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  1. Ok, well here we go... I have 8 tattoos. 2 of which are cover-ups, so I have actually been tattooed 10 times. I also, until recently, had my nose pierced, I have my clitoral hood pierced, and I have had my navel pierced 3 times (it never heals right for me). Also, R has (ahem) genital piercings and his nipples pierced. As far as the piercings, we LOVE them. While the male genital piercings may look strange to some, don't knock it until you actually try it...ohhhh yeah.... My clitoral hood piercing is FABULOUS. I love love love it. I miss my nose piercing. I had to take it out since I started working at a "real" law firm. The tattoos? I have one on my lower back, one on each hip, one on each ankle (one of which is an ankle band), let's just say they are in several different spots... I am definitely not "covered" though. The tattoo on my lower back did hurt. But not as much as the ankle band. The ankle bank was hurt like fire as it went across the achillies tendon. But, damn, it looks SO cool. In answer to the questions I anticipate getting: I am 33, but got my first tattoo at 17. Yes, they hurt, but generally not that badly, and the pain passes pretty quickly, especially with the piercings. Yes, I get a whole lot of attention from my tattoos, when I am dressed to let them show. And I DO love attention.
  2. I was in the FRONT seat of a fastback Ford Mustang. In a parking lot behind a bank. There wasn't enough room in the back seat. K
  3. ummm...ewwww, gross. I am right there with ya, DragonsLair and Lori.
  4. :lol: Laughing at Lori's belt comment! I love it. Ok, for me sexy on a man depends. If you are the average, everyday guy going to a swing club with his wife, then give me nicely fitted slacks and a banded-collar shirt anyday. If you are into B&D, well that is something else altogether. Mmmmm...leather chaps and leather vest. Or, if you really want to try something different, dress up like a Chippendales dancer. You know, tux pants, bow tie and cuffs. Yow! :evil: Have fun!
  5. R and I met at a mutual friend's wedding shower. I saw him sitting in a black leather chair and fell instantly in lust. (With him, not the chair.)
  6. We've been to a few clubs. First club (get this!) was the Candy Club in Amsterdam. It was so much fun, but kind of sleazy too. Fake fur on mattresses in the corner - that kind of sleaze (the GOOD kind ). It is a really small place. But fun. Loads and loads of fun. Second club was Velvet Heaven in Atlanta. It was ok. There were many cliques. But the dungeon is FABULOUS. (If you are into that sort of thing.) I spent most of my night squirming around getting turned on by the happenings in the dungeon. There was one couple that seemed very interested in us, but the guy really turned me off, so... Third club was 13th Floor in Dallas. It is a really neat atmosphere - not quite as cliquish as VH, and its in this huge, rambling house. The guys are really nice and friendly for the most part, and they do say that if any of the women are uncomfortable with what someone is doing, just say so. But, since we were new there, when the CREEPY staring guy in the corner started following us, I ran out of there just as fast as I could, rather than telling management. I wish I had told someone. I think we could have had a great time at 13th Floor. We are dying to try the clubs in Las Vegas, and since we are moving to the Pacific Northwest pretty soon, I hear there are some great clubs in Seattle! :evil:
  7. *Bowing before TeamSoBe's eloquence...* Ok, you asked for a swinging wife's perspective...here goes (and note that some of these reasons are personal to me): First, my ex-husband was a dog who cheated on me all the time. I have been there, and don't want to be responsible for another woman's anguish. Second, I look for honesty in a swing partner, especially someone that I meet on a personal level, rather than in a club. If a guy is cheating on his wife, that shows a basic lack of integrity, and leads me to question his ability to be discreet, or to be telling the truth about anything. Third, guys who are cheating are most times unhappy with their marriage. I have seen too many cheating guys turn into stalkers when they get a taste of freakiness, which they are not getting from their wives. Fourth, R and I have worked very hard at building a happy and stable relationship. It took quite a while for us to find each other and even longer for us to build a rock solid foundation that we are secure enough to play from. We want to play with people who are well adjusted, and who can communicate their needs and expectations. Cheating on one's spouse immediately lets the cheater out of that category. Finally, and perhaps the most pragmatic of reasons, we don't want to be called as witnesses in a divorce proceeding. We have no desire to have our lifestyle be media fodder because one of our play partners was a cheating spouse who got caught. And please note that all of the above reasons and our prohibition on cheating spouses extends to women as well. And it does not have to be cheating in a marriage - we had one girl approach us who was involved in a "living together" type relationship. She went no further with us, since she was clearly cheating on her chosen partner. Does that make any sense? K
  8. Ahhh Lori, I wasn't offended. And I don't mind sharing. I like to hear myself talk (or type ), if you hadn't guessed. :lol:
  9. The Sister-in-Law definitely needs to be taken down a peg or two. Threatening someone in this lifestyle is NOT a good idea. You may want to mention to your brother what she said, and then let him know that you will not tolerate that kind of threat, and tell him if she "outs" you to your employer, you will out them to everyone, since once your employer knows about you, you don't have much more to lose by letting everyone else in on it. Just my .02. Oh, and welcome to the board! Sorry we had to meet you under these circumstances!
