Beach4me

Thank you, it is off balance and I need to figure out why I have these issues with letting him have the same fun that I do.

Fwb is not really a threat. Hubby is fine with him. I just need to figure out why I can't let go and let my hubby have the same opportunity to try to have a decent fwb too.

We both like playing & hubby doesn't mind my fwb at all. He's happy that I have a comfortable/trusting fwb. He too would love what I have, but I'm not very good at letting him try to get there.

We started in the LS to find a threesome. We decided to try swinging but typically he finds a woman he likes but I'm not attracted to the man in the couple. We then tried an open relationship since swinging doesn't really work. I found my fwb guy and hubby let me try him out to see if I enjoyed being with another man. I do with him, but I'm not comfortable with anyone else I've met in the LS. My fwb is a very good friend first and I like that. I need to be attracted to a guy... I cannot just do someone for the sake of trying someone new. I have had the same fwb guy now for 2 yrs. I still have no desire to sleep with any other man. Hubby has met other single women and there's always drama with them. They want to text/sext daily and want more of a relationship. We'll try events and parties and I usually tell him not to play with those that bed-hop or try everyone out. I'm very selective, he is not. He would prefer a more fair situation since I have my fwb, but I'm realizing that I'm pretty uncomfortable with a lot. I just can't seem to let him enjoy. I do like going to parties, I like to flirt, I love to play with women. Hubby lets me have fun. I have a perfect fwb relationship but yet he continues to try new ppl out. Not sure if he'd ever find his perfect fwb situation but until he does, I somehow need to tolerate this. I don't want to give up my Fwb... we do have completely different wants from this lifestyle.

Thank you

Husband & I have tried swinging, tried threesomes, and open relationships for 4 years now. I found the perfect FWB guy for me who I see regularly and have no desire to try anyone else. Hubby however bounces from one person to the next. They text him too much, they want to know too much, are filled with drama & I usually can't handle it anymore and I put an end to it. We go to parties and I'm not comfortable with the people he chooses to have fun with. I typically only play with women at parties and have no desire for men) If I don't like the person he wants to be with, I can't relax, I can't let him enjoy. I prefer that he have quickies and be done. No need for sexting/texting or a relationship with others. Just sex. I want him to have fun, but I'm thinking I'm not cut out for swinging & open relationships. I want my cake, but I can't let him have his. Suggestions anyone??