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  1. This is an all-day kind of topic. Its something I'm deeply into discussing in another forum I am apart of. I'm openly bisexual with several of my close friends here at school. I'm lucky in that I am still at college, and hence you can be freer to do as you please. Not that there are not those who frown on about everything I do in the bedroom, just that if you encounter them, there is always a circle of people that accept you. I don't feel the need to be totally open with everybody at all times. There are people that know everything in detail, all generally, some, little, or nothing about my sexuality. I consider myself bisexual, in that I am confortable sexually with men or women. That isn't uncommon in the lifestyle. I have been comfotable with dating and relationships with either men or women however, not just in a situationally sexual kind of way. In that I think I differ from some women in the lifestyle. I personally am single, as far as the lifestyle goes, which is rare in itself as a female. I also have not sought a relationship with a man since not long after starting into the lifestyle. Now I'm in a cycle of debating a lot of issues related to this. The problem is I think this all leads back to labels. How can to describe something as free-flowing and open ended as sexuality as we express it, with straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual labels? I'm not sure there is any one label, we all have to define how we are and call it what we may. What terms we use will vary from person to person I guess. I consider my being in the lifestyle to be something apart from my interests in relationships, emotional and othewise. I really enjoy it. But its not something I tell anybody according to a set procedure. Somebody told me life wasn't simple.
  2. There is something about the entire idea that is like what first got me into this. The exhibitionist part of me likes it. The idea of sex with a new partner always turns me on, which makes it cool. The taboo nature of it is a plus. Being “commanded” to go someplace and do something with somebody, that is kinky thought. I don’t know who’d pimp me out though!
  3. The man I was involved with had suggested a FMF and I countered with being willing to do it if he’d accommodate a MFM. We were deadlocked on doing anything until I broke the ice as a bisexual. He suggested meeting up with a couple, I agreed. It turned more into a swap, followed by his hiding in a corner while the couple and I went FMF FFM MFF. We went our own ways after that, and the couple invited me to return. By way of them, I got involved with swinging. All told, we were talking about it for a year before things got moving.
  4. There are times when I'm not going to cum. I like sex, not just the cumming, but the sex itself and there are times, now and then, when a guy is just going to keep going until he thinks you have. Its easier to facilitate things ending a bit sooner than let them get dull and pointless. I've done it the other way and had a guy unhappy that I seemed to lose my energy or focus.
  5. Faked? Yeah, I have done that. How many have exaggerated an orgasm? Now that is an interesting number!
  6. Hmmm, well I can’t really think of anything more interesting to do while watching TV, or reading a book. So if you can find a guy that can go a few hours, I’ll just have to keep an open mind and see what its like!
  7. It was a turn on for me in both ways, I was more nervous about being with the wife than the husband at first. I honestly don't think much about age differences anymore. Mostly my age is younger than anybody I'm around, so everybody is older.
  8. I was 20, he was 52, she was 47. The guy I was with that first time was 31. No complaints here, it was some of the best sex I've had. Certainly the most memorable, it got me into the lifestyle!
  9. Being on the single side of things, I've done it a good deal, and only once with a couple who had kids who were also in the house. However that was long after the kids were tucked into bed and we were securely in their basement.
  10. Devils advocate here, but if you have a threesome, where the husband isn't supposed to touch the other woman, what is the difference if the husband is there, or is out at a bar while you are doing it? I'll be honest the issue strikes close to home as its something I'm wondering about. I consider myself bisexual, but I am rather certain I wouldn't want to go without relations with one gender for another. I'm not in a relationship right now, not sure when or if I will. And I'm not really taking sides, just trying to ponder the issue. But I'm curious what one is to do. If I'm in a relationship with one person, but have the "need" for sex with the other gender, and my partner understands and agrees with that, do they have to also be invited to play along? Is having an "open" relationship the key? Is it all in how we establish things up front?
  11. Both of us were 16, in the basement of a friends house. Not sure I'd do anything different, it was an over-researched night of figuring things out.
  12. Is it possible to both want to go to nudist camps and such because you like being free of cloths, and also because you want your body to be seen? Does the latter violate the non-sexual intent of the environment? It’s like being a life study for an art class. Strictly speaking the artists aren’t supposed to look at the model as a sexual object. And having been in three classes where nude models were used, I can attest that you really don’t think of them in sexual terms. However I can’t not notice that a model has nice or uniquely shaped breasts, or find some interest in how her hips or pelvis are shaped. Its not a sexually arousing thing, but it is simply interesting. But on the other side, every year the school paper does an article on the models, and they all say the same thing: It is not sexual, but I love doing it. But I know from friends and experience that there is that enjoyment at being nude in front of people, being seen, having people look at your body. It is, in some kind of way, a sexual thing. At least it is an affirming, confidence building thing, you feel good about your body and its features. In that I think of it as being sexual, at least in some tiny way. Is it wrong to want to see other people naked, and be seen naked, even if it isn’t directly a sexual kick, but maybe akin to it?
  13. Its not the age it is the experience and maturity I like about older lovers. Always has been. The older men seem to have more control over themselves, their pace, and just how to make things go. Much the same with older women. But then its not an absolute, I've been with a guy in his late 40s that acts like he is trying to be some wild 20 year old, and its a bit silly sometimes. I've been with a couple of women that seem like they are trying to act in a porno movie than get into the act we are engaged in. I have noticed the younger of the crowd I'm with, the early 30s mid 30s range, are more prone to work as a group, hold a leg up, move into three and fivesomes, try the multiple partner at the same time positions. Not certain why. Might just be whom I'm with.
  14. I'm with Brad/Janet, this is the one that got me wanting a threesome with a second man. It took nearly a year after I was in my first threesome with a second woman before I was able to arrange it with the group I swing with. I've done it three times, none recent. The first was more experiment than pefection. The last two, it was a split in positions. It was interesting and fun enough, but more in a "we did it, cool" way, not anything I had some raging orgasim from.
  15. I'm in bbcpl4cpl's former place. I'm younger, I'm getting quantity, but being on my own in a group, it tends to head that way. Hooking up with couples for private encounters, and some of the more restrained evenings, the quality gets higher marks from me. But sometimes, I go for the quantity.
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