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  1. Like a lot of other men here have said, aroused doesn't cover half of it. My greatest pleasure is watching hers.
  2. In your last reply, you referenced things to which you can apply scientific priciples. Unfortunately, this has zero to do with the human condition. If we had people formulae, we'd have world peace and prosperity for all, because we'd all agree on everything. Why do you reject couples ? Maybe they think they're perfectly nice and are confused also. We all have our preferences and prejudices, which limits our universe of couples. That's the easy part. Then comes the issue of chemistry. It's undefineable and is either there or it isn't. People are funny. A word, the sound of your voice, some gesture, your attitude and all of a sudden one of the other parties is turned off. Can you predict this ? Not a chance in heck. You'll just have to manage like the rest of us. Go out, have a good time with yourselves, hope some other couple clicks with you and vice-versa and don;t take it personally. Good luck to you.
  3. It's sad when society judges what consenting adults do as a perversion. But, it's downright hilarious when a person practicing one 'perversion' gets preachy about someone else's 'perversion'.
  4. At that point, we'd give it up entirely. If the risk is that severe, better to play with just us. It's kinda like the anti-depressent medication that makes your libido disappear...what could be more depressing ?
  5. Nobody knows. It's none of their business, as it is none of mine what they do sexually.
  6. Julie, we don't understand what you're saying. Do you mean that everyone should give up swinging (well, maybe not soft swing) ? Toomuchfun specifically said that they always used condoms for penetration. Which seems to mean that short of wearing hazmat suits, it's a risk everyone takes all the time. From what I've read, the shedding involves the entire pubic region, which basically means condoms are only partially effective.
  7. Easy pickins. First you say, "I didn't know, I just thought it looked cute". Then you hit 'em with the killer, "Just how did you know it was a symbol for swingers ?"
  8. Disagreement is never a reason to be rude. ANd if you just wanted to have sex with each other, looking at older, larger folks like us should been more of an inspirations, as in "We better have lots of sex now before we become like them". ....just a JOKE folks. We seriously would never believe photos of folks at the club being all those young hardbody types. Advertisers have been known exaggerate now and then .
  9. Lets see, you said: "Most of the crowd was the "not Ken and Barbie" set and were MUCH older than us (we're late 30's to early 40's, most were 50's and up). Now, I am not ranking on the "not Ken and Barbie" folks (we're kinda in that range) or the near-baby boomers. It's simply that we were going to see and be seen and wanted to be surrounded by the young 20-30 something Miami hard bodies that Trapeze is supposedly famous for attracting (all the pics on their site are of said people)." So, even being 'kinda' in the 'not Ken and Barbie' range, you thought those young 'hardbodies' were going to find you attractive ? That they'd ignore the bodies and age difference in a way you can't about those older and more 'not Ken and Barbie'? How does that work ? Look, we have no problem with your preference, but unless you're going to hit the gym and get in the hardbody range, we think your expectations are just a bit unrealistic.
  10. Well, we go back even further. Gee, I remember listening to "The Lone Ranger", "Superman", "Inner Sanctum", etc on the radio . We knew about swinging in the 70's having been approached by more than one couple at various times. We held back because we were still working on us and our relationship, we had no "moral" objection to playing. As to the 'net, I was in the IT biz, so I was an early user, like when 300 baud (bits per second) was smokin' . Ad sites were really free and that's where I set up our first MFM with a guy whose still a good friend and MFM partner these many years later. Couple play we didn't get into until a few years later. She thought I wasn't having enough fun...gotta love her. Anyway, just thought you'd enjoy the experiences of a couple of old fogies .
  11. We approached this a little differently. It was the wife's birthday and we happened to be going to a non-swing event where several of our swinging friends were also in attendance, including some single males. The event was beiing run by a couple we knew well who also swing. We stayed to clean up and then one of our friends invited us over to celebrate the wife's birthday, along with another of our mfm partners and the couple running the event. Well, the wife and the two guys headed up to a bedroom, where I joined them with the husband of the couple. I was nearly an mmfmm, but the wife of the other couple grabbed her husband and when we heard the bedsprings squeaking in the other bedroom, we figured he wouldn't be joining us anytime soon. Anyway, it turned out to be a great time for all. She loved it and expressed a definite interest in doing more than three in the future. Basically, for us, we have enough partners to do this without having to ask one of the guys to bring anyone new into the situation. For the wife, she finds it much more relaxing to do this with guys with whom she's already been. We'd feel like we'd be putting unnecessary pressure on the guy and introducing a factor that could possibly ruin the good relationship we already have. Just our two cents.
  12. Well, three things come to mind. Alcohol, nervousness and focus. Me (M), I can drink a whole lot before I become intoxicated. But, when we're meeting a couple, one's my limit. Anything greater than that, unless the period prior to any activity is a long time, affects performance. And, yes, it does that even if you're taking Viagra, etc. Nervousness effects us for any first time meeting. Yes, even if we've talked extensively with potential partners. This definitely will contribute to performance anxiety. Focus is always a factor, too. Some people are more into watching their spuse be pleasured and that can be a problem if they're not concentrating on their immediate partner's pleasure or their own. For our first couple, the lady wanted to be assured that I would pay attention to her rather than watching my wife. Some of us like long foreplay, concentrating on our partner rather than worrrying about whether we get off. We like long foreplay as part of what "trips our trigger". I don't mean 10 minutes, I mean one or two hours. There's a lot to compatability. That's why it can be very difficult to find a couple with whom you can hit off. You're dealing with the wants and needs of four people. You shouldn't be hard on yourself. It's really nobody's fault that you're encountering difficulties. Perhaps you are someone who needs to take it a little slower or perhaps this just isn't for you. Perhaps, hubby should arrange for an mfm for you, so you can be the center of attention. We think you deserve that at least .
  13. We apologize, Julie. You're right, it should have been a separate thread. We didn't mean for it to be a discussion of statistics, nor an attempt to change anyone's mind about what precautions to take or not to take. It just seemed like an interesting question to us. Anyway, sorry for inadvertently hijacking the thread....
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