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  1. Dooode, You really brought a tear to my eye. I wish most men were as brave as you are. Thank you for touching my heart. It really shows how you spoke from the heart. Blessings to you!
  2. Dear lovinher, [Huh???? As a totally 100% straight guy, I guess I have no idea what you are talking about.] Most bi-curious guys place themselves under the classification of being straight because they don't want everyone to know they are bi-curious. It's ashame b/c there is a tremendous amount of stigma against these fellows who want to express themselves. I was told guys need to do this because it is not preferred that men are bi/curious/sexual in the lifestyle. Then they can fly hawkeye (hidden) and feel out the opportunity. I feel like women in this lifestyle are expected or it's the custom to be bi-sexual, period. However, on the other hand, women do have the freedom to express who they are without stigma, favored, no less. I guess I feel a little intimidated by people's intentions. In our current society, it is also the "in thing" for men to be ogling after GOG. Thanks for stopping by and voicing your opinion. It really helps to hash out these ideas on here!
  3. Thank you for everyone's positive input. This is great. I am glad I could open the eyes of some others! I know it's been a confidence booster for me! Dooode: I'd love to hear your side. When you get the chance, please share! lovinher: My husband and I are always complimented on how nice our profile is. I do think I need to be alot more clearer about what I am looking for. I've enjoyed opening this discussion. Enjoy the weekend!
  4. My husband and I have come across a very nice couple who have asked if their child could be present for our first and now second date. My husband and I gingerly skirted around this request as best as we could. I would have thought they would have gotten the polite picture after asking us about the first date if the child could be present for the first couple hours of our date. First date, are they crazy? head bang We don't have any children yet so we can't even say, "Yeah, let's all go on a hayride and a pizza together." We could then focus on our kids and they could focus on theirs while having casual fun with everyone and continue to foster the friendship. This will offer a level ground of focus. I've been out with vanilla friends who have children and most of their focus is on the children. That's great but it's awkward in this type of situation with the lifestyle when one family has children and the other one doesn't. We want to get to know them in a sexual chemistry sense. We feel hindered to do so if their are children around. We have class and are highly respectful of others especially the sanctity of their children. We don't mind building a friendship with the child but give us some time to build chemistry with the adults alone so we can see if we enjoy their sexual presence. This particular couple had said they are interested in having their children be friendly with us. I like that idea and respect it but I feel that they need to give us space and time in order for that to happen. It's hard for my husband and I to be bluntly honest and say, "Hey, leave your kid with the sitter in the beginning!" Anyone have any advice on handling this? How do you tell them that their kids are unwelcome in the beginning? How also do you handle when they want to play and they don't place the child with sitter and send them to bed while we play? What if my husband is just about to come with the wife and the child comes to the top of the stairs and says, "Mommy, I need a glass of water. Mommy, I had a bad dream, wah. Mommy, what are you doing?" Thanks for your input and wisdom. I love this board!
