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Thanks for all your truthful and honest replies. I will take all of your advice into consideration. I do disagree that I am being manipulative... I fell in love with him before I knew what he wanted. He dated for 4 months before he told me what he wanted. So I was in too deep. I do tell him my feelings and that I don't want this all of the time. I can compromise, but when you love someone you do whatever you can to make them happy. That's how I was raised. I never knew I would feel this way about another human being. He is like a ms. robinson case...if you know what I mean. He was young and having sex with a husband's wife while he watched. I think it messed him up at a early age. 15... I feel like I can't leave him sometimes because he needs me. And yes I am in counseling... my therapist says for me to run...

If I tell him I don't want to do this he will say goodbye. I broke up with him on a Friday about 8 months ago...he was pressuring me to find a couple to full swap. So I texted this girl that we had been texting but I didn't in a group text. It was just like girl talks... kids and everyday work... just to get to know her on a girl level. Well he flipped out and I didn't know I was doing anything wrong. I was in the lifestyle for about 2 weeks when I did this. He broke up with me on a Friday and on Saturday made a profile on match.com and met a woman and took her to his house and tried to have sex with her but he claims his penis wouldn't stay hard because all he did was think of me... so of course he told me this story and I believed him and thought since he was honest I could give it another try. Wish sometimes I never did.

I moved to Texas a couple years ago with my husband. We divorced. I have no family or friends here. He is really all I have. And he doesn't want me to have any friends. I don't think he knows how to respect me.

Thank you. He told me he was so turned on by another man on my body or vagina smell on my face... he couldn't wait to get me home so he can ravage my body... so I was very excited to have great sex once we got home from the last couple I played with but he didn't ever have sex with me... he made me give him a blow job, well actually he came and wasn't even hard and we went to bed... I didn't even touch me. He makes me play with myself and he watches me and jerks off. He rarely touches me... he fucks me and we go to bed. we have been together for a year and a half and he has never made love to me. He says that doesn't exist. No such thing. Can you help me? I was married for 20 years, we didn't have the greatest marriage but I raised my daughters and we did at least I thought make love a few times. Or maybe I was mistaken.

When we meet couples and I'm not very stern and go get-um attitude or I'm not all over the woman he blames me if we don't end of bringing them to our house. At first it was exciting and fun but I was with only women that he wanted to see naked. I wasn't attracted to them. And then he made me go to dinner to have a dinner with his ex girlfriend... because he was hell bent on making me have a threesome with her. I told him no. That would be the end of us. She loved him... I know a unicorn is someone that is used but I couldn't use her in fear of her feelings for him coming back. I love this man. He is very controlling and thinks every woman wants him... because he has a large penis. I am really enjoy playing with couples, I can go home and there is no connection. But bringing a girl in our bed is scary to me. I am afraid he will want her more than me. I will be left out... He always tell me how his ex girlfriend was so fun in bed. I try to be but I don't know if I am. He has made me do a lot of things I am not proud of. I have been praying for the jealousy and insecurities to go away and if I maybe just full swap and get it over with or let him have his threesome it would just be over and I can move on but I'm scared it will scar me for life.

He is very manipulative. He gives me ultimatums. To find a unicorn... lose weight... I'm very skinny. He wants my breasts to look bigger. He says he just wants to watch and then once we get to where we are about to play he joins in and touches the woman... I am 100% committed to him. I love him. I was married for 20 years and then I met him. I have been emotionally dependent on him. He hides things from me. He hides the fact that he still talks to all his ex's and flings. I ask and he acts angry like it is not my business. If I don't do the lifestyle he will leave me. He left his wife of 26 years because she didn't want to swing or be involved in anything that included in the lifestyle.

I can't tell him I'm not wanting or ready... he will just move on. He left his wife after 26 years of marriage to have this crazy life. I am in too deep. I love him. He is a good guy when swinging isn't involved. I have only been swinging or somewhat for 10 months. I have done a lot in 10 months... more than others. I don't want to swing with strangers, but that seems what he wants. I feel insecure all the time. He makes me feel that way. He always comments about other women... their breast size, mine are big but not big enough. Their vagina, my vagina looks nothing like the ones he comments about. I have lots of insecurities and this ls is not helpful.

Hello... we met in November and he swept me off of my feet. A few months later he tells me he wants to be in the swinging lifestyle. He wants me to have a threesome, he wants me to be with a woman. I was married for 20 years to my hs sweetheart. And this was all a shock to me. I was alone going thru a divorce and he was there. I needed him for emotional support, which he doesn't show emotions, but I was in too deep... I had fell for him. He still talks to his ex. Chats and texts people from the websites we are on, he tells them it is easier to text so they exchanged numbers and then I cant see what they are saying. I don't want to be with another man in front of him. Yes girl-girl is ok but I love a guy. He wants his cake and eat it too. one day is cuck, one day is threesome, and one day he tells me on and on how he wants to fuck this girl and that girl. I just let him talk... I don't even respond. Yes I have had fun being a unicorn with a couple, like I said he says he wants to watch only, but doesn't show that once it gets heated between the three of us... he always seems to join in. When I tell him he can't have it all he says why not... I know if i don't do what he wants in the relationship he will leave me for another. The ex girlfriend is waiting in the wings, but she isn't pretty enough that's why he isn't with her. I am very confused...

We have been together in the lifestyle for little over a year. He has dabbled in it for a while before me with his previous wife. I just want to learn how to get over the jealousy part or seeing him with someone else.

Hello- M boyfriend and I are experimenting in the lifestyle. We have done everything but full swap. He tells me he wants to watch me with a couple... full swap, and he tells them he doesn't want to participate. I don't know if I'm at the point where I can watch him with another woman actually having sex. So when we do meet a couple and I start playing, the me only playing goes out the window. Sometimes I think he uses that excuse just to get me there and then he wants to join in. He wants to experience the cuck lifestyle and everything else. I can't keep up. I enjoy playing with couples but not ready yet to have actual penetration. And he wants to have a threesome so bad. We have been dating a year and he introduced me to this life. I didn't know this existed. He wants me to play with his ex-girlfriend... I'm not sure I can do that or ready for a threesome. How do I get past the jealousy and the fact that I don't know if I can see him with another woman.