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happy_single_bi

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About happy_single_bi

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  • Relationship Status
    Single bi female
  • Location
    Pennsylvania
  • Interests
    working out, dancing , hiking, flirting
  • Occupation
    proffesional making a good living

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  • SLS Name
    happy_single_bi
  1. Now that is good to know...If you read my introduction you will see I am new to this. It is nice to know the lifestyle clubs are better policed than the real world bars. There is hope...I still like the pride idea...I am a big plan b type....always prepared with backup plans.
  2. Dear Elusivebifem, I don't know about Tina but I get unwelcome and unsolicited action every day. I can walk through the airport and ( for some reason especially when my hair is colored auburn) have men say things like - "You know what would look good on you?" There seems to be an assumption that I am there to get some and I am desperate. It gets progressively more blatant toward the end of the night. (And I am talking about regular clubs as I have not been to a swing club single) Could be the increased alcohol content as the night goes on ... Drinking allot tends to bring out the asshole frat boy in some men. I know my ex always said NO is the first syllable in negotiation....he must have clones. Either way it would be nice to have someone else to watch your back, just in case. It would allow us to RELAX a little and not always be on alert posture. It is the advantage that being in a couple represents. The same as in scuba diving with a buddy, If you’re not on the boat and the end of the dive...they will notice and send people to look for you. I think the ideal would be finding a friend (girl) in the lifestyle who has completely opposite likes in playmates , in order to avoid competition ... If more women would watch out for and give each other a hand ...OOOh that sounds kinky…lmao.... the clubs would be filled with us and we would probably loose are "precious few " status. Hmmm ... I am getting used to the idea of being thought of as 'precious" maybe Tina and I should be the only pride of lioness’s. How many should be in our pride? GRRRLLLSS night out would have a whole new meaning...I am beginning to visualize this. Any other single fems out there think it is a good idea? How do you go about finding partners Elusiv if not by going to clubs?
  3. You are right that I do have the type of personality that I could go on my own. But that is more of business persona that I have to maintain Monday thru Friday. On the weekends I want to be free to be woman, soft, passionate, and 100% woman. Going on my own doesn't allow me that freedom OK my turn...I am very much the same (as Tina)...but my reason for not wanting to go to the local club on my own is two fold... One: I have been there as part of a couple. I do not wish my ex to loose face or deal with the inevitable ‘who’s friends are they’ routine. Two: Going to a club (any club) alone is like going for a run... I don't run without my dog. It is just not safe. I learned along time ago if you want to end up being the central park jogger you go out alone. I have had to do more than peel off octopi. I have had to get a purple belt and put at least one person on the ground with a dislocated knee cap. And just for good measure Three: Since when do girls ever go to the bathroom by themselves let alone to a swing club? To me the obvious answer to our dilemma would be that she and I hook up and go to the club together as “hunting lionesses" I am sure we would be successful in stalking and taking down our prey... What do you say Tina? Want to hang with a good looking older white woman?
  4. I now have antibodies for several things that most won't, including Anthrax, Small Pox, and a few other various diseases. Since I've been "exposed" to versions of those bugs, is that something I should be concerned with during play time? No unless you are into bestiality... (Anthrax and cows right ) Sorry couldn't resist the cow joke... it is a slow day at the office Actually you should be counting your lucky stars that your immunity out ranks the average civilian. Happy
  5. isn't that called a MMMF ? foursome or moresome....I don't think I am quite ready for that...YET...
  6. WOW...NOW that is good advice...thank you... I have been corresponding with one gentleman in the lifestyle, who I really like as a friend ( he is sort of me with balls or I am him with breasts ...whatever... I will take your advise and go for a test drive He has the same story with a different name. Sort of like __________ (insert name here). I admit I like men... I am bi fun not as my main preference but because women sure do know how to kiss! (I love kissing) I suspect this will be like putting together any team for business... it is going to take time and some research into people's specialties.... but what fun research!
  7. I had an ex who was into bi-sexual strippers with herpes... Imagine that! Thank goodness I wasn’t sleeping with him in the end! In fear for my life, I have been tested every month for the past 10 years( the waiting period for the AIDS virus to show up)... waiting ... hoping and thank goodness...I am negative, for everything. I plan to run tests for aids, herpes and gonorrhea... every time I expect to play. I will show up with my “play papers”. I am going to insist on the same. I may be way off here but I have been lied to enough in one lifetime...I am not interested in taking any...and I mean ...any... unnecessary chances. Even with a clean bill of health I will insist on condoms. I want fun not a continuing ongoing battle with a persistent incurable disease. As for lying to get a piece… that is a statement that really concerns me. I am forewarned. Thanks. Sorry but it does make a difference especially if you are lucky enough to really be D and D.
  8. hey tina...I read your posts also... nice to see a kindred spirit. Yes, it is what I tried when I did give this a go with an ex and I loved it! He had a bit of a problem with it though. Thank you for the heads up.
  9. First, I will tell you that as a new single female swinger, I have been inundated with responses ...even without a picture on the profile...which I did not expect. Couples don’t seem to care what I look like…as long as I am breathing…and I find that suspect. I wouldn’t buy a car sight unseen just because it is a Mercedes, it could be a rusted out wreck! That is just not good business acumen. So I find the correlation very disturbing…albeit in my favor. Question 1: Why do you do that? Why would couples want to meet someone they haven’t seen a picture of? Also, many of the couples who have contacted me seem to be rather possessive in nature. They are interested in me becoming..."their"...single-bi female. Is the desire for exclusivity that common or am I just dealing with wading through the backwater? Question 2: How can I do that? I mean...I am interested in a MMF...how does a single female accomplish that? My concern is ending up in a circumstance wherein I loose control of the situation in a very unsavory manner. I would like to have fun and not be used…this is the area in my opinion where couples do have the advantage. The woman knows her mate will look out for her. I do not have that luxury. It is a bit of a quandary … but I am sure the advice here will be eye opening and interesting at the least.
  10. Hey... I am also a single female in the lifestyle and ...I hear you! The mail issue ( even before I had pics up and when I have a ...taking time to sort mail note up) and the buffet comment hit home... as the does the difficulty in finding a couple that doesn't want to ...well...own me... The whole point of this for me it to have no commitment... I am finding the couples that contact me are expecting me to be exclusive. Is that happening to you also? I am a tad worried about going to a club alone only because of walking to the car when I leave... I wish they had escorts. Do they? Always, Happy
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