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About WildMainePussy

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    couple
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    Florida
  • Interests
    classical music, books, dogs
  • Occupation
    glass artist

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    WildMainePussy
  1. My partner really doesn't know how to kiss properly - apparently never developed a technique to it and is rather clumsy. We 'smooch' as you would in public -- a quick touching of lips and that's about it. It's very rare there's anything further. Once I made mention of it, he got very defensive so we just don't beyond what we do. So when my favorite guy comes, you can be sure he and I kiss...and alot. Also I include his fingertips and palms in the deal to show appreciation for what he does for me. If my partner is bothered by it, he could improve by not trying to cover and suck my both my lips into his mouth or jam his tongue into mine hard. Now below is the best way to approach this situation. Perhaps you should experiment with slow lingering light kisses at first around her neck and face working your way to her lips. That way you can gauge her reaction and get her mind (and body) ready for more intense kissing. But also be sure mouth hygiene is tended to. There's nothing like an overdose of onion or just plain bad breath when clean teeth and a mouth rinse will cure that. Then there's the light tongue and withdraw routine...just as a teaser and don't forget to follow the line of her lips with the tip of your tongue in a circle. Oh boy...I bet there are some fancy moves that others would recommend to get her attention focused back to kissing you. I'd be concerned that you're missing out on some nice pleasure from kissing and would gently ask why when she's in a good receptive mood.
  2. The few meet n greets we've attended really sock it to the single guy at the door --- one place had the nuts to put out the word NO SINGLE MEN will be admitted. It was single ladies and couples only and that was $20 a pop for 'membership' and $20 for the entrance fee. So how can a single guy get out there to meet couples who might want a MFM without paying $50 plus for a 3 hour party? If the clubs want to limit single guys, do it by head count...first 20 in the door only.
  3. Yup....and already one fella has me flicking my BIC. Last time my head was grabbed and shoved around while giving him oral and he was too ready to cum. Short (like 2 inch) strokes sporadically weren't long enough or steady enough for me to even begin to focus on enjoying feeling anything and it was over very quickly. He noted I didn't cum. But not wanting to hurt his feelings (or show I was annoyed) I said everyone's entitled to an off night now and then. We do refuse single guys as we prefer couples more but this fellow we've known for about 3 years. Nice guy to talk with, we've become very comfortable with him but the last two times...it's been a bit off. What's that rule...three strikes and you're outta the game? It is so hard to find a single guy that my partner will go along with. He has to be fairly intelligent, not a sports nut (we don't do NASCAR or footie) but does like more of the cultural arts -- music, theater, books etc. That way there's something to talk about over dinner!!
  4. Just checked mine and it says...8,174 times. But then I know one of our playmates likes to look at the photos.
  5. Oh I know what you are going through. My s/o and I discussed for a bit bringing a friend (who I knew was more than very willing) into a MFM situation. My friend's main concern was my s/o keep his hands away from the action--he didn't need any assistance. It took a big leap of faith to suggest and work it out that the three of us get together finally. My s/o still has jealousy issues now and then if we get a heads-up more than 5 days in advance he'll be over on this coast (every two weeks). So far I haven't had any inclination to look further for another playmate since we're nearly exclusive with him. So your guy might have gotten a case of cold feet realizing that your hubby will be right there beside you. That is an unusual situation out there in the 'real world' because most guys have a possession or control issue regarding their wives. I'd suggest a coffee or drink in a neutral place just to clear the air with him - intro all the way 'round to show your hubby isn't about to get into fisticuffs. Of course there's the situation we ran into... it was such a novel thing having my s/o present, he had a bout of e.d. that lasted three visits and thankfully now has evaporated! Your fellow might have talked himself into a performance anxiety situation also.....and decided a 'no-show' may have been better than being embarassed.
  6. I know sometimes my partner has the uncanny ability to make remarks that distract my playmates. Of course that leads to a 'malfunction' now and then . Separate play would be heaven but in a MFM situation that's really not practical is it??? Need to find another lady to keep him busy! I have been talking to a couple who do prefer separate room but we've never been apart. I've been considering inviting this couple and another to set up a scenario where it will have to happen as there's no way six are fitting on the bed. Someone will have to pair off....a practical way to ease into it - and give the one fellow a FMF experience and his playmate a MFM for her if everyone agrees.
