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cari and mar

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About cari and mar

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 12/15/1972

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Dallas
  • Interests
    Cars, aikido, and lots more!
  • Occupation
    Databases and electrical engineering
  • Swinging Experience
    On and (mostly) off for a few years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    cari_and_mar
  • Favorite Club(s)
    velvet curtain
  1. Nice write-up! Your excitement shows, and it's good to hear that your first experiences went well. We were lucky in that respect also. C&M
  2. Sounds like a great first time - we're glad it went well for you!
  3. It would not be surprising if a good number of them were single guys creating couples or bi-fem profiles, but all you can do is send some emails and see what the response is. Press for a voice verification and/or meeting at a bar or restaurant sooner than later. Well, if you actually get along with older people better, why not go ahead and go, with the only expectation being to have a fun time visiting? If some people show up that you are attracted to, all the better! If it is a party of any size, even if there aren't any 20-something's, you'll likely be surprised at how young some of the 30-somethings are (both at heart, and in appearance). C&M
  4. Not at all. We think that one aspect of swinging as a couple is finding common set of limits. Would you say the same thing if she wanted a gang bang with a dozen of she-males and he wasn't comfortable with that? If he did not enjoy the MFM yet she insisted on them... that could be considered unfair. But in a relationship where either party has the ability to call things off, whatever gets both of them turned on is a win. There will always be certain fantasies that don't get indulged, for all sorts of reasons. C&M
  5. We agree with this assessment. Cari is bi, and she would be somewhat disappointed if she got all worked up on the dance floor with a wonderful lady, only to find out that the ladies definition of bi-curious had already been pretty much fulfilled. As Cari like to say though, she can play it straight too - and we know a number of other couples that are the same way (or pretty close to completely straight). Just be yourself and let others know... it'll work out in the end. C&M
  6. After pretty extensive looking, we've found the sites that have the meaningful numbers of Dallas/Ft. Worth people (which is, after all, where we are!): swingers date club - Large D/FW population. Huge Florida representation as well Swing Lifestyle - pretty large DFW population as well. May have other other concentrations of people, but they haven't jumped out at us Swingular has some people from DFW, but tends to be more focused on Utah and the surrounding area. Kasidie a new site based in Las Vegas, so in addition to their focus there, DFW is well represented C4P looks to be very well established site for central states... OK, CO, KS, MO, AR, etc. A little DFW presence, but mostly seems to be filled with people from Wichita Falls and further north. BTW, we agree with most of the comments about Swing Lifestyle. Its forums & message board are a joke. After many years, we still haven't figured out how the groups thing decides to flag when there are new postings to the group... seems completely random. We did manage to use the chat a time or two, but recall it being non-institutive (like much of the rest of the site). And have it disabled currently. Cari sure loves the stories though!!
  7. Congrats on putting it together and having it happen successfully! Just imagine how many men and women want to do what you have, but haven't pulled it together (for a huge host of reasons). C&M
  8. We've all had "lost clothing" happen (although panties seem to be the most common by far! :-), but thats a great and funny twist you've got there. Thanks for sharing! C & M
  9. Somehow missed this thread - hopefully nobody minds us digging it out... Cari was a member of the bibabes site a few years ago and was browsing pictures of past meet-and-greets. In one of the pictures, she called me over and said "Is this Y" from the dojo? I said, "well, it resembles her, but I'm not sure." Later she found another pic and decided it was indeed her. Funny thing was that they ended up having a vanilla party not too much later and invited us over. When Y was alone, Cari walked up and said "I found some pictures of you!" Come to find out that she was not only bi (although since getting married, hasn't acted on it), but she used to baby sit for the owners of a local swing club. A month or two later, we went to The Sans Souci (off-premise bar/dance club). As we were sitting down at a table, we noticed a couple kinda checking us out from the next table. But it was dark and we didn't get a good look. Not too much later, one of them walked by the table, stopped, and then said "don't we know you from the dojo?" Small world!
  10. Not that we get out much, so our experience is nowhere near exhaustive, but one group of 8 people that we met at a house party had never heard of SLS (they are all on SDC). The first couple we ever met (via bibabesnetwork) also hadn't heard of SLS. Long story short, you may be missing some by asking about SLS in particular! C&M
  11. Interesting stat. I can't help but suspect that, like 93% of all statistics, the "play on average for 5 years" number is made up. Even still, I could see how that would end up being the attention span of a couple. Get in, get a few experiences, perhaps run across one or two bad experiences, and then call it quits. Or not :-)
  12. We are almost exactly the same way. He is on the shy side when it comes to meeting/introduction, but has been working to improve his ice breaking skills (verbal and non-verbal). As someone else said above, getting out on the dance floor can REALLY help - it's too loud to hear anyway, so you let the body do the talking :-)
  13. Don't know that we've run into that attitude yet, but just having a evening (or whole night) out alone is a treat... with no family nearby, it can sometimes be a challenge to stay out very late!
  14. Howdy Lolagirl, The composition of swinging community is no different than society at large... there are barbies and there are BBW, and most everyone else falls somewhere between. There is definitely something for everyone. Sometimes the club you visit, or the site you sign up for doesn't match your tastes, but in general, it is no exaggeration to say there is EVERYTHING out there. Long story short, no, there is absolutely no reason to be concerned. At all.
  15. Thanks - we may have to look into that more. Just browsing though a couple of profiles though, it seems like the challenge might be the same as what we have: finding a sitters to stay out much past midnight. Anyone tried an overnight sitter?
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