We're hoping to get some answers, ideas and comfort in what we think is crazy hot and frustration. We are both bi-curious, late 40's, been together for over three years with a truly amazing sex life together. I think the biggest stumbling block is we both tell stories and fantasies about her with a man and a woman and me with a man, always all together. She just can't seem to bring herself to allowing another woman touch me or me touch another woman. Our fantasies are so detailed we should publish books but I can't help but think it needs to be equal all around when we really take the dive. We chatted a lot with and almost met another couple but she kind of froze two days before we planned to meet them at our first party. I think it's jealousy but just don't feel like unless we're both involved equality were not ready for any of it. Thoughts? Hopefully this was not too much for an intro.