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    Northern MN

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  1. Lori, all I can do is report on what we have seen and talked to others about. It Is my understanding that a poly relationship is one very like marriage, where all parties involved are committed to each other, both on the physical and mental level's. Now a twist to this is the swinging poly, they would have to be committed on the emotional and mental stage but as with all swingers the physical sexual stage is open. As I said before we do allow poly's to attend our parties, but they are treated as a couple would be and we watch for posers with a mmf thing.
  2. Well as club owners we have had to decide is Poly groups are or are not swingers? Here are my thoughts on this, Yes they are swingers, at our Parties we allow them but with a few rules as to their conduct. If they are a ffm couple they are treated as a couple and a single female however they must arrive and leave together. If they are a mmf they are treated as a couple and must act that way. Yes i know that this is a double standard but that is the way that the people who atened our parties want it we don't allow single males at all, by request of the guests and members.
  3. We also search for that elusive couple that we can spend time with in and out of the bedroom. But instead of looking at as a frustration we try and enjoy the search, the flirting and sexual tension. yes we do end up with one night stands, which we take as a learning experience. We do have friends that we have played with many times but by no means are exclusive to us. Finding two people that are sexual matches is harder than finding a needle in a hay stack. So take your time and enjoy the search and have fun
  4. Well, we didn't really decide to swing, it just kinda happened one night. We were playing cards with friends, one thing led to another and we ended up playing strip poker, (still our favorite game) after we had played for awhile things got hot and we ended up having sex with our spouses in the same room as our friends. We sat up talking with them for hours, then after they left we spent the rest of the night having sex. The next day we talked about what had happened and we decided to try and do it again, we haven't stopped yet although we have taken it much further.
  5. I have been staying out of this, even though it drives me to distraction. The reason being is that we own a club and we try to keep neutral about most things. The first rule of swinging, what I like to call the first commandment is No Means No!!!! You have broken this rule before you even stepped out the door. Your wife says NO! and you discount her decision. Now that I have said that I will go into the second worst part of what you are doing. You say that there is less chance of problems with a married man playing single, think about the worst case scenario. Your wife finds out what you are doing and sues for divorce. She calls the innocent couple as witnesses to show what an "asshole" you are, now they have been outed. Not only to a few people, but knowing how the media is, to your whole city and in a permanent record to boot. As was said before, swinging and (what you are doing) cheating are two completely different things. Swinging is sharing your sexual life with others,in a consenting manner. Then going home "with" (not to) your significant other. Cheating on the other hand is running around lying and doing things behind her back. Even before we started swinging we both felt very strongly about cheating. We said that it was the only real reason to split up a marriage. Go home, work on your marriage. Increase your sex life at home and leave the swinging to truly single men and committed couples.
  6. I have to agree, that's why we decided to start our own Off-premise club, we really enjoy meeting new people. The low pressure of the club socials is a great place to do just that, meet people get to know them a little. As a matter of fact we had met a couple for lunch one day last summer, things really didn't go well (not bad just not well). We decided that we weren't going to pursue a sexual relationship with them. Then we met them at a party/social and things were completely different. We got to know them in a different atmosphere, and now we are planning on getting together as soon as our schedules permit.
  7. You are very right in how a single male should be turned down, if they are polite, :p so should be the turn down. The same applies to married people, I have seen many marrieds that are pushy and rude as well as not being able to understand the word NO!!!! . So a note to all, to treat others in all situations the way you would like to be treated.
  8. I have to agree once again with Alura. We don't at all feel elitist when we turn down single males, its just that we don't care to play in that situation. I know that this might be a double standard once again, but if we ever get the chance to play with a single female we will if we are both attracted to her.
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