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Miss_Piggy last won the day on December 8 2011

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About Miss_Piggy

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    mildly abnormal
  • Birthday 10/16/1981

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  • Relationship Status
    I'm with Kermit
  • Location
    Sometimes Canada
  • Occupation
    Thinking the deep thoughts
  • Swinging Experience
    Since around Jan. '04

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  1. Hopefully the line, "pussy is pussy and cock is cock" was taken from a longer, more complete answer... otherwise, I completely agree with above posters. Red flag.
  2. Sound like a pretty creative euphemism. Married partner-free swinger.
  3. I agree with approaching the husband. How solid is the proof? Sounds like there's a lot of gossiping going on. The wife has a right to know. Part of me would want to just run away from all of it out of fear of all the drama. People cheating. Other people whispering about it all. But another part of me says the couple needs to have their crap revealed to them so that they (at the very least) will extract themselves from swinging and avoid spreading their drama to unsuspecting playmates.
  4. Maybe the jealousy will never pass and you'll never get that permission. I think you protect your relationship by accepting that possibility completely. If you're operating as though you are on a path with this goal that must eventually be reached then (in my humble opinion) you're putting a devestatingly large stress on your relationship. Protect your relationship by exploring this lifestyle as much as is fun for you and respecting each other's boundaries with gentle compassion and without heavy expectations.
  5. obviously, this is my own experience and the only way for you to know your wife's feelings is to ask her directly. My interest over the years has gone up and down many times. Typically, when I've been disinterested it's due to other things going on putting added stress on me. I mean things like major international moves and job changes, having children, that sort of thing. Big things happen and my interest drops completely. Life calms down and I'm back in the prowl.
  6. Did K order chicken? Who knows? How secretive are you? Do you have an online ad? Maybe you guys give off some sort of "vibe"?
  7. When it comes to how you feel, there's no real overreaction. You feel how you feel. You have done nothing wrong in your actions nor in your feelings. And I'd guess that the vast majority of women would feel similarlly angry, violated, shocked, confused. This man's behaviour is entirely unacceptable.
  8. To the OP, maybe you could ask your partner to ask you questions to get a sense of how much she would like to know. Then she can be sort of "in control" of how much information she gets. Although, it does seem like it would be a bit of a red flag if you recounted something and she got upset about it. Could she just at that point say nicely, "oh, I don't really need to hear those sorts of details but thanks to sharing." I'd say it's probably best to err on the side of toon much sharing and wait until you're told that that was too much.
  9. You don't mention much about how you feel about the man. Are you attracted to him? Maybe he's attracted to you but sensing that you're not attracted to him and thus he's getting awkward when he's actually around you. Still sounds more complicated than I would be comfortable with and I would agree that you should keep looking for a solid four way match, but I'm just thinking that he's probably not acting this way because he thinks your ugly. Maybe he's worried that he's the ugly one.
  10. Or maybe it's your friend who is the swinger—accusing the chicken lady in order to open a dialogue with you. Probably not, but it would be a clever maneuver. Regardless, I'm going to start showing off pictures of chickens on my phone just to see what sort of effect it has on my sex life
  11. Wow, Sandra! That truly is a weird story and Alex's response is just perfect. A line worth memorising! To the original question, I don't think it's a big deal that you took a few years off. You just go at your own pace and do what seems right for you. I think that if your wife is the one who gently has a foot resting on the brake pedal she needs to be the one to lift that foot. The best way to keep her feeling like she's not being pressured is not to pressure her. Just listen to her and let her take the lead.
  12. Welcome back. I too am back after a long hiatus. When I logged in today, it told me that my last activity was 2011.
  13. This is such an important point. I think that often when we say that swinging couples must have strong relationships, it can sound like problems with swinging equal a weak couple. That's just not necessarily true. We had a rough time with jealousy at one point and it had nothing to do with weakness in our relationship and everything to do with my own personal self esteem. I wasn't feeling hot and I wasn't able to handle it. Through all of that, our relationship was as secure as ever. We still loved each other, talked about everything... What had to happen was this: I had to work on my self esteem. For me, that meant getting more exercise, eating well, dressing well, learning to believe the wonderful things K was saying about me, setting reasonable goals and accomplishing them, and all those other things that you do to feel good about yourself. Keep letting your husband know how much you love him and keep putting him first. He needs to rebuild his self confidence and he needs to know how committed you are to him. Good luck.
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