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About yumyum29a

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  • Birthday 08/04/1969

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    Couple
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    Philadelphia
  • Interests
    Tennis, swimming, Skiing, working out (mainly her)
  • Occupation
    Health Care
  • Swinging Experience
    officially from 11/05/06

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    yumyum29, mrs_yumyum
  • Favorite Club(s)
    The Pleasure Garden

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  1. I think we all can benefit from your advice sogood, a man with super sexual powers is one to be watched. Her guy certainly had them in spades, handsome, great body, a very large dick and according to her staying power and stamina you wouldn't believe, to top it off he was also a well to do lawyer and a money...on second thought I think I'LL sleep with him lol. I have to admit that I do feel your opinion is a little biologically slanted. Yes I do believe that this guy had some huge factors that would compel any woman to forget her man, at least for awhile. However what about everything above the waste-line? He may make her panties soak in seconds but I feel that the brain is the largest factor and yes, as corny\cliche' as it sounds where her mind goes her heart follows. One thing I have learned from all this is if someone controls your heart they control you and she definitely had my heart and definitely controlled me. It wasn't until I woke up and realized that it was hurting us that I took control and basically reminded her that I had her heart as well. I believe that the physical act is only a part of what makes a relationship there are SO many other parts and its the quality of all those parts that make the relationship work. The physical act is only a portion (though important). sogood - It sounds like you have a really great thing going, it sounds like it works well for you, believe me there are many who could learn from your example. Thanks so much for contributing and believe me I will keep it all in mind!
  2. Hi everyone, have not been on here in awhile because of mainly the holiday but also I had to digest all that was being presented to me by the kind people of this board. So we had our show-down and here is what happened. I decided to stop sniveling and get my butt in gear and my house in order!!! You may not believe this but I have a VERY strong and dominant personality, I am a take charge guy (seriously!) but when it comes to my wife I am a man that is whole-heartedly head over heels in love! After 25 years of being together we still act like teens and I would do anything to allow her to reach the orgasm stratospheres she was hitting. I took stock in all this and decided that the love-based emotional weakness I have for my wife was also the same emotion that is going to allow a serious blow to our relationship. She told me she was going to see him again the following night I never uttered a word about it at first thinking I would just say my peace after her fun but I then bit the bullet and told her that I decided the fact that she was seeing him was fine with me but the fact she broke our promise to play upset me, that I felt a bit betrayed and she was being selfish putting her own pleasure before our own. I then reiterated that he was inconsequential that what bothered me about him is he treated me with what I would term disrespect and she would still have sex with him regardless of that fact. Well after that the water works began and she apologized for being selfish. I then promised her that I would communicate better and she promised to not be selfish. I don't know what you think about it but it was a fantastic breakthrough for us, we held each other for what seemed like hours. It was like I was away for a long time and just came home to her. All this being said that very night her guy IM'd us and I was the only one on at the time he said hi and immediately asked about her. I told him that I needed to chat with him and proceeded to asked him about his intentions with her (other than the carnal type). He reassured me that he had no long-term intentions with my wife outside of the booty-calls he greatly enjoys with her. I then explained to him that I respect his answer and thanks for humoring me but she was about to get naked with me and would be busy till further notice. He "LOL'd" and said to have fun and dropped off. I then spoke with my wife and told her that I had a private conversation with her guy and she of course perked up and prodded at me me for what it was about. I replied in due time. She then called him back without me asking and explained to him without elaborating that she had fun but decided it was time to move-on. According to her he was disappointed but said he understood and wished her well then hung up. We have since kept to our swinger-celibacy and have kept our profile off the market. However we keep getting emails from LOTS of sexy couples asking to play, I sure hope we can last it!!!! Thanks all, you reassure me that Swingers are the nicest people anyone could meet!! - sorry for the book but I had to write it just for my own sanity. All the best!!
  3. He is dominating but is sort of passive aggressive nothing has been direct. I do see the beginning of an attachment but I am not sure entirely so do I sink her hundreds of orgasms for my jealousy? She has been with quite a few guys but this guy is a porn star if I am just a jelous knuckle head I will feel terrible. I do need to open up communications and I do need to pull my nutz out of my body cavity and make a move (some sort of move)
  4. Likeminds - it's funny we addressed it the same way, we said exactly that, the drug isn't working anymore we need a stronger dosage that would probably kill us or we need to go cold turkey and try again Feb. We do have a immensely busy social calendar as well as a number of personal and business obligations that I will not mention. This prompted our "break" and our tagline. The tagline was not absolutely literal (but good catch). So what your saying is this time a cigar is just being a cigar and nothing else? I am beginning to agree with you and feel that we should pretty much reinstate our swing break. We wanted it once and should get back on it for our own good. Do you think she should break it to him or I? If I do it it would be a statement that am in control and would send a message. She is VERY submissive and I dont think would be very effective. What are your thoughts?
  5. Iliac the Veto power your suggesting it's just I'm not sure if the veto is warranted? I love my wife dearly and she is deriving an enormous amount of pleasure from this guy, it does turn me on to see her in this state to no end. So do I invoke that veto based on what is possibly jellous whim and thus making her feel guilty for good and ending all the good will we placed in swinging thus far?
