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SadieSuhan

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  1. I'm curious. What was it that she said to make him think she was "cheating"? This also makes me wonder what it is she's said to lead him to believe you're clueless to the whole thing. If she has said you're sitting there at times and he doesn't believe her, my thought is that it's from something she's said in the past. As you've said, he's the innocent one here and should not be blamed for his thoughts and feelings. But if thoughts and feelings are to come into play (and they should), then honesty MUST play a factor. Have you been seen on cam during regular chats? When she says you're there and in fact you are, do you show your face and let him know you're part of things at that moment? I know it may be difficult because what seems to be a good online friendship for your wife may be lost, but total honesty is the way to go (in my opinion). If she lets him know the situation, that you've known all along and this is a fantasy, he may be receptive to it. He's already aware that she's had thoughts of threesomes. He said he's not into it, and I'll assume he's aware this will only ever be an online thing. With that in mind it may be easy for him to play into your fantasy as he has unknowingly all along. Who knows! Being the "backdoor man" may be a turn on for him and things can continue with everyone's fantasies being satisfied! Good luck and great sex!
  2. It was at his suggestion both times. Yes, we talked about it during sex, but we also talked outside of the bedroom. He was the one who always brought it up. It was never anything I had ever considered. Just never crossed my mind. After the first time, we talked and he was OK with things. The other guy is a good friend and it didn't seem to harm their friendship. And yes, all three of us talked about the experience together. Months later he suggested it again and after I was sure he was fine with it I agreed. But days later he said he felt pressured. Again, we talked and now (weeks later) he's fine. This has not harmed our marriage. Our friendship with the other guy is still the same as it always was. Nothing has changed. I'm glad for that. But I don't think we'll have anything more than a friendship with anyone after this. I came here to see how others have dealt with feelings. It's a very helpful place! This weekend we'll be surfing through it together. Thanks for the welcome and support!
  3. He was all for it before it happened the first time. But the morning after he had feelings of inadequacy. We talked and he said he felt like I liked sex better with the other guy. He said it was nothing I did or didn't do, it was just how he felt. I reassured him that sex with him was still ultimately is what I want. So, months later we tried it again with the same guy. This time he felt pressured (he says) and could not enjoy himself. But he says he still wants to include the other guy (same guy all times). He says since he's the only one I can put into my comfort zone it makes it easier. I would really like to continue this, but not if it makes him uncomfortable. He's said he wants to do things with me because I enjoy them. But if he's not happy then I'm not happy. I'm hoping I can get him to come to the message boards here. It may help him to better express his feelings. I'm not alone in my first time/second time experience, am I?
  4. My husband and I have involved a third (the same third) twice now. He has mixed emotions after the fact though. I came here to see how others deal with feelings.
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