  10. Lori, There's not much more I can add. Imsnowman and TeamSoBe summed it up quite nicely. I don't believe I was simply dating that couple, nor do I believe I used them or had a fling with them. It was a committed, loving relationship. I don't know how to explain it otherwise to you. And that is ok. You don't have to understand it. Honestly, I don't think you have the temperament to understand it. You've said before that you could never share you innermost person with anyone but your sole, significant other. And that is fine - that is what works for you. I, however, can. In the right situation, and with the right people, I am capable of sharing my entire self with them. Anyhow, I appreciate Imsnowman sticking up for me. But I wasn't offended. What Lori has said is mild compared to the things my mother has said about my unorthodox lifestyle over the years.
  11. Hi Lori! No, I don't mind sharing. I was 24 at the time I had my poly relationship. I don't think it was a fling. But I do think I did not have the emotional maturity to commit myself and move away from my family like they wanted me to. I'd been married once before (I got married for the first time at 18), so it was not my first loving relationship either. My first husband and I had been into the swinger lifestyle, but he did not follow the ground rules we had set up, and cheated on me all the time. He also spent a lot of time tearing down my self-esteem. So, this relationship was probably partly a way for me to restore some of that lost self esteem too. As so aptly illustrated by Team SoBe, I did not have an explosive breakup with this couple. It was a mutual parting of the ways, and I still think of them fondly. Oh, and Lori, tell your husband that curiosity is a GOOD thing!
  12. Lori, Here is my take on the poly relationship I had: I was not in it just for me, and definitely not for the purpose of getting over some issue in my life. Falling in love with this couple, it just happened. We started out as friends, and I spent a lot of time with them, ended up sleeping with them, and thing progressed from there. I definitely did not intend to have my heart broken. But as we all know from life experiences, anytime you fall in love with someone (or someoneS ), there is a risk. I think because poly relationships are not as accepted by society, they tend to be a little less stable, and therefore don't last as long. This is not the case with all poly relationships, however. I know one triad who have been together for over 6 years. They are unusual, I am sure. But it seems to work for them. Up until recently none of them were married to each other, but last year the man and one of the women got married. Mainly for health insurance purposes. As far as I know, the marriage has not affected the triad in any way, at least not that they have said. Having been the unmarried F in a triad, I can tell you that when you are invited into a married couple's relationship, there is a kernel of insecurity that is hard to overcome. You constantly feel that the other F has more of a claim on the M. This is exacerbated when the couple has kids. But the insecurity can be dispelled. It just takes awhile. I think this insecurity was the reason I did not move with L & A. I firmly believe that I learned a lot about myself, relationships, and interpersonal dynamics from the poly relationship I had. In spite of the fact that I ended up hurt, it was not a bad experience, and being in love is never a bad thing, in my book. Does that make any sense?
  13. Lori, This is K. All I can tell you about are my personal experiences. I've had one poly relationship, where I was the second "F" in a triad. The three of us were all committed to each other, shared a home and a bed, raised the couple's children together. I loved both of them, and they loved me. The kids called me "auntie K," but I was treated more as a second mom, right down to disciplining them and getting goodnight kisses. We would occasionally swing with other couples too, but mostly we functioned just like a normal married couple, just with three partners. This was perfect for both L (the other "F") and I since we are both bisexual. And A seemed to be deliriously happy most of the time. This lasted nearly a year before they decided to move to Michigan. Having no desire to move away from Calif. and my family, at that point, I decided to stay. Seeing them leave nearly ripped my heart out. I think having them leave was harder than when I got divorced from my first husband. R and I have had one "almost" poly relationship, and we would be willing to explore that further with the right person. The woman we had begun developing a poly relationship with was a good friend before we started swinging with her, and things progressed further once we welcomed her into our bed. I think we would have gone through with our plans to bring her wholly into our relationship had she not developed a SERIOUS drug problem. I hope these illustrations help, Lori!
  14. We have a friend who is a bi-male. He likes R. I have a fantasy of watching R get a blowjob from another guy. R is not willing (but I keep bugging him about it). In light of all this, it would not be fair of me to say I would not do certain things to please my partner. I do have some limits, however. No scat. Ick. No bestiality. Double Ick. The thing is, there is not much I won't try. I think the above is pretty much my list of things that are off-limits. And since the above two also turn R off, I doubt there is any danger of him asking me to engage in them. But, to answer the question that was posed. Yes, I'd try nearly anything I haven't tried before if R wanted me to. Of course, then I'd expect him to indulge my fantasy as well. I know that R would never EVER try being on the receiving end of anal sex. I have begged and pleaded with him to let me use my strap-on, told him I'd be gentle , you know all those things guys say when trying to get a virgin into bed...and he adamantly refuses. So, I guess some fantasies will remain just that. There may be hope for the BJ fantasy however.
  15. I understand what TeamSoBe is saying, but I disagree that we larger folk use the shallow label to deflect anything. If you are not attracted to fat girls, then hey, that is your preference. However, you might be surprised just how much that little hottie down the street actually weighs. When you base something on just a number, THAT is shallow. Aside from that, yes I am fat - I use BBW because most people are uncomfortable with the word fat. I have no problem with it and I am comfortable with myself. You'll notice that I have never said, "yes, I am fat but I have been losing weight." And I find that if most people take a little bit of time to hang out with me they find me darn near irresistible. Now, if I were to be really shallow my ad would read something like "no one need apply who cannot spell or uses 'u' instead of you and 'ur' instead of your/you're." How's that for shallow? But, as I said, we don't judge on appearance, or on lack of spelling ability. We like to get to know you, and make an effort to see what is truly beautiful inside a person.
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