  6. Alura in can defiantly identify with your rural witicizm, it's crystal clear and to the point. In regards to hot wifedom their is a space you give and allow the wife to play in. The how's and why's seem to be defined on a case by case basis. Regardless my question is regarding what that boundary is and is it being stretched. (very simply put) Thanks for the feedback I surely do appreciate it!
  7. Thanks it'sso I appreciate it, I think a combo of your advice with LikeMinds321 will work well. It would be so much cleaner if could just catch him in the act, but we play the cards were dealt.
  8. man that is brutally honest!...I love it! and you are right, its probably all me, some paleolithic portion of my brain kicks in jealousy mode and he is doing my wife better than I ever did. But what if it is actually going a more intimate route? Then he is doing more than I asked and crossing the line?
  9. Chicup - wow great points - I typically am the Bull, thinking about it, it really wasn't the guy who shakes me up, at least not directly, it was the reaction she gave me after being with him. Its the small ways she speaks about him and reacts when he text's her for play time. How can such a pretty lil thing do such damage to a grown man's psyche. Love is a bitch! lol I do find your comment interesting regarding your wifes pants and I do the same, I am the gate keeper and I do demand respect. But that is just it, in my eyes he hasn't been directly disrespectful to me though so I have no "direct" issues and it appears that I have a jealousy issue and my stupid jealousy will get in the way of my wife having some of the best orgasms of her life.
  10. Not too worried about my performance...sort of...put it this way, I was the quickest gun in these parts until he came along and shot me down. I'm still a good shot but I think my confidence is shot! in regards to oral, toys and everything in between I think we have done a great job. I like to think I am no run of the mill guy, I know her soul believe me, when she came home one night it shook me to my core seeing her act like that. She has been with plenty of guys and nothing compared that night. I agree I think this guy can detach himself, he will text her for play time every so often, not an everyday guy also it doesn't appear he is looking for a girlfriend, my wife asks him from time to time and that makes me suspicious as well, but that could of course be me overreacting.
  11. The wife and I have been together since highschool and ever since then we have always bragged aout the level of our communication, lets face it, without great communication we would never be swingers! Lol That's one of the most bizarre things about this whole situation and has me astonished we and especially I am a great communicator. Never thought would be writing for advice and never thought I would be in a situation like this! I really am thinking this guy wants to be the bull and religate me to being my wives cuckold. I should say that he has not been disrespectful towards me in front of her. Really she just kills me (and gives me an enormous erection) when she tells me how good he gave it to her. Its like a drug, I want to please her ANDi don't want something messy to happen! I think I was kind of waiting for this guy to slip up just so I could say " see he's not perfect let's move on." Sorry about all this BS, I feel like a stupid school kid!
  12. Wow , all great advice I agree it does seem pretty simple when I finally write it down and look at it. I think I needed little push/direction from the outside, thanks! The reason I said "yes" to her requests is that I love her so much that to see her that satisfied and happy I can't bring myself to disappoint. Also I'm typically the cool headed one that is always under control and finding my feelings hard to realize. Another reason is my pride, not allowing him to sleep with her is admitting he is better to my wife. So far it has just been "booty calls" and then he tells her that if she sleeps around with other guys he is to be the first consideration (not including me). She is getting her breasts reworked and augmented and he said after me he is to be the first to try them out. He does give a Bullish vibe. I do wonder how much influence he has over her even if she doesn't realize it. Is that possible?
  13. We started swinging about 3 or 4 years ago and were mainly playing on and off not really with the same people more than twice that was due more to finding the right couple and having the availability then anything else. We both wanted to play but just had a hard time getting away. Well about a year ago due to kids and not having any time we (wife and i) decided to allow my wife to play solo, she was reluctant at first but soon took to playing a sort of "hot wife" roll when she would go out. She would find a guy on line ( typically they would actually find her, she is smoking hot, seriously) then play hard till the wee hours on her way home she would call to check in and tell me every detail when she got home we would have sex like bunnies! Recently (in the past few months) she met a guy that is 26yrs old, tall ( she likes tall), hung like a horse and apparently has the stamina to match everything else. You should see her when she comes home - Wow is she satisfied! She has seen no one but him when she used to play the field a bit. All this being said: Now when she comes home we talk about the kids on the phone and we never have sex. She said about a month ago that she wanted to take a break from swinging till about Feb and I agreed saying that her playing isn't giving me/us as much of a charge anymore. So we let about 2 or 3 weeks go by and she said "John texted me about meeting, can I go play?" I said "sure" then ribbed her about her request to take a break. Inside I had a knot in my stomach. I'm not sure why and if I should allow her to keep seeing this guy? I want her to be pleasured beyond belief which this guy is delivering in spades but I think I'm jealous of how he can satisfy her beyond what I can, I'm attractive and look younger than my 42 years but I can't hold a torch to this guy, did I mention that he is a lawyer in a large law firm as well? Should I allow her to see this guy more and not be selfish or should I say if she plays the field she should PLAY the FIELD and mix it up a bit?
  14. I guess that's the secret of the lifestyle...Fornication, Folks and Fun
  15. TO ALL THAT POSTED BACK TO US... Your offering of help has really solidified our belief that the swinging world contains a far nicer and element of people than we have found anywhere. Swingers truly take care of their own!!! The decision to swing is one that we will never regret and thanks to all of you that helped retain this belief. It never fails to amaze me...the power of good sex! Thanks again to all!!!
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