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2play04

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About 2play04

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 02/12/1976

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    So. Metro, MN
  • Interests
    Swinging, hot tubs, wine tasting and bad sci-fi

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    Revelry
  1. De and Ci, You are correct, we are pretty much in agreement on this! I myself love getting to know the variety of preferences out there... This has been an educational thread for me! Happy weekend! Mrs. 2play
  2. Why? This makes me sad because it's a dishonest act. It's the appearance of being 'Bi' to attract attention. It's a ploy to draw eyes. It's about surface perception and manipulation of said perception. If a woman is only dancing/caressing/getting dirty with me because she wants more attention from all the men in the room, where in this situation is she spending time with me because she likes, well, ME? It’s akin to ‘taking one for the team’, many people here have stated that they don’t WANT people to take one for the team for them. They can tell when someone really doesn’t want to be there…and you know how it makes them feel? Bad. Rejected. (And yes, it can make a person feel sad). However, please don’t take this the wrong way. Being Socially ‘Bi’ is great! I have no problem with women who have fun and get a little close to other women for the fun of it, because they are in the party mood! I think it’s great to free inhibitions and have a good time…and if a woman just likes dancing with other women because it’s fun but isn’t really into women it’s all good! You don’t HAVE to be attracted to me to have fun dancing with me – you just have to have fun dancing with me! However…if your ONLY reason is to attract attention from men…then don’t dance with me (or at least don’t TELL me that you’re only dancing with me to get male attention gosh darn it!). Pick someone else. Mrs. 2play
  3. In my humble opinion, they are not 'Bi'. 'Bi-comfortable' is maybe a better way to express it...with that title I know they are probably only willing to do certain things. And, after all, one cannot remain 'Bi-Curious' forever (Or can one - I probably need to update my profile!) However, I feel that I am biased and as always, I could be mistaken. I've met a few women who have caused me some disillusionment in this regards. Women have asked me to dance not because they want to dance with a pretty woman they are attracted to but merely...as way to get attention from all the men in the room...two hot women dancing dirty together apparently draws the eye. The few times I've learned this, It has made me sad. Also, in conversation when people learn that I have gone down on women, some have admitted attitudes similar to mindset the OP has faced. This attitude is hard to deal with as a woman seriously exploring her 'bi' side. It's a rejection...you want someone to pay attention to you because they like YOU not because you are a pull for men... Can one really be 'bi'...sexually attracted to women in some way....if the only focus is attracting men? I don't state this as fact, but question, as this feels a bit harsh...and the world is not black and white. *shrug* On the other hand, I like that they are willing to explore their sexuality to some degree and support anyone, male or female, in such searchings. Mrs. 2play
  4. Surprise, the women most men are looking at are probably the same women I'm looking at. A fit body in tight clothing is always fun to watch! However, these women are not necessarily the women I'm interested in sexually. From my personal experience I've been surprised at which women I've actually been physically attracted to. Sure, I find it easier to feel attracted to women who are around my age, who are around my weight...pretty women with sweet eyes and soft skin are hard to resist...but the majority of my attraction is all about that connection, baby. The funny thing in this is that I am much, much more open minded about weight and general appearance of women I could be interested in sexually than in men (for a variety of reasons). It's a complex issue and one I am slowly working on. Mrs. 2play
  5. I agree, this was a man to avoid. He's not really part of a couple as he has no seeming respect for his partner. Where's the unity? He wants to swing with you by enticing you with what he calls a 'freak' because he doesn't care enough about her to be jealous and violent. Grreeaattt.... He sure sounds like an open-minded and fun person to be with, no rage or 'women are people too' issues to work out for him! Also...with his attitude towards his current woman, just what does he REALLY think about the married woman he's hoping to be with? This attitude makes me wish I could 'zap' people through instant messenger. (Which I wouldn't do because I'm a peaceful person...but it's a tempting thought).
  6. Thank you for sharing your story. That is something I hadn't even considered...expectations developing like that seem such a sticky situation. I don't know how I would handle that. Edited: I babbled a bit and am not sure what I was trying to say so have decided to delete it. Apologies for the confusion. Mrs. 2play
  7. We're pretty new to swinging and not taking single men/married cheating men/married 'permission granted' men at all. At this point in time it would leave my husband out in the cold. We joined this lifestyle together, and unfortunately a man in your situation cannot offer him anything. (as he is not bi) Maybe as we grow and learn in this lifestyle we will feel comfortable with swinging with singles. However, in your situation and in the situation of married men who *are* cheating...there is also another reason why we would not consider a sexual situation. It's all tied together with a gut feeling I get when faced with stories like your own. Though your wife knows, though this is 'open' I-feel-uneasy about the situation. I put myself in the shoes of the spouse who is at home and I find myself feeling bad. I can only imagine sitting home alone frustrated and worried. Even though she is choosing this...I can only see this being a slightly unpleasant to a very unpleasant situation for her. How can it feel good to be left out of something like this, even though it is her choice? (I am *not* speaking of couples in which both members swing, and occasionally choose to without the other - I would assume in those cases they are sharing their fun exploits with each other in an open fashion. They are also both equally expanding and exploring sexually...it is not an unbalanced equation as a married man/wife always at home seems.) Also, as has been touched above...do you know how many cheating and lying married men are out there? Yes, it is true for *you* that your wife knows, but it's so hard to *know this as a fact* when meeting people online... Mere words do not assure when others are giving the same while lying through their teeth. Basically, if we do start swinging with single units, I will choose actual single men. There's the added bonus that they probably aren't getting any at home and it's a way for me to spread the love.
  8. We are on three sites, but are looking to find our favorite. How do you know you like something until you give it a shot? (We just joined SLS and like it so far!) Mrs. 2play
  9. My husband is the keeper of the calendar, he also owns a watch and seems to know how that relates to the world at large. My watches, when I owned them, usually were a decorative thing only. Thus, he does most of the planning, scheduling and arranging...therefore he does most of the talking. On the other hand, get me on a computer...
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