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Alphabetty

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About Alphabetty

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 09/20/1983

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Australia
  • Occupation
    Administrator
  • Swinging Experience
    This year
  • Anniversary
    05/05/07
  1. At our first 3 4-somes, I was 0/3 and he was about 16/3. A combo of nerves and other things going on for those other guys (one was on an anti-depressant which made erections almost impossible-would have been nice to know that going in, but then, we didn't ask). Although my husband also had some trouble getting it up when everyone was watching (3 pairs of eyes were 2 pairs too many) So lots of oral play for me, and we both kept checking in with each other to see how we were doing. Fortunately my partner fucked me silly once they left each time, and the next day. Have a chat with your partner, and work out what you want to do. We started off with the rule that 'it's only fun if everyone is playing' but you would need to define what you consider 'playing' and what you are going to do when you can't play.
  2. I'm a rather shy orgasmer at the best of times. I had one play partner who was so focused (almost obsessed) on making me orgasm that I felt rather uncomfortable. I enjoy sex, I don't need to arrive at a destination.
  3. If my husband was texting a playmate a lot and it bothered me, I would tell them. Sounds like fairly standard flirting at this point though. Be clear about what it is that bothers you. Too much texting or too much attention directed to someone who is not you? Do you want to set guidelines about how often they can text or have some block out times when neither of you text others? Open communication is key
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