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OnHArry

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About OnHArry

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 10/04/1952

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    divorced single
  • Location
    Ontario
  • Interests
    Food, wine, conversation, and fun.
  • Swinging Experience
    A long time

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    Eros (Mississauga)
  1. HI got together a few times back in the day, ie before my separation and subsequent divorce so Now I am one of those dreaded single males but was wondering what if anything you are up to theses days.

     

    Are you still in Vienna at any rate have a good day and take care.

     

    I was half id Cindy and James

  2. First time here in a long time but your experience is much like mine, with me and a friend showing our stuff to each other and then playing with them. I don't recall that he sucked me but I did eventually suck him. We continued to show off to each other until he moved. Got into girls after and still prefer them but have thought about oral with a guy forever.
  3. My first time here for some time but I would add that for me personally I had no issue with my SO having sex with another guy, hell I loved it. Oddly enough the thing that really affected me was her kissing him. I know that may sound weird but for me and my SO the kissing was the most erotic thing, by the time we got around to swinging the whole sex thing was mainly anti-climatic.
  4. Hi all. One thing I have noticed in the last year or so is that there are more ads, at least in my area, of males who say they are either bi or bi curious. When this topic started in 2005 I do not think I ever saw an ad saying the male was anything but straight. Maybe attitudes are changing and more bi guys are owning up to it.
  5. Happy Birthday

  6. Like the mix's we have done the open marriage thing and have pretty much stopped. Basically the other guy, became a pain in the ass, and also started treating the wife like a doormat, which doubtless explains why he had row or three previous wives and a number of failed relationships. I am glad it worked out good for you, and the only thing I would suggest you do differently should you do something else, is that hubby meets the guy first, in person, does not have to be a threesome but it does help reassure him, and it also reinforces to the other guy that you are married and a couple and he is the other guy. The other guy in our life could not function if I was in the same house, let alone do a threesome, which we have also done. Good for you guys and enjoy whatever it is that floats your boat. I find it odd that some if us swingers who already fly under the radar would be so adamant that you should follow their rules. Having said that however you really should try so called conventional swinging as well, it can be real fun. Would love to share a bottle or two with you guys anytime.
  7. Jeeez I feel so inadequate. I first had sex at the tender age of 22, out and working. I read a lot as a teen, still do, and I had the theory down pat was just a bit short on the practical application. Mrs Harry had sex in high school.
  8. I am guessing here, but I would be willing to venture that the reason you know he is Bi is that you may have seen an E mail or viewed a site or chat room he did not close. Assuming that; It is quite possible he has never actually done anything other than cyber sex. There are a lot of married guys, singles to I suspect, who talk about their fantasies on line, it is a great outlet, but would never actually meet a guy for sex. I also suspect the reason you don't want to be totally open about knowing is you don't want him to think you are eavesdropping on his private chats. Remember it might just be a fantasy he is entertaining. In any event I think the best answer came from Beardedknight, and you should talk to him if you saw it accidentally say so, if he is only indulging in a fantasy he will doubtless feel very uncomfortable discussing it. Bottom line, talk and stop hinting, be honest, be open but tell him all you know and what you suspect, sitting on it won't solve anything, and as others mentioned communication is so important.
  9. We prefer whenever possible to meet others at house parties, more relaxed than clubs and usually friendlier people in general. Second to that would be SLS followed by dinner drinks and let's see what happens.
  10. Actually Shelly I am much like your hubby, there are very very few women who I would turn away, I see beauty in mnay that others doubtless would not. The truth is in this geographic area, unless you are close to a certain clique' then you are an outsider. Most of the couples we know only swing together, and in fact many around here do just that. I wonder if maybe there is ahigher proportio of a**holes around here that basically spoils it for others. As I mentioned in a previous post we as acouple were burned by a couple of guys who totally misrepresented themselves. The only stipulation I make in the ad is that we and I will not consider knowingly a cheating spouse, maybe that puts people off I don't know. At any rate I will continmue my search for not so much Mrs. Right but rather Mrs. okay. In this context by the way the friend with benefits is a person she meets has dinner with, and followed by sex. She stays overnight when I am on weird shifts and always with my full knowledge and consent. She sees only this guy not a host of guys. Looked at your ad Shelly you look like a fun couple.
  11. We started as swingers but as someone else said above due to a couple of bad experiences she wants to limit her contacts, and I have no issue with that. The guy she sees, i.e. her FWB had to be vetted first, and once we were both comfortable, with him then it proceeded, she meets him on occasion and has her fun etc. It is so true though she could find another guy in probably less than a week, or even weekend, whereas I will take much longer if at all. I guess cuckold was a bad choice of words, rather I would say I am resigned to the situation and the mathematical reality of it. My wife does not insist on it but I doubt she would want to break it off either, and I have no problem with it anyway so that point is moot. I will keep looking at SLS who knows maybe someone will turn up.
  12. I agre with that and my wife has helped and will meet with anyone who wants verification, but most don't even bother answering. I mean I can't blame them my wife and I met our fair share of idiots and they almost always seemed good at first, until you foind out their wives were unaware of hubby's extracuricular activities.
  13. I am in the same situation as the above two gentlemen, my wife has a friend with benefits, and I am seeking the same. I state whenever I contact any couple that seems amenable that my wife uis available to meet them if that is an issue, guess now many favourable reponses I have received, lees than one. I state up front what the situation is, I never pester they say no, (assuming they answer that is) then that is it, I thank them for responding and move on. It is tough and frankly I wonder if it is worth the effort, I guess I shall just have to be a cuckold then. I am in the same general geographical area as Swyngtyme and can attest that in this market we are a tough sell.
  14. Swyngtyme, I know how you feel. I am in Southern Ontario as well and a married guy playing alone is a real tough sell. My wife and I use to swing but she had a couple of bad experiences last fall, and now plays with one guy and one guy only, with whom she has a high level of comfort, excepting me of course. So I figure hey I know what the couples are thinking when they read ads, and so full disclosure is in order. HAH One couple who said that they actually do swing with singles no problem, responded to me with, "contact us when your wife wants couples again." I suspect however like you suprmised they have probably swung with allegedly single guys who were cheaters, I know my wife and I did and figured it out after the fact. I have tried dating sites and SLS, there is little out there that will even consider us. My wife has volunteered to meet with other couples to put their minds at rest and no takers. I don't have the answer but if it comes up I will let you know. Just like in high school the assholes got the girls and the honest genuine guys do without. Sorry for the rant but this is very frustrating.
  15. I can really sympathise with you Knottiboi, my wife had two bad experiences, in a month and she won't do anything now except one boyfriend she has. I of course am left out in the cold, (poor me) but seriously, the first time you said no should have been more than adequate, I would never dream of forcing myself on someone who did not want me, for whatever reason. You were right no one deserves to be treated that way and as one poster observed, well several actually, these guys were obviously not swingers, but seemed to assume that because they were at a swinger party that any woman they wanted would fall down at their feet and spread her legs, NOT. I hope you do cope and go on to have more fun, but I also know from my wife's experience it really weighs you down. Take care and have fun.
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