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About northindycpl

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    Lifestyle Mentor
  • Birthday May 8

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Widowed
  • Location
    Indiana
  • Interests
    Homemaking, gardening, shopping and sex!
  • Occupation
    Domestic Goddess
  • Swinging Experience
    Long enough to do it right!
  • Anniversary
    July 23

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  • SLS Name
    northindycpl
  • SwingerZoneCentral Username
    NorthIndyChick
  • Kasidie Username
    NorthIndyChick
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Champagne Club

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  1. What an interesting question... One I have been thinking if a lot myself. When Mr. Indy was alive we were swingers- full-on living in the 'lifestyle' with our friends and parties and trips and had a great time. He passed away and I became single As a single chick... I can go sport fuck whatever guy I want but often there are strings- dates, feelings, not playing with multiple people, etc. and I really missed my friends and just the freedom of the life style - clubs, trips, parties, etc. I decided to reconnect with a few married couple friends and make new friends. It a lot different now as a single bi-girl in the ls but I feel comfortable and at home. I think being a swinger or not - married or single- is all about your mindset. It's the way in which you play with others that defines it.
  2. I think I might just pass on both I could turn out the lights and feel the perfect body against me and forget the face...that's probably what I'd pick. Although I am a sucker for a handsome man, so I suppose I could put him under the covers and slide on top too focus on his face so that's probably what I'd pick... Hahaha
  3. I really don't care where a man cums as long as he cums. It does seem to be a huge turn on for the men I play with lately. If I am with a playmate, they are wearing a condom and I don't have many pull out and request it from me, but I do see them cum on their wives faces a lot during play. My close man friend has said he wanted to several times and I'm ok with it but we get distracted and it hasn't happened. Unless I'm giving him a blow job only, I prefer he cum inside... It just seems like it completes sex. Mr. Indy never did it.
  4. Good thread! Man, I missed it around here - Couples that treat me like a possession and get upset, even jealous, if I have a vanilla date or want to do something other than them or try and pry into my life or personal business. - Couples that try to compete with each other at socials/events for my attention - Couples that just send me gallery requests for my private pics and nothing more - Couples that don't care if I get pleased...or wives that won't let husbands have sex with me. - Couples that wife is not bi and not interested - Couples that are wasteful of my time, breaking dates, calling/texting all hours, etc. - Couples that share their drama with me or try to involve me in their lives more than the sex and fun - Couples that get made because I swing sometimes with a male partner and I could swing with them couple to couple. Now... Personally, I prefer a couple pay for the room, dinner, etc... because I think it's respectful because I am their date And the number one reason I am going out with them is to play so it is not obligation it's a pre-arranged, understood outcome. I've traveled with couples, too and they paid... And when I was married, Mr.Indy and I always paid for our singles without exception, male or female. It just seems like the right thing to do. Frankly, at this point in my life, I couldn't afford to travel or go and do the things I do with the couples I see if I had to pay for it all. Now... That being said, I also go out of my way to be thoughtful with the couples I truly enjoy. I am an excellent baker and baked up a storm for Christmas, I pick up nice little treats along the way, I have entertained at my house and pool with dinner for free for them when I could.
  5. That's awesome! I wanna steal it and make it my profile picture EVERYWHERE!! Seriously. Oh... And clean the jizzy white stuff off your mirror before snapping the photo, too... Icky!
  6. Oh, I'm enjoying the ride. I've always been a good rider at any age Listen y'all... This is really the first man I could see building a relationship with since Mr.Indy and I am scared of messing up and probably of getting hurt, too. Marriage is sooooo much easier than dating! It seems so counterintuitive to date this way... But our communication seems solid, so maybe I need to have more faith. I would love to hear any rule ideas or opinions, though... Please