  5. Thank you, everybody! You're support is incredibly encouraging! I feel loved for being straight! I think I will come out of the closet, be straight and proud of it! As of 11:46AM EST: She_n_Jaybee: I think you are exactly right. I do need to list myself as what I am and when the opportunity presents itself, it will. Thank you! Pepper & Drew: I'm glad the pressure is understood and not something that I've been imagining. Thanks for letting me know that some view it as a conquest. I will approach their demeanor with calm mind and heart. ohash01: I have it on my profile that I find it a total turn off if they ask if I will play with their wives. I think I've felt funky when a woman explains to my husband and I how much she has enjoyed her GOG relations. I start to feel queasy with jitters. I think it's a great idea to start out with a good night kiss with another woman. I could make baby steps or "maybe steps". I think I will write a more clear statement in my prolfile of what I am all about. Sweet_Candy: That's great advice! I hoped that it would weed out the ones who have the strong interest for GOG action. Most web pages profiles list the catch all straight, bi-curious or bi at the top and so most don't completely read the profile. I will make my catch all listing Straight and deep into my profile, I will explain my intentions and parameters. Amanda69: I think deep inside I am afraid of scaring off cool people when I tell them, I am attracted to you but not your wife. I can see it now, their inflamed penises will soon lose the flame! I am really concerned about them feeling the burn of rejection. I will have to be the brave little swinger that could and just be open, honest and comfortable within myself and let go of worrying about what everybody else wants. It's about my experience not theirs. You have no idea how this relieves me!!!!! You are so RIGHT! Thanks for the incredible support. Thank you for taking your coffee time to help a fellow swinger. I love this forum. I feel I can be myself and I am accepted for who I am, whatever that is! Blessings to you all! OXOX
  6. Hello ALL!!! Currently, I have posted on my swinger profiles that I am bi-curious. But I am finding it a little annoying that couples make this precedence that I will be active with both of them. I almost feel like I need to list myself as straight to allow myself some breathing room to open up instead of everyone assuming I am an opportunity for them. I find it funny most men have this highly formulated excuse as to why they don't list their bisexual classification. Since they can fly hawkeye, then it's not assumed and they don't feel the pressure to perform. If something happens, it will happen behind closed doors where no one will know. As if some sort of blue ball disease will fall on them if they list themselves bi-anything. The totally 100% straight line always makes me giggle! I think it's extremely unbalanced and the pressure for women to be bisexual sucks. I am highly clairvoyant so I feel and hear what's going through their (other couple) minds, how they try to control and manipulate our relations [speaking from a totally undefensive place.]. I feel a tremendous sense of pressure from both the man and the woman of their attraction to/expectations of me. It's enough dealing with the attraction of one member (male) of the couple but then 2. I can feel how the husbands are craving to see their wives in action with me. The pressure becomes nauseating, uncomfortable, and disempowering. What I found was, I was burying this down in my body and making myself unwell. I have stopped this pattern. I have not had a bi experience yet. I am still throwing the idea around. It seems in the lifestyle as if it's expected that women SHOULD be bisexual and favored if so. I've heard, "Well, no ones forcing you to do anything!" No, no one will ever force me to do anything. But I feel that sense from people and what they desire. Because if you're not bi enough for them then we don't want to be friends. Yuck! I say, everybody needs to sit in a bucket of ice and cool down. So, my questions boil down to: Does it help to list myself as Straight to allow myself some breathing room? I was told I narrow my chances of meeting cool people by listing myself as straight. (There again, tremendous pressure is then hinged on getting a high level of interest from couples because of my sexual orientation listing.) How do I deal with this pressure? I am nuts for feeling this way? Has anyone else had similiar feelings? Maybe it just boils down to my desire to make everyone happy. Forget it! Right? I love people. That is the sole reason I'm in this lifestyle! But the desires get a little overwhelming for me. HELP!!!!
  7. All of this support has given me a boost of confidence! Thanks a bunch!
  8. Thanks everyone It's great to hear that people are patient as a whole and exhibit the behavior as such. I really do understand that people have a lack of time due to children and life. I think that I will become more comfortable with the time frame once I've had more experiences. The whole "hopping into bed with someone who I don't know" phenomena unsettles me at times and others it doesn't. It all depends on the chemistry of the person. Even if I started dating now in my life, I still wouldn't be a bed hopper. It's not who I am. When people meet us (my husband and I) and we're not all over them, they wonder. We are both reserved people. I am very reserved sexually in the sense that it takes me more time to trust a guy that he's going to be a good fit sexually. I can become adaptable any situation. So I have been willing to hop into bed on the second date to see how it feels, even if I am not crazy about the guy. My husband told me that these are the expectations of couples and I reacted to his wise words unkindly. I also have the attitude that even if I am a little unsettled about certain things, I work with my emotions. I am not about to run into a cave and "figure myself out". I want to go for it and experience as much as I can, good, bad and indifferent.
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