Jump to content

ALilOEverything

Registered
  • Content Count

    2,003
  • Joined

  • Last visited

  • Days Won

    13

ALilOEverything last won the day on August 11 2017

ALilOEverything had the most liked content!

Community Reputation

900 Excellent

About ALilOEverything

  • Rank
    A Little Of Everything
  • Birthday 09/28/1974

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    M. Female
  • Location
    Michigan

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    aliloeverything

Recent Profile Visitors

The recent visitors block is disabled and is not being shown to other users.

  1. When I first joined the swingersboard in 2004 I was 29 years old. I may contradict myself but I recall using 40 or 45 as our upper limit. I felt it easier to connect with those in my age group. Now that I'm 45 my target age is probably more like 25 to 60. What I've learned is the numbers are definitely never a hard rule. It's more a tool to narrow the field and help zero in on that great experience. You have to start somewhere though to find that compatibility and age is just as good as anything else as a place to start.
  2. We have given them to each other in the past (handful of times each) but haven't bothered asking each other in months. It sounded like fun in the beginning but one on one just wasn't as much fun or what we were really looking for. We didn't have any significant problems arise from it, maybe just a little initial anxiety. What's helpful is that we are on the same page. Both of us felt the same way that isn't wasn't as much fun without having each other there. I'm glad to have experienced it though and know it really isn't anything to get excited about.
  3. We've run into people we know several times. The most recent is a woman who works in the same office and now we've become best friends. We're avoiding crossing into a sexual relationship because we really value this type of special friendship.
  4. Much of that has fallen by the wayside for us too. What we go on is if we're really feeling it and not riddled with potential drama then it's a go.
  5. Photos with kids in the background should never be approved. Honestly I don't mind the photos of drool, trash and clutter everywhere. It becomes a great tool to eliminate couples.
  6. I have a handful on my Facebook. It depends on what type of people they are. They have to truly be what I consider GOOD people. By that I mean positive attitude, good parents, trustworthy and someone I enjoying integrating into other aspects of my vanilla life.
  7. I've done DP several times, both with MFM and with MFMF but it's still more the exception than the rule.
  8. This- Though I've never done it, I have a lot of fantasies of picking up a guy at a bar with my husband there (never picked up one without my husband either). I envision making eye contact, heavy flirting and then a leading question of "what you do think about threesomes?" I doubt I ever will do it though. I'm not a very bold person in the vanilla world and I would see the third guy as a completely vanilla person. I have good friends who do this all the time with mixed results. Often the guy can't perform but they say they've had enough good experiences doing this it makes it worth it for them.
  9. We had a mfm on a cruise ship without looking for it, it was great! The sexual tension built up over a few days and we decided one night to take the plunge and invite him to our cabin. We also were approached by a couple "are you on sls?" and I told them we knew what it was but we weren't on there (we signed up a few months later). We weren't interested in the couple sexually but hung out with them for a lot of the cruise which made it the most fun week I've ever had.
  10. Just a week later, today we get hit up by a new couple to the area. This time it's my husband's co-worker, and I'd be VERY interested. Darnit! Boundaries, gotta remember those boundaries.
  11. I'm bisexual and I'm just as selective when it comes to men or women. All the other terms I could probably identify with depending on different people and how attractive I am to him/her. Why I use bisexual because with the right woman I'm full on, just as much with the right man, I'm full on. No matter what, it still takes the right person. I haven't looked up all the other definitions of all the other terms, I prefer to keep it basic and not overthink it too much.
  12. I decided this year I'm going to do the traditional Naughty Nurse and be the nurse I've always wanted to be and not the nurse I have to be Okay, not really because in real life I don't want my patients hitting on me but you get the picture. My husband found this lab coat that says "Dr Shots" and it has several syringes attached in loops for shots of liquor. He's going to wear scrubs under it and I think it's amusing for him to get excited to wear something I can hardly bare to wear these days.
  13. This evening I was having a conversation with a co-worker who's worked at the same organization for awhile but moved into my department a few months ago. She's quite young and engaging and somehow we got to talking about sex which led to her saying "I've even had threesomes" and I merely said that's no big deal, everyone tries it once. She went on to say "we even signed up on on a swinger website!" and of course I had to ask which one which was sls. I had always wondered who's profile that was!
  14. I've had many times I couldn't tell a man came, it's not always obvious. You need to trust your wife, it could be hurtful to her if you don't. If you can't trust her than you have a bigger problem and need to back up and figure out why and fix it.
  15. We've added single men to our list of potential playmates a few months ago and it's amazing how much more traffic we get from men than we ever did couples. We entertain like this once every month or two so it takes a little work to narrow down that one perfect gentlemen. I've had a lot of frustration with taking time to write them all back because it takes time I don't want to spend on someone who probably spent less time on his profile than I spend on my response. Because of that I thought I would start a thread on what it would take for a single guy to move to the top of the list of single guys if they are truly compatible with the couple. This is what helps a single guy move up the list of potential singles for us: 1) Private pics (if public ones not available) with high quality face and body pics (clothed is fine) opened immediately with the introduction email. I won't bother to ask for them later and it's a complete deal breaker if I can't see them up front, I just don't want to spend that kind of time. 2) A well written profile which discusses qualities about himself which could include: whether he's intro/extroverted, enjoys taking the lead or likes to let the couple to lead the way, if he's willing to travel, if he can host, what he enjoys in an mfm, interests such as sports. Know that these types of things are deal breakers but allows the couple to feel like they are getting to know you and if you're the type of person they would want to add in their bed. 3) If a guy is going to mention his endowment it be spelled out like "plenty of what the ladies like" vs actual inches and going on and on about how it's giant and she's just going to love it. Honestly I would prefer it to not be mentioned at all because I assume each guy has one and I don't really care about it in any detail at all. But it's not going to bump him off the top of the list if he's not bragging. 4) The profile should be full of positives and minus any negative attitude. 5) A well written introduction message that indicates he read our profile, what he likes about it and how he thinks we're compatible. 6) If he strikes our fancy we'll usually write back and give the same type of email on what we like about his profile and request a phone number for further contact. Any guy who says he can't give one because he's been stalked by crazy swinger women in the past will then be rejected. It's important to have a talk on the phone because we can get the rest of what we need to make a determination in a few minutes of phone conversation than we ever would have over days of endless email and chat 7) Availability is very important. Time is limited so flexibility is key. If he isn't very flexible we'll probably keep the phone number of the most flexible compatible gentlemen on the list. 8) Don't over do it trying to be what you think the couple wants you to be. Be exactly who you are because a genuine person can be the most attractive person of all. This isn't just about success in getting laid, it's about success in having a good experience for both you and the couple. 9) Take rejection gracefully because couples sometimes do change their mind in what they are looking for as they gain more experience. I think what I'm getting at is you (single men) have to make it EASY. If a couple has to spend time waiting for photos and waiting to find out your interest it's just not going to happen. We will have already received three more messages from other singles while we've waited for you to respond. We may miss out on a perfectly good single this way but we don't want to make it any more complicated than we need to. Put your best foot forward and remember your profile, photos and attitude are your absolute best way to get ahead in the game.
×
×
  • Create New...