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I can be honest, it was my idea to bring up swinging, not the Mr.'s. And I had a lot of mixed emotions towards it and I still do, even though it was my idea. When I first brought up the idea to my man, he had about the same reaction, he couldn't believe I could want anyone besides him, even though we have always said "sex and love are two different things." After his initial reaction to