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  1. Mr B here, red faced and all sheepish-like from the kindness shown by folks on this board. Mrs B is sweet in intention to my embarassment sometimes. We read through all the answers together and learned a lot we had not considered before. LM shocked us both the idea of thinking about signs from the other guys behavior and seeing that cool wiggling Vespertine pic proved it further. There were not any signs but better yet was the idea of simply expressing the problem to them. Then all the added twists in responses and very nice flattery, thank you all very much for your opinions. And we thought that Van might have pointed to a good logic. I had a long chat with the other female tonight and think that the sage GreyGo was closest. But it got worse after I explained my problems. Until I did she thought we had a wonderful time and that everything was just great and saw no problems at all until I said there were. Then she got mad, then she got hurt. It did not go entirely too well and was a bit like sticking your willy in a light socket. So on one hand I feel better from hearing all these flattering things said about me but worse for peeing on her parade and hurting her feelings. She said she came and it must not have been noticed and she was right and all I could think was wanting to ask when it was. I didn't and felt cruel for thinking it. Never seen such a passive lack of response but now think that was the pinnacle of passion for her. Thank God for Mrs B who never leaves a doubt. This is just one damned weird situation to be in. Hurting other peoples feelings is not a good thing to do so now I wonder if I should have not said a word to her and feigned pleasure over it all. Mr B.
  2. We have well fallen off what hubby calls 'Mount Newbie' and have now had two full swaps in as many weeks. But in doing so we've confronted a problem we're not sure what to do about. One that is briusing my man unfairly. Both swaps were preceeded by vanilla meets, flirting, touching, etc. And this after exhaustive chats, emails and pic swaps. So all partners had spoken, seen each other, and expressed their attraction. In each case my guy had extensive chats with the other female and there was tangibly mutual attraction between them and he. Or at least they said so, and we believed them. Yet in both swaps the female of the other couple was completely unresponsive. Like staring at the ceiling, not making eye contact, and not showing any postive or negative response to the oral, penetration, etc that was going on. Both would kiss and "make out" with great motivation before and during the play. He says both were decidedly 'wet' and receptive -- but about as boring and inactive as you can get. I know because I watched them. Even when he would shift for deeper penetration in the missionary position, the women would just lie there with eyes closed or staring off into space. Awk! This has left our male somewhat ego damaged. Nothing seemed to work for him. His oral technique got zero response. The women would not barely touch him without being asked, and no postions were changed during sex without him specificially asking the female. I heard him say stuff like "is doggy style ok?" and "would you like to be on top?" At all times the females agreed and appeared happy -- still giving him the impression all was OK and proceeding normally -- at least to them. Unsure what was going on, he stopped for "are you alright?" and "are you sure you are ok?" solicitations more than was needed. During the play he lost his erection once or twice just from sheer lack of interest from them. Each time it only took the female touching him to get the blood flowing again immediately -- but each time he had to specifically ask to be touched. And this happened consistently over 4+ hours of play in each session. To make it almost worse -- after the sessions both women reported back their great satisfaction with the play and indicated interest in meeting again for a re-match!! BOTH said he was a wonderful lover and how pleased and satisfied they were!!! Now he feels like a "lousy lover" (he's NOT!) or that he is unattractive (he's NOT!). Where he would normally climax 3-4 times in a 3-4 hour session, with these two he was challenged to provide just one climax for each. The experiences have left him hesitant about trying again. And although I did not have that good a time in the first session (NO means NO guys!! - not try it again!!) the second session was wonderful for me. Had my first effortless orgasm from oral within the first 30 minutes, and the same pace was kept almost the whole night -- for me. But while that is happening for me, he is struggling to please a non-responsive woman. You name it - he tried it. Being gentler, being rougher, being directive, being passive, taking breaks, tender touches -- the poor guy worked his ass off with an increasing worried and hurt look on his face. When the second one was over and the couple had left, I know I saw tears in his eyes (he says no) at one point. I could tell he was feeling rejected, feeling very unattractive. He is a hell of a sensitive person and confused by it all, and I don't blame him. He deserves better. He was very attracted to each of the women, maybe that made it worse? What gives? Have we just fluked into 2 bad lovers or are we seeing symptoms of "wife manipulation" from our partners? I say that if it happens again all play stops and we hit the door. To me it means that someone is/was simply not being honest. Is that wrong? Most important -- what should we do to ensure this does not happen again next time? He says if we push the issue during negotiations it will sound like he's asking for a "mercy fuck", and that spirals him downward again. His ego is all mush right now -- HOW DO I HELP HIM GET IT BACK? Are we alone in this situation? B
  3. Maybe I am missing something but it seems that only SLS uses that 'certification' feature. We never attached much credibility to it. Problem one is that it only is supposed to attest that another SLS member is 'real' or not. Has nothing to do with indicating their honesty or credibility. Problem two is that since free accounts are permitted on the site there is nothing stopping a nefarious person from simply creating a bogus second account and 'certifying' their main account. It is much like the 'testimonials' on AFF. Most are "I'd really like to meet them and..." meaning they are coming more from wanna-be's than a reflection of reality.
  4. FWIW, I just had a conversation with a "very active" photographer friend this week who has shot 2-3 gangbangs and who has a few friends who've been trying to get one together for years now. The largest success they had was being contacted by over 100 males -- and having 3 show up; and one of them unable to perform. And the failure rate of their other attempts has been about the same. And folks thought getting new swingers to attend their first meet was hard... heh...
  5. We have 2 primary care docs. I made the mistake of alluding to multiple partners and needing 'help'. He launched into a safe-sex diatribe and social judgements. So I went to the other one and just pointed to my crotch, smiled and said "It goes down when it shouldn't". He smiled, glanced at my chart and offered a script for V. Bottom-line is behing completely honest might prove to be a liability, being partially honest was more succcessful for us. No compentant doc would write you a script because you want to try a drug "for fun". But most will not have any problem helping you with a problem you have explained. Just tell him "IT don't stay hard" and he will figure out the rest.
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