. What a way to misunderstand! Still not sure I could use the word lover to describe anyone, but hey, good for you and Mr. LM... :rollseyes: boy do I feel silly...(in a good way)...lol
  12. I am with you, txduo2000, never gonna happen. It is a little romancy and makes me feel silly whether I say it or someone else does (no offence LM... Surrender ) More power to you if you can keep a straight face using that particular word.lol But I have been known to blush or burst into ill timed laughter while just using terms of endearment like sugar and darling, so there is no accounting for my taste either.lol
  13. I personally did not take a long time with the answer to this question...for US it is an absolute NO-NO...You do need to do whatever it is that works for you (but the whole shotgun issue is probably no joke ) Good luck with whatever choice you two make, just posting the questions and (hopefully) looking at the feedback shows that you two are at least seriously considering all of the consequences.
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