The Tiggers

The big Halloween party did come for us and wow, was it amazing. Before we get to the ending, lets take a look at what happened leading up to the nights events. The day started out like any other day when we travel to the city (the party wasn’t in our city as it is too small to host an event like this and it cuts down on the chance of being recognized). We took advantage of all the shopping available to us at the malls and different stores. I was trying my best not to think about it all day long. As always, we had a good time visiting the city. We took our time until about 8 pm when we decided it was time to start getting ready for the big club party. We had everything needed for our costumes since we started prepping at the beginning of October. Started out helping her get her eye lash extensions on, that was quite a feat! But in the end and almost an hour later we had our costumes on. Mine took 10 mins and hers the 40 mins. Once we were ready to go we walked over to the club since the hotel was so close. Was surprised to see there was already a line up by 9:30. Before heading to the club I asked that the first time there she not full swap. Wasn’t sure how I would be in the situation now that it was real. As we waited to get in to the club we were able to introduce ourselves to others in the line. Everyone was so nice and friendly, definitely nicer than a regular club. As with all first timers, we got a tour of the club, explained the rules and a free shot at the end. We had an absolutely great time at the club. We haven’t danced like that for a long time and until that early in the morning. We did venture to back rooms a couple of times and it was quite surprising to actually see someone doing it right in front of you. We did get hit on a couple of times (mainly her) when dancing but they weren’t our types. As the night was getting late we went back to the other rooms and wandered around a bit. Lots of others going at it around us. Thankfully, my wife made us do it when she found a sex swing. I did close the door behind us as it was a bit awkward using it for the first time. I ended up being the more shy one, who would have thought. But we had a great time at it!!! After that, we walked around for a few more minutes before heading out for the night. We both agreed it was an incredibly “interesting” night and are already planning to head back for the Valentine’s Day party. This time though, we will get it going out in the public areas! The next day we chatted and we both felt like none jumped out at us that she would want to play with. They all just didn’t seem good enough for her, from my point of view. Once again, I didn’t think that is how it would play out. I am sure I am not the first one who felt that going to a club for the first time. Yet, even now I still think about her having fun with another. All I can say is go for it. Everyone is super nice, dancing is great and who knows, maybe you will do something you have never done before! Let me know if you have any other questions.

Well, we are only a few days away from our first event. Our costumes are ready & travel arrangements made and now just the waiting game. I did receive an email last night and thought I would ask my question here. They mentioned that for first timers to feel free to take part in some of the social games. They used the example of spin to win and games tables. Can anyone provide some examples of what these games would be from your experience? Another update is that we have chatted more about it and keeping the expectations very low. Only expecting to dance and have fun with each other. I will make sure to give you a report back after the weekend!

That's great to hear! Sounds like a great idea to have a drink while getting ready. I will make sure to give an update after the party, hope you do as well.

What you said is true. She is still unsure of the whole thing but thinks it could be a fun weekend. I absolutely agree that there should be no expectations. Let's just go enjoy ourselves. The guidance I have received has been great. I definitely plan on her taking the lead and becoming comfortable in the environment. Who knows, maybe when I see someone actually starting to play with Mrs Tigger, it might not be what I can handle. Need to communicate as we progress.

That is some excellent advise! I believe that is something to follow. We have been talking about it. At this point her largest concern is me, she doesn't feel ready to watch me play with another. I was able to take this step by indicating to Mrs Tigger that this is all about her and her pleasure. Sounds a bit more like hotwife but this did help move things forward. I am more than happy to wait in the wings. How would others in the club receive this play style request?

I do have many questions and would welcome any advice . A couple top of mind would be: - given that she is still apprehensive, what should we continue to talk to about in prep for going to the club? - any advice for what to expect and what to bring to a club for the first time? - I am sure we will both be nervous, what tips do you have for breaking the ice with others? Don't want to sit in the corner for the night. The Tiggers

Thank you for the welcome. I have been surfing the net a lot more the last couple of weeks looking for info now that she is willing to visit a club. My guess would be be googling Swingers Forum.

This looks to be a memorable Halloween for us. After many years of chatting about it and role playing about my wife being with another, a yes was given! We will be dipping our toe into the pool at a lifestyle club at the end of the month. Mrs. Tigger decided to say yes to the club to see what it's all about. She isn’t ready to dive into the lifestyle but does want to be more adventurous. Mr. Tigger (me) has brought this up over the years but always met with a resounding “no”. I take this as a step in the right direction. We have our costumes already and I definitely can’t wait to see her amazing warrior costume! I will be looking throughout the site in how to best approach the situation so I don’t blow it. Lots to learn about on the site and need to make sure I cover the basics. Going in with no expectations for the night other than having a good time with her. Will have to admit, I rather like the idea of her even dancing with another. Just have to figure out how to get her comfortable with saying yes to that. I look forward to learning more from those on the site.