I have always been leery of people who state they are experts in any chosen lifestyle. I believe we all have a continuous learning curve. Most of my encounters have been with meeting single men who falsely state that they are part of a couple...only to find out they are not. Or they make the claim that all meetings need to go through them first before meeting their female partner.
This makes me very uneasy and skeptical about the lifestyle and why people really are in it and their motives. I am a single female in the lifestyle and have distance myself because of such said behaviors.