  7. After 18 years of marriage and 10 years in the Lifestyle my husband passed away. After a few years since I've started dating (yikes) in the vertical world and its been awful. I've missed my lifestyle friends and parties and clubs and outfits and all things that are just sexy and fun and regular dating men don't get it. I placed an ad on SLS for couples and low and behold a man contacted me (shocked, right?) who was a widower and seemingly needing a friend like I was. After a month of talking almost daily about everything- and I mean everything- he came down and met me for a a very long weekend. It was awesome. It was a great first weekend. And yes we had sex... A lot of really great first time get-to-know you sex. We've continued talking to each other multiple times a day, sometimes for hours about everything and anything. We text and send pictures and good mornings and good nights. On New Years Eve at midnight I was playing with a couple couples and he called me! He called me at midnight in the way a boyfriend calls a girlfriend. He came down this past weekend and we spent it together and the sex was magical. We went to our first club together (his first in his life) and we were in total rhythm- completely on the same page- the whole night, including playtime. And it was amazing. I know he and I are both at the point (almost 5 years) where we are ready to look at having a relationship and we've talked about it briefly and talked about it in general. Do any of you think you can meet, fall in love, and have a relationship in the Lifestyle? What are the pitfalls and what are the benefits? I really want some opinions
  8. We don't attend a lot of socials around here, as there are good on-premise clubs, but from the ones that I have seen, they don't charge a membership fee at all, only a door fee, as they are basicially a group of people getting together at a rented location. (like hotel or bar) Which seems reasonable to me. Out of curiosity, what does a membership fee entitle you to?
  9. Don't we all! It would be so easy to be able to look up challenges in a book!
  10. Ditto! I was also raised in a fairly strict Catholic environment, going to catholic schools, attending mass, etc. I have also been trying to seek out other spiritual associations- without much luck. (I would recommend reading the Four Agreements, however) It isn't so much as that I have been indoctrinated, I don't think, it is that mass feels like home to me. Moreso then any other religious church service I have attended. (Methodist, Baptist, Christian, Jewish) Maybe it is the rituals, or something, but mass is a place that I feel UNjudged. In my particular case I do believe that swinging is a sin. I don't believe it is a mortal sin, and I do confess my swinging activities, and I do get absolution from the sin. I repeat the sin, however. Which is another sin, I think. Being Catholic may not be the best, but it is the best I have, and I do get something out of it- always. Isn't that the point after all?
  11. Intuition, What I truly believe, after I have had the honor to know you for the past year or so on the board, is that you are a GOOD Mother. For whatever your reasons, which don't have to be justified to anyone, is that you love and protect and care for, your children to the best of your ability, with the information you have at that moment. Hindsight is always 20/20.... And that is just part of being a mother.
  12. We look for couples between 35 and 45. We have met couples 45-50, and if the right couple was met, we might play. We don't base it too much on age, though. we just meet the people we like regardless.
  13. The spoon dance seems to be really popular and a good ice breaker. Several women are given a wooden spoon to hold and everyone is invited to the dance floor to start dancing. When the music stops, the women with spoons has to find a new partner to dance with and cut-in giving the other woman a spoon, and then the new woman has to find a new partner to dance with. It is a really good ice breaker... the only issue at our club is that before too long all the women love to dance together and all the men end up sitting down. OH well... it is fun!
  14. Go to Nashville and Have great time. $55 for an off-premise(kind of) social seems higher to us then most. Does it include a discount on a room or anything? At least around here, on-premise, with dinner served is around $50 per couple for a saturday night, and about a $25 membership fee.
  15. Shoot... I think this is just part of meeting people- swingers or not. I meet lots of people in and out of the lifestyle that have a difficult time carrying on conversations. I understanding having moments where you are shy and don't want to talk. But I do get irritated always being the extrovert and always asking the questions. Years ago I moderated a Toastmasters group... Which was a huge learning experience in speaking to the public and meeting new people, although for work. It seems to me that if you are going to learn attributes about swinging so that you can improve in areas that you are challenged- such as taking dance classes- then one could in other areas, like conversation and etiquette, too. Just my $.02.
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