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About inbeachcouple

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  • Birthday 01/01/1974

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  1. We've decided that it takes much more effort for a poseur to post pics than to just open up a profile. Yes it's doable, but if you read the info on them (on SLS for example) you can really narrow it down to who is much more legitimate than others. Also, a big part of being in the lifestyle for us is physical appearance (although it's by no means the only part), and pics are a help. Good_Times for example; AWESOME PIC !!! It really helps give others an idea of who you are.
  2. The wife Tivo'ed it. I'm no Dr. Phil fan, although I admire his style alot of the times. The problem I had was that he didn't back anything up with facts. He also would divert attention away with jokes when he knew he had no out. The whole " I'm afraid I'd catch something" line when asked if he'd ever been to a lifestyle convention, for example. Also, if you really pay attention, you can see how the whole thing is edited down. Show me the ENTIRE UNEDITED segment and I can almost guarentee you he looks like a fool. Even the Mrs., who is a Phil phan agrees that he is being way too closed minded to make an 'educated' (as he so likes to put it) decision.
  3. Parents? Co-workers? BAH !!!! By far the last person you'd want to run into would be a grandparent. Awwww, can't even believe I let the image into my head. Okay, time to go throw up........(GP's are in thier 90's) I know, like Julie said, they are there for the same reason, but the last thing I want/need to see is mine/wife's grandparents half naked, or being explicitly sexual.
  4. We can't make excuses for them, obviously, but, we're still figuring out the whole 'how do you back out without hurting anyone' phase. Could be, for whatever reason, they just took the easy road and disappeared. Yes, it is rude but, they could feel it's more polite than 'we're not interested....'. As wrong/rude as that may seem, they could feel that it is their best way out. Could be that they are just rude people or post notchers too.
  5. I think its safe to say that all of us have made 'mistakes' along the way, some more severe than others. It seems like most people have added 'don't do this....' responses, but I'll add a 'good job at....' Even though both of you have screwed up (doesn't matter who screwed up more than the other), you have gotten past your issues, and communicated what the problems were/are. Yes, you need to do a better job in setting up your guidelines for what is good and what isn't. I don't think it would be a reach for either of you to stop all action if you see or do something you don't like. As uncomfortable as it may be at the moment, it could really save you alot of headaches down the road. Keep reading up on how other people deal with situations and find what's best for you two. You two seem to have a good basis for communication going (based on what you've said so far). That's one of the most important things you can do in this lifestyle (even if you're only experimenting).
  6. I think the bottom line pretty much is that she isn't respectful of your choices and the way you go about things. You're probably better off finding another couple. The fact that she sends him private e-mails would be a problem with us. We have a joint e-mail account that ALL swinging info goes through. Even though one of us can get messages and delete them, it's more the principle of it all.
  7. Actually on his website https://www.drphil.com/ it is scheduled for Tues., Feb. 15
  8. The universal "Huh, I said WHAT !!!!???? Aw Man, I have no idea where that came from" would probably work since it was a holiday where people who don't get tanked usually do.
  9. Spoomonkey must be a couple carpenders cause they always hit the nail on the head. Best of luck with the 3-some thing. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it since just about all of us are into/looking for one too. It opens up whole other jar of problems and dilemmas. As for the couples swinging thing, I'd really recomend trying the club route out if you decide to try it again. Like someone said earlier, you have the opportunity to go from couple to couple quickly if things don't click. Your best bet would be to go on the night of a 'big' party (Halloween, New Years, etc...) since the club will most likely be crowded, giving you obviously more options and better odds. Most people who meet outside of clubs tend to want to meet once or twice before hooking up it seems. We've only met people inside clubs, so thats more of an observation than anything. The best rule to follow, no matter what you are looking for, is NO EXPECTATIONS. Keep us updated on your quest.
  10. I went with Peter and Lois. No doubt. It isn't really a couple, but Carl from "Aqua Teen Hunger Force" (Sunday nights on Adult Swim (cartoon network, for those that don't know) is definitely down.
  11. We started out when we were in our mid 20's. Now we're old and grey at 30.
  12. After we had our first experience (which was in a club), we each had to get a large 'S' branded on our foreheads. We have heard the whole dolphin/apple thing before. I know with braclettes, anklettes you have to be careful because the S&M folks use that too. I don't remember which hand, ankle, etc.. so that's why I say be careful
  13. I kinda look at it as a balancing scale. On one side you have looks, and the other is personality. Someone that looks good but kant carrie awn a con-ver-sation and ain't be too gooder a thinker is a turnoff, but an intelligent, articulate, down to earth with a sense of humor type, that looks like she lives in the roots of an ugly tree isn't gonna do it either. Other than balancing it out, I think there's A LOT in the eyes. Some people just have this spark in their eyes, that , well, ........ gotta go for a bit....
  14. We were soft swap ONLY when we were in our 20's. We're both 30 now, and have moved up to full swapping with select people. We felt for us to go MFM, or even the big FMF, it would take away half the fun if they were 'soft' 3-somes.
  15. Assuming everything goes good; eventually nothing. In all seriousness, I figure if she takes the time to get all primped up, the least I can do is the same. A shirt with a collar, and khakis or better. As far as underneath, it depends on my mood, sometimes silk boxers, sometimes commando (nothing). I'm not down with the thong or g-string. Just my personal tastes though.
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