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twinkletoes

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About twinkletoes

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    Louisiana
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    golf, theatre, music
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    professional
  1. We too have only thus far played with single men, and for the last several months (well, since spring now that I think about it!) have been talking about and moving toward playing with a couple. (yup, nothing like REALLY talking and exploring and making sure we are ready for it!) We have met single men with the express purpose of playing with them; made friends with them and then invited them to join us. And oh boy -- we sure have had to weed through the cheaters and fakers and married men. But have been lucky in finding some really great single guys - the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel I guess. R (the female half)
  2. Having and being able to speak/post our own opinions is what makes this message board a great forum for learning from others. I appreciate that you have your views (and others share them) and I think you appreciate that we have ours (and others share them). There's no mean-spiritdness; just a bunch of free people expressing what we think and believe from ALL sides of the situation. There have been people evaluating their marriage vows in the context of a swinging lifestyle as long as there have been people IN the lifestyle. We all take our own personal journeys to get to the understanding of what it means to us within the context of our relationships. And I think that is the key point on which you and people of your thinking differ from us (R&D) and people of our thinking. We believe that it is the element of truthfulness, honesty and exploring TOGETHER that makes it positive. For as we committed ourselves to each other (with vows) we committed to this aspect of our lives together. It is NOT Not one of us doing what we want to due to the other's lack of interest, desire, etc. I suppose what makes me "sad" more than "mad" about people who feel the need to swing without their partner's consent or participation is that I feel sorry for the one who's left in the dark (in this case your wife). You are hurting her, whether she is aware of it or not... and I fear that one day it will all come out and REALLY hurt her. And as I wouldn't want to be on the end of the "hurting" part of things, there is no way that I could ever participate or assist someone in contributing to that hurt.
  3. I think our Mr. B4real69 has decided that he is NOT going to re-enter the discussion...
  4. If you are married, then so is your wife, and we wonder why she has no "say" in the matter of a swinging lifestyle?? If she is not swinging WITH you, then YOU are not "swinging" either -- you are cheating. As for your comment that you "just need that little extra excitement once in a while", well... it reminds me of what my mother used to tell me (and, a quote that lives on in our family as the phrase as been uttered to our daughter) - "life is often unfair; you can't always have everything you want." We have, thus far, only done MFM -- but will never ever ever consider a married man; we are not cheating and don't believe in condoning someone else's cheating behavior. It takes a little more time to find the true single men to play with, as we have to hack our way through the proverbial jungle of "swinging" married men - but we have found single men who we enjoy bringing into our relationship for our play time.
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