butterfly29

I have watched at clubs, and I have been watched at clubs. I think if you want to watch some, that is fine, but it is not acceptable to go to these clubs just to watch. That is not why sincere couples go to this club. If they want to just watch, they could just buy a porn. I feel if you are not there to participate or trying to met other couples, you don't need to be there. It can be a spectator sport sometimes, but every once in awhile you do have to throw in your ball. I can understand about being shy, but if your intentions are not to participate, you shouldn't take advantage of others'.

We currently soft swap at this time... We haven't crossed over yet. We have been playing with other couples for about a year. What made any of you comfortable enough to full swap? What do you feel you had to come to terms with before you swapped, or did you just wake up one day and yell "SWITCH"?

Our vote here is yes.. My husband didn't even have to think about it.. (ha,ha)

I think that there are more single guys trying to get into the lifestyle that are not as honest. At the club we frequent, there is a gentleman that had a female companion for many years, and she moved away. He is still welcome at this club. However, he has not behaved as appropriately as one should.....