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    M. Male
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    Germantown MD
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    I simply want to be a friend and lover.
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    IT Manager
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    15 years

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    LuvYourCum
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  1. For many people there is 30 to 40 years of ingrained thinking about M2M contact starting from the first time boys start to shower together in school. It's often very hard to go against something you have been told for that long. I understand completely. I must also say that going against that thinking and following through with the fantasy is well worth the effort. Keep fantasizing and go for it! The world really doesn't come to an end and you aren't automatically labeled anything.
  2. I am not attracted to me per se but I have found M2M play to be very erotic especially in the wife's company. I was nervous at first but have never regretted it for a moment. I feel liberated now having the desire and ability to give pleasure to both sexes. I highly recommend that if you are considering it, do try it under comfortable conditions of course. Now the most fun of all to me is when I can share with a couple and give them equal attention. I have never had an experience when everyone didn't leave very happy not to mention satisfied. It's has obviously made me very aroused just thinking about it. Obvious if you could see me that is.
  3. Continue to explore this in your mind. You are on your way to purging yourself from the ideals that were put in your head by others. Those ideas are the thing that is not natural, not your enjoyment of sex even if the sex happens to be with a man. If you aren't trying to have a baby then gender is irrelevant to sex play anyway. 10 percent of the population of men prefer sex to men.If millions are that into it there must be something to it right? There is NOTHING wrong with it at all. I started out thinking it was unnatural and disgusting then I started to explore in my mind why? I wanted to know what all those men saw in it. I got over my hang ups and now i very much enjoy satisfying both members of a couple. I love it! Took a while though.
  4. It is just bad programming by others that tells us it's not ok or pleasurable. If sex is recreational, not procreational, THEN THE GENDERS OF THE PARTICIPANTS ARE IRRELEVANT. That is my philosophy. It too me over 40 years to undo my programming. I used to think it was disgusting and had a lot of issues with it. Now I think it's wonderful in the right setting. I am not interested in just men alone I need there to be at least another male female couple who are both into it.
  5. The object of the label attempt is to create a more comfortable environment for those who may fantasize about same-sex sex but so far have been hesitant because of the potential for a negative reaction. It's a shame for someone to not explore that side of themselves because of a fear of a label or reaction they may receive long after the exploration has taken place. The more I listen to the various perspectives, all good points too I might add, the more I am realizing it will take more than the changing of the definition of a label it would take a social change. I think that is happening albeit slowly. Bottom line is I believe everyone should feel free to follow their fantasies, they know they are safe with me there.
  6. Tribbles that's fantastic and right to the heart of the topic. By the standard definition that makes you bi just because you had sex with a woman. In the right setting it's fun but that's not your orientation at all so the label isn't accurate and you might find being labeled that off-putting to the point you may not even want to try it and that would be bad. That is exactly the reason I made the statement in the first place for that reason. I think more people could enjoy the experience in a setting like that if they weren't prejudiced against it for reasons of ignorance (lack of specific knowledge or experience not stupidity) or misinformation. Fundamentally it's really all moot anyway. We all get a pretty good feeling for the emotional state of the people we are with. I had to have had a seed thought in my mind that said it was OK to think about sex with a man and let it germinate for a while before I did it. I am very glad I did but it was when i was with a couple. I'm just trying to provide more seeds I guess.
  7. Just as I love to make people feel comfortable, or better yet orgasmic, I don't like seeing them uncomfortable by having a poorly understood concept cast a bad light on something that isn't bad. To me it's insane to think there is anything wrong with giving another person pleasure. I hate to see people struggle and beat themselves up because they have played or fantasize about playing with someone of the same sex. All I'm trying to do is keep a spirit of acceptance available to that large body of people that want to explore bi. I wish i could eliminate negative feelings through a better understanding. I guess a lot of people feel the same way.
  8. The whole idea of labeling is what needs to be rethought. Most of us have individual needs and tastes and being lumped into a label does a disservice to most people. Maybe I am being too idealistic.
  9. A lot of people really get worked up with fear they might be "bi" or labeled "Bi". Most of this grief and heartache is unnecessary, simply the result of it being poorly defined. The standard definition of bisexual is anyone that has had sex with both genders or all genders but then it's tri-sexual try-sexual or whatever. But I digress. I think for the sake of swingfolk, who are on the cutting edge of human sexuality in my opinion, the definition needs to be your sexual preference is completely based on the gender you could fall in love with not who you can have sex with. Most guys can have sex with anyone or anything without an emotional component. Therefore if you have pleasured your share of men during parties or whatever but there is no way you are ever going to fall in love with another man I say you are not even Bi sexual. If you could have an emotional commitment to either gender then you are Bi-sexual and if you withhold your emotional self for those of the same gender you are homo-sexual. Agree or disagree why?
  10. It's really a shame the angst we get all because of this fear of what others will think. We completely ignore what is true in ourselves in favor of our perceived Idea of what "Society" things is right. Your boyfriends discovered that the skies dodn't turn dark and the earth didn't open up and swallow them simply because a male made them feel good sexually! It is an experience and I believe it's also a form of communication too. I'd love to "talk" with you guys sometime!
  11. I think what this shows more than anything is the these lables of straight, bi, and gay, have very little actual meaning. When it comes to sex I think we are all capable of having a good time with anyone. my motto is: If sex is recreational, not procreational, then the genders of the participants are irrelevent. I also think the labeling referrs more to the gender you can love rather than the gender you are wiling to have sex with. I have always loved sex with women and I've studied technique since I was young it to get good at it. I have learned to enjoy sex with men later in life, but I could never fall in love with a man. I can only give my heart to a woman. That to me is a better distinction than who you are willing to play with.
  12. Sounds like you handled it well waiting for the right time. It's too bad he can't articulate his passions because just being able to discuss your fantasies can be a big spark! You need the right guy for your first MFM someone who is patient and understanding of the hesitations and especially not be pushy. Of course I volunteer but I'm not sure I am practical depending on where you live. I would drive 4 or 5 hours for an encounter like that. For me there's nothing better than helping people fulfill a long held fantasy. I had do develop my Bi side but I'm glad i did because of situations like what you describe. It's better to have a very open mind and not be judgmental at all in my opinion.
  13. With some people the brainwashing our peers give us over the years goes deeper than others. If she was around people that actively showed disdain for same sex encounters she may take longer to come around. For me I was fortunate to live places like LA during my adult life. If I lived somewhere people do a lot of open gay bashing and talk then I think the brainwashing goes deeper. I grew up in a suburb of Minneapolis Minnesota where it same sex wasn't as tolerated as it was say in San Francisco but over all it was a very tolerant atmosphere. My "training" came in the form of the typical locker room chatter about "fags'etc. That was easier to get over but it still took 40 years.
  14. I think it's really interesating the men in their mid 40's start to find this interesting. That's when I did too. I think it takes us that long to gain enough confidence to blow off what others might think. Almost every man I know at our age has an interest in exploring same sex play in one way or another or at least fantasize about it.
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