LovelyLynn

I picture it as erotic. I am very sexually adventurous with my husband, but I never really get into porn. I have watched quite a few and find some entertaining but none of them seem like real people. Hehe, try some of the stuff in those movies and you will probably end up in traction for a month:). I personally find that real couples having real sex, no matter if its mild or wild, is a very sensual thing for me. I think that to be there while its happening, watching the intimate connection of another couple, and doing the same with the person I connect with would be much more arousing:)

Thank you everyone for your advice and input. I am glad this is such an open and helpful place for us beginners, it makes it easy to ask questions i might me uncomfortable asking anywhere else. I am glad to see that this is generally viewed as acceptable

Thanks for your response. I guess I could see the point of problems on a swingers trip. What I was thinking of is evening affairs like hanging out with a swinging couple, going to some kind of social, or a swingers club. I personally want a comfortable way to get into swinging, and dont think being on a boat or in any other situation lasting several days would do it for me:) Well hopefully that's more of a feeling by that group on the trip. I hope that not how a lot of swingers feel all the time. What is the general consensus in more short term and/or social settings?

I have a question for the experienced couples on the board. For quite a while I have had the desire to be in a more sexually charged environment while having sex with my husband. Now, I have been hanging around this board and learned a lot about the maturity required to swing and I must say I am impressed by a lot of you. The reason I bring this up is because I would like your opinions. I am wanting to find some couples or groups that are open and mature like yourselves to watch while each couple has sex. I am in my 20's and find that a lot of couples around my age lack maturity when it is called for. Of course for a lot of couples at any age it seems can barely keep their own relationships together. On the other hand it seems that a lot of you put respect and your relationships above all else. Other than the fact that I am not technically a swinger (yet ), I feel you people share more in common with my ideals than most groups of people. I would love to try new things but I'm not near ready for a 4some or swapping. However, I feel that being in and getting comfortable as a couple around swingers would open the door to a lot of new experiences for me. So I was curious how the couples on here would feel about having a non swapping couple around having sex in the same room as them? Does it make a difference to you if there are just 2 couples, more than 2, group sex, or swapping going on in the room? What do you think the best way to go about it would be? Is this something that Swingers in general accept?

Hi,I am new here and am not active in swinging just yet But if I may suggest that Jealousy and Guilt go hand in hand, which is why a lot of people seem to dwell on the Jealousy. If you look at those emotions Guilt usually comes from the feeling that you have done something wrong. Jealousy comes from the fear that either someone else has/may do something wrong, or from the fear of self-inadequacies. Now you said you both feel guilty about swinging, you during and her after. Maybe the best thing for you both to do is to figure out what is causing the Guilt, like what thoughts are going through your heads when you feel guilty, and then bring it out first. If you two can rationalize the basis of and the thoughts that make you feel guilty, it should take care of both problems at the same time