  7. YOU certainly deserve someone who does care about you more than his pecker. So sorry you had to find out by stumbling on stuff in the computer - but he is probably on more than just one swing site and may be using several names and email accounts to hide behind as well. Sounds like you've decided to grab the suitcase and leave the rubbish behind. Too bad you can't hear me applauding but I am. It's fine to be in agreement once a stable relationship is established that a little bit of swing will make life interesting provided it's all above board and it's done TOGETHER. The bond between two committed people (who have the understanding that if one ain't happy, it ain't happenin') has to be strong one to even consider inviting others or jumping into their beds. I have a standing agreement with my partner....we hunt together and he's content he wouldn't have to sneak around then. As far as suggestions on moving out while he's away...hum "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover" by Garfunkel...I did. I left the key on the kitchen table after the moving van was packed, change of address cards handed to the postie and headed to Florida for a couple of weeks to get my head straight. Take only what you need, it's a great way to unclutter your life at the same time. Enjoy the freedom!
  8. We had a party the other weekend - dinner with vanilla friends but one of them showed up without his wife (she was in TN as he was here to check the FL house for the weekend) wearing a t-shirt saying: FRIEND (with benefits) So either he's broadcasting to us about something or he is just being smart. If his wife knew what the shirt meant, I'm sure she'd burn it - perhaps with him in it. For what I know of her, she gets 'spoken to' when there's not enough action in the bedroom and can't see her EVER considering swing (Mid-westerner..sleeps with the bible over her head). I sure as heck wouldn't wear it in public unless there was a match that said something along the lines of "he's with me" with a very satisfied smiley.
  9. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to indicate a short session with 'slambang' but rather soft swap couples don't want penetration at all by other. Agreed, a well paced slambang can be very very good! Especially when the guy can recover with a little TLC to enjoy another slower round.
  10. Perhaps soft isn't as well favored as full because it requires time and learning how to pleasure your partner? It's not just a case of getting it on immediately...it's extended foreplay with other options of how to orgasm other than the slambang method. I can see some people resisting as usually the cuddling and intimacy it generates is reserved for each other. We heard of a couple who claimed 'soft' but when the husband left the room for a smoke, the wife threw all that to the wind and went for the gusto. Of course when he came back in, he flipped out as she was definitely not doing anything soft and called an immediate end to the session. I think sometimes people's definition of soft involves too many explanations of what to do and can't do to be worth the hassle. Now to do a 'soft' night as a variation with regular full swap friends might make a nice change.
  11. Hmmmmm....got a point there. Where's the husband and his thoughts? Is he aware of the situation that's developed? Wouldn't he wonder why the sudden drop if you have been playing on a consistant basis with them? What's his take on the phone calls or do they take place when he's out of town.
  12. Don't forget to have the phone company block that particular phone number from getting through to your home. If the history of long phone calls is as long as you say, she might not just give up and go away that easily. Calls to the work place are usually discouraged by management so it won't be that easy to reach him there. I put up with 2-3 hour phone calls my ex-hubby got from a woman he was obsessed with for 2 years while I was trying to work on saving our marriage. The phone company at that time wasn't so sophisicated then and there was nothing I could do. I completely understand the seething rage you feel on that one. Don't let it overcome you.
  13. Once they got married, that was it...only after a couple of times before hand. Yes, what goes on at home is truly unknown as we only hear his side most of the time. But he says she was really hot for him until just after they married but had lived together for a couple of years already so personality quirks would have been known.
  14. When my s.o and I got into swing a couple of months ago, he did get Viagra. Guess what....he's the fifth guy of out 5 ...Viagra is touted that it works with 4 out of 5 men. So even reading the PDR stuff on it and increasing the dosage...no dice. He blames it on the fact that his ex-wife put a curse on it after she tripped him up to admitting cheating on her several years prior to their divorce- it didn't work after that major blowup-talk about guilt complex. Humorous yes, but even after 9 years with him...still no Eiffel Tower in this bed. I had hoped the pill would work. So now I'm trying to get him to visit a doctor for a possible physical reason but he's dragging his feet. So until then, I will suggest he try another brand. There are some new names here I've not heard of. Where's his PDR now?
  15. We've known the couple in question for almost 9 years...before and after they were married. He's spoken to her 3 times in the last 2 years regarding this unfortunate situation. My s.o. is a retired doctor so he's spoken with us regarding the surgery angle. I suggested recently he start cutting off her excuses, if her back hurts, haul her ass to their doctor for a check up. He did and there is nothing wrong with her back. The doctor who did the surgery says she's healed nicely..there's another excuse out the door. When he does speak to her regarding how she's treating him, things go fine for about 4-6 weeks and then it's same old/same old. How would you like to be in bed, starting to try to stimulate your partner and have her get up to use the bathroom and then leave the room instead of coming back? Her first marriage ended because she got bored....the second because the husband was abusive. Now she's working on #3. He's trying to keep things together for them, he's very considerate of her to the point he still opens car doors for her but he's running out of rope in the romance department.
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