Wow! I'm amazed at the response my question received. I posted before on another site and never received a response. Thank you all very much for providing your time and insight. I really appreciate it.
Apart from the scolding that RICNDI provided, everyone has great advice and I will take it all to heart. RICNDI has a point to, but I think it belongs is an AOL chat room and not here.
Well, I wouldn't have posted if we weren't experiencing some sort of discord over this. It has long bothered me and we got into an argument (before I posted) when I asked her if she would ever consider going to a swing club, just to check it out (for the sake of discussion, it was her that brought up the topic by saying how her friend from work had a blind date and he took her to a swing club). When she said "no" to the club I asked why, curious to understand what bothers her. That's when the argument started.
We talked last night for the first time in two days and she still can't talk without being rotten. She now says that that part of me disgusts her and she's embarrassed of me wanting to talk about it and explore our feelings. So, it seems as if our problem is primarily communication and not swinging.
I know she has fantasies(black men, women) and I've made it clear that it doesn't threaten me and I'm willing to explore things with her. However, she seems content to keep that part of her secret, at least for now.
I would never leave her over something like not wanting to swing, but I will leave her when she can't talk about things with me. I believe in my right to explore who I am sexually, with or without her.
Those of you who are happy with swinging, thank your mates for their love and understanding.