chazo82

Thank you for all your replies, We did have a long conversation over the weekend, and he is definitely 110% into this, so its not there in the back of his mind that he doesn't really want to do it. As for picking the play mates, its either after talking to people on fab for a while or couples we meet in the club we go to. We both have a big say in who we play with, Its not usual for one of us to take one for the team (although I have once) we both have to be comfortable as a couple with the couple.

Thanks for the reply, I didn't bail him out with the last couple, and she did manage to get him hard again, he has no problem what so ever staying hard by oral or hand it only ever goes soft for penetration. I think he does find the women attractive but his thing is making sure we all click, have just been reading a few other posts to get some ideas and it seems like it is a very common problem. Reading some of the replies has definitely opened my eyes, and I get what you are saying so far we have never been with the same couple again maybe we should try that. I'm definitely not complaining that he doesn't cum as our session together after is mind blowing but would just really like to help him stay hard long enough to enjoy penetration with another woman.

Hi there, my hubby and I are quite new to the swinging scene, been doing it for about a month now, have had a few soft swaps and 2 full swaps. At first we thought the problem was to do with condoms, we never use them at home but it is a big must for us while playing with others, so we have been practicing at home with them and now we have kind of mastered them, however when swapping hubby struggles to keep his erection after putting one on. He has tried Viagra...didn't work. We have tried drinking, not drinking, but it always ends the same way, he can just about keep it up to penetrate the woman for a brief time but then loses it, as of yet no other woman has managed to make him cum. I always try to be reassuring for him but I am struggling now to come up with things to try or things to suggest for him to try. I feel like when he has managed to cum with another woman thing will be easier (I could be wrong) but I don't know how he can keep himself hard enough to get that far. He knows I can get him hard again quite easily and quickly so when he know he is going soft on him he comes straight to me to get him going again. Does anyone else have this problem or does anyone have any suggestions to help us get past this? We would hate for our swinging lifestyle to be cut short as other than this problem we really are enjoying it. Thanks for reading.