I think this definitely is the case. I have had a similar experience to that. My wife and I had some mild playing with another couple and it never went any farther, even though three of us wanted too when we finally discussed it again...My wife just wasnt intrested. Which is fine, because as I have said before my marriage is more important to me than anything that could/could not happen in the bedroom. I feel that there are alot of "Hopefulls" that once they realize their spouse dosnt feel the same as they do, jump from the site. I have enjoyed the site and still like living "vicariously" through others. For now that is fine with me, slightly frustrating but fine....