Pay for the party?? --NO! Think about it dude, single males are a dime a dozen and would overrun an open party and drive all the couples and single ladies away. The open parties the mrs and I attend try to price out the low lifes by charging the single guys outrageously more. This has 2 affects,
1. Unless yer really hard up you aint payin that much for the opportuntity to get laid! But if you have friends at the party you will pay to attend.
2. Because you spent that kinda money to get into the party, you're not going to act up enuf to get yerself thrown out.
We've been to clubs and swinger's bars where it was almost a fist fight to get away from your kind of asshole. We even had one who had arranged a meeting as a couple, then showed with a story about his wife couoldnt make it and actually tried to follow us when we said no thanks and left.
Now we have met a number of nice respectful single guys and made some good friends with them. But on the whole, you have to keep the number of single guys in proportion to the single girls or the party will be FUBAR totally!