Bedrockers

Thanks to all. I guess it's our skin were need to work on! We usually do will with singles or couples, we would just like do better in groups (maybe, we've never done that!). We've also decided to make out travel circle smaller. No more out of state, keep it in a 200 mile radius! It just got our goat do to speak! We stepped out of our box, have it the old college try and still weren't able to connect so we're going to change a few things and give that a go! Do appreciate the feedback!��

No, it is Azbedrockers.

I decided to take notes on our adventure, some of you may pick up what I'm putting down, some may not. We drove 4 hours the first day and 5 the next, that's a haul in itself, especially filled with anticipation and uncertainty. We arrived about 2:00 in the afternoon, our host gave us a half-assed tour and then deposited us in our room. We unpacked a few things, freshened up and went to meet everyone else. All in all there were about 8 couples. We sat down to dinner and discovered that everyone knew each other but us. If you regress back to high school and pick up the label that was given to you, you'll feel right at home. I was a outsider, a weird one, different. My husband belonged to the same label, we just didn't know it until today, Tuesday. Now, the pretty people were a different niche, they were hooked up with each other, built, snobby, etc. When we were naked in the hot tub they talked to us but no one approached us (and we thought we were doing good!). We talked to everyone, meeting their eyes, engaging in conversation, we really stepped out of the box. My hubby even went and was totally direct with a couple he thought we were doing well with! She was too sore from the night before to play, and we believed her. So naive. Needless to say at midnight we went up to play in the swing with each other and there they were in full blown play, right in front of us. So we had been refused and lied to in the same sentence. It is a blow to your confidence. We broke bread with these people yet they judged us and classified us as outsiders. There was no crack to break thru, even though on an educational level and economic level we were above the majority. Most were bikers, which we were comfortable with, both of us used to belong to an MC. None of the other women wore a patch before. None of them even gave us a second glance after the hot tub, my thoughts are that play time had been prearranged and we were not included. I wonder in my mind what it was that made us unapproachable, we both have lingering thoughts, wondering which one it was, what could we have said. All in all the whole 5 days were a bust except the soak we did in Truth or Consequences, that was fantastic! So about $500.00 later, and exhaustive driving, mind blowing shunning from the pretty people, and being treated like we have the funk, we came home. Couple to couple we do ok with, but anything more is just a big SNAFU. We both practice good hygiene, both have manners and respect, neither are UGLY! We are just beyond the boundaries of trying to deal with the run around you receive in this lifestyle. Our profiles are AZBedrockers on Hotmatch and SLS. Feedback is appreciated, just be nice, we are all supposed to be adults!

Thank you! It did come as well thought out. I'll share it with my husband when we hit the road this afternoon. It's much appreciated!!

OK, here goes, might be long! We've been at this for almost two years now. We've had some great experiences and some not so great. Our biggest issue is we are quiet! We are the ones that sit back and watch everyone because we really enjoy doing so and because at the ripe old age of over 50, neither one of us is good at starting a conversation! We keep up just fine, but are not initiators. I'm more shy than he is, he is just quiet, not shy at all. Usually in a relationship one or the other is outgoing, but no, not here! Last year was my hubby's 50th birthday and we went to a resort in California. It was loud, crowded, overwhelming, did I say loud? It was a total sensory overload for us both. Needless to say we didn't really converse with anyone because we couldn't hear a damn thing! We've been to a house party with no action, a meet & greet where everyone knew each other, a couple of other weekend events, but the bigger the crowd, the worse it gets. This birthday we are going to a small swingers lodge, there shouldn't be more than 20 people all weekend. I need ice breakers, something to scooch us on into the "crowd"! People say "you've got to step out of your comfort zone!" Geez! We're at a swingers event!! I just need some creative feedback to help us on our way! We have NO problems once we are engaged in conversation or in great sex, we just have problems with 3,2,1 speak! Thanks in advance for anyone who is willing to offer advice! We'll be on the road all day tomorrow and part of the next! One giant leap!