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    M Female
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    Western USA
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    self-employed

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    Ssugarllips

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  1. I am married (primary relationship) and have two secondary male partners, one in his own primary relationship, the other looking for a primary relationship while dating other women. Neither one of these situations gives me pause. I want both partners to be happy and content in their lives. At one time, there was a special woman in our life. She was a full secondary partner to both my husband and myself. She moved away and has since married. Her husband is not interested in swinging or a poly relationship. We still love her, are in contact with her, but when we meet in person, we do not share a sexual relationship.
  2. An interesting combination if nothing else. https://www.thestranger.com/seattle/Content?oid=45164
  3. I have enjoyed the two threads currently talking about swinging and polyamory. My husband and I have both had emotional connections to our partners. In addition to the sex, a rare few have been integrated into our daily lives. My husband is more willing to experience other partners based only on momentary sexual chemistry; he has my blessing to pursue that interest after I meet her. For me, I need personality, chemistry and the possibility of a more lasting connection. I have two lovers currently - one of 4 years, the other 1 1/2 years. The latter lover is part of our regular social life as well as his college-aged children. The sex is incredible but the close-knit friendship between him, my husband, and me is what keeps us happy. The lover of 4 years lives too far away to participate in our regular social life, but we keep in touch via email and phone about our lives outside of our sexual relationship. My husband's current partner is a delightful woman who is single and experimenting with her new found sexual desires. She doesn't want a boyfriend; she wants sexual adventure. As a result, she's enjoyed my husband's sexual talents as well as being included in a foursome with me and one of my guys. I've never felt completely comfortable with either label, though if pressed, I always said I leaned more to the polyamorous crowd. My husband identifies more on the swinger side. We both know that our commitment to each other as life-partners is unshakable. We've been married 30+ years.
  4. I chose Ssugarlips because I wanted something suggestive, but kind of sweet. I have full, red lips that love to be kissed. My other lips turn a deep purple when I'm aroused and they also love to be kissed. I've used this name on several sites. I added the double s because the first time I tried to use the name, sugarlips was taken, so Ssugarlips I became. On a couple of other sites, I am Ssugarllips because of a slip of a finger when I registered.
  5. Fucking with a strap-on is harder than it looks! I own the movie Bend Over Boyfriend and have watched it several times. I've asked my husband and other lovers for "tips on fucking." The one time I actually put the harness on with the dildo, my husband had to help me. Our lady friend was watching and all three of us were laughing. She was such a good sport and I did get her to cum through the laughter, but all-in-all, it was hard work. We had better fun using the hand-held toys. My husband has always passed on receiving any kind of anal attention, but I've been with 3 other men who enjoy anal attention. I've never tried the strap-on with any of them; I prefer to have them on their backs, cock in their hand, while I use a dildo with them. It's easier to see their expressions, monitor their excitement level, and generally control the speed/depth of the dildo. I love to watch them orgasm this way.
  6. I agree with the various posters who say that alone time with a lover is an individual decision by the couple. That being said, I love time alone with my lovers, male and female. My husband enjoys the same thing with his female lovers. I self-identify more with polyamory than swinging; my husband leans more toward a swinging mentality. We jokingly say we have a foot in each camp. Sometimes we are alone in the house; sometimes the other spouse is in the same house - different room. Each of us is always aware when the other is meeting a lover for one-on-one activity. Of course, we also play together in group situations.
  7. My husband has never finished from oral sex...no matter what woman was involved. I have seen him receive some killer bj's but he finishes inside a woman. The few times I've taken him in my mouth have been when he's pulled out so I can drink him down or rarely, he'll jerk off for me and I'll catch the ending. Most, not all, of my lovers cum from oral sex. I don't worry about it any more. I usually ask them when we first begin a sexual relationship if they cum from bj's. Every man has been able to say yes or no to the question. I still enjoy the pleasure of man's dick in my mouth, but for the ones who don't finish that way, I don't give myself lockjaw from attempting the impossible. I enjoy myself, give them some pleasure, and move on to the next activities.
  8. One of my single girlfriends knows about our open marriage. She has a fun/varied sex life herself and is very open minded. We're friends with her mother as well. One day her mother asked our friend some questions about us: They're kind of kinky aren't they? (I provided mom with some info on cock rings - she asked, I answered) My friend said yes, we were a little kinky. Her mom thought for a few minutes and then asked the next question: Do you think they swap? My friend said she almost spit out her drink while trying not to choke. Thankfully, her phone rang and she was saved from having to answer. When she told me about the conversation, I said I told her I trusted her mother's discretion. She said she doesn't like to lie to her mother, but didn't really want to answer the question. If the subject comes up again, I said to tell her that we'd never propositioned her so she could only guess at our kinkiness. If her mother ever has a little too much to drink and she's alone with us and her daughter, she might get brave enough to ask us directly. We'll tell the truth...because my husband would love to play with her mom (she's a good-looking widow only a couple of years older than my husband.)
  9. Swallowing has always seemed the natural thing to do. I would miss my guys' twitching, quivering, groaning/moaning that occurs after I've swallowed but haven't stopped softly sucking/licking on his swollen head.
  10. Female orgasm all in the genes I don't know whether to be grateful I enjoy multiple orgasms or worried that I might be one of those women who may be more likely to be satisfied with poor quality men. Since I've been married for 30 years to the best man I know, I think I'll go with grateful for good genes and easy orgasms.
  11. My husband and I see others separately as well as share a few partners. The arrangement works for us and our marriage. The one unbending rule we have is that we meet the other's potential partners face-to-face. There are a few reasons why this is our rule: 1) My husband is concerned with my safety and he wants to check out any man who is going to be with me. I want it clear that I am happily married and not looking for a replacement mate. 2) I want to meet any women he is seeing to let them know up front that no cheating is going on and that my husband is available for friendly sex; he's not looking for a second wife. 3) If I am going to meet a woman lover, I want her to meet my husband in case they are attracted to one another. If so, then it makes FMF play an option. We have been fortunate to find one special lady that loves both of us...together, separately, and as a social friend. 4) A couple of the single men I have taken as lovers have proven to be good friends of both of us...good friends are always welcome in our life.
  12. I married my husband at 18; I measured his penis right after the wedding. According to everything I read, he was larger than average, but he always told me he was only average sized. Since I had NO reference for comparison (he was the first naked man I ever saw live as well as the first man I ever touched), I started to believe him. Fast forward a couple of decades and imagine my surprise the first time I saw a second hard dick. Since I had been conditioned to think of my husband as only average, I assumed I met a man with a small dick...lol. After a few more years and a few more partners, I cornered my husband and told him that contrary to his statement, he was NOT average in size and I had mistakenly described other men as small. He just grinned this wicked grin at me. If a man is larger than my husband, he's well-hung.
  13. Actually, the book is on my list to read. An on-line friend who lives a polyamourous life recommended it to me. I need to make time to read it. As far as our marital arrangement goes, we sort of worked out the kinks as we went along. We lived a traditional monogomous marriage for the first 20+ years. We started seriously talking about other partners in 1997, but didn't really take the final step until 2000. One of the things my husband said at the very beginning of this journey was, "A little extra sex isn't going to hurt us." He was right. We both acknowledge that our extra relationships evolve into more than just sex; but extra people to love in our life doesn't diminish or detract from the love/desire we share for each other. I can't imagine a man more suited to be my life's companion than my husband; he feels the same way about me. However, taking other lovers has allowed us to learn/explore our individual sexuality and to grow as human beings. We've always worked at communicating with one another, but the last 5 years have enhanced our closeness to one another and honed our communication skills.
  14. I am bi-sexual. If a woman reads that on my profile and says she's bi-curious and inexperienced, I thank her for her interest and pass. I am adult woman who knows what I want out life. I'm not interested in being someone's teacher or one-time fling. While I had my own first time, I went into the situation anticipating both giving/receiving.
  15. My husband and I have an open marriage where we each select our own lovers. Most of the time we see them individually, but we also enjoy threesomes on occasion...MFM and FMF. Couples are unfamiliar to us for the same reasons listed in one of the posts on this thread. We also want our lovers to be long-term relationships in our life and that includes more than meeting for sex. In our case, when either of us takes a new lover, they have to meet our spouse, no exceptions. If the prospective lover isn't comfortable, then they don't become our lover. If my husband or I get some weird vibe from the person, then we have the right to say no to this particular person. So far, neither one of has exercised the veto right, but it's there and everyone is aware of the possibility.
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