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pballer

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About pballer

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Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Tulsa
  • Interests
    Photography, video for him. Art of all sorts for her.
  • Swinging Experience
    4 years
  • Anniversary
    8/04/78

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    pballers
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Tulsa Boom Boom Room
  1. Maybe I'm not Bi. Maybe I'm bi-curious. Maybe I'm really a straight guy that wonders what it's like to have a dick in my mouth. I'm not really sure. I'll just wait and see. I'll respond to everyone that contacts me and find out when the time comes. I guess I just don't understand why the attitude toward Bi men is as it is. Maybe I'll change my heading in my profile. Fortunately my desires don't change with the profile.
  2. This sort of thing happened to my wife and I, and a swinger friend. She never wanted sex during her period. Ever. Any kind, even giving oral to me. We can play apart, and we are both OK with it. I was out of town one weekend while she was menstruating. After I got off work I called her on the phone. No answer. I tried several times over an hour or so. No answer. I got worried, but waited for her to get my messages. When she did call she apologized and said she didn't hear the phone ring. She had it turned down because she was giving this man head, and it lasted almost an hour. Then they say and talked for a few more. I was livid. She never does that with me during that time of the month, why would she with him? She explained that her FWBs are like boyfriends to her. They are special. She treats them like they are dating and everything is new to her with them. We've been married 35 years, and as much as we love each other, it's just different with them. That was a lesson I had to learn. So I learned it. She may do stuff with other guys that she won't do with you. And you may find yourself doing things with your friends that you don't normally do with her. But isn't that why we swing? To enhance, add to, and to improve our sex lives? There was/is nothing wrong with our sex, but swinging does enhance it tremendously. Let it. And just to add, if you are sharing a room/cabin/whatever with another couple, isn't it normal to expect sex to happen at any given time? Between any given partner? I know it is for us.
  3. I’m jumping in as sort of a newbie to swinging, but a study of the mind and philosophy (of sorts. I am not a 'doctor' of anything). There is definitely a conflict within you, and that conflict seems to be also in how you are feeling and where you are feeling it. If your ‘internal urges’ is not your mind? If not, what is it? Your body and physical reactions are all a part of the operations of your mind. If your mind was into it, your body would follow. While you may be consciously accepting what is going on, sub-consciously you are not. Something deep is stopping you no matter how hard you try to accept it. My wife had this problem. She just couldn’t let go and enjoy what was happening. She liked it, but always had this little reservation area of her mind that made her not able to let loose. We quit the LS for a while because of it. Then she became re-acquainted with a friend from the past. She always liked this guy and they were actually lovers before we met. They hit it off again and I assured her that being with him again was Ok for me. They did, and ever since she has been a house of fire. Every once in a while she balks, especially if it involves first meetings with other people. Once she gets to know someone, she loosens up. I think it’s mostly a trust issue combined with years of religious indoctrination. Take this for what it’s worth to you. Maybe you need to slow down and get to know the other couple better first. Establish a trust factor with them. Slow way down. Above all remember this: you ARE your brain, mind, intellect and thoughts. You HAVE a vagina, but you are not one. Don’t let your vagina do your thinking for you. That is what the brain is for. Slow down, enjoy yourself, take it easy. You, and your husband, will be glad you did.
  4. I don't have to act on my desires. I'm not always in a bi mood. We've had several 3-ways and swaps and nothing has ever been done that way. But now, after a shot hiatus and a lot of talking, the topic has come up and we are ready. I'm not a top, or bottom, and that doesn't really even interest me right now. But my wife has always enjoyed sucking cock, and she makes it look so good I just want to try it. But not with someone that doesn't want it. We'll still play without it, but are really looking forward to it.
  5. OK, I’m not really ‘Bi’, but I am curious and it says so in my profile. I even go so far as to explain that it’s situational, and I am really wanting to see what it’s like to handle, fondle, and suck another guy in front of my wife. She wants to see it too. We are looking for someone to experience that with. It may turn out that I hate it, and will never do it again. I doubt it though. It’s far too intriguing to me to be a one time thing. But every single person that has contacted us has labeled himself ‘straight’. Some even say ‘very straight’. Then why are you contacting me/us? If you’re curious, at least say so in the e-mail. Does this happen to everyone? Or just me/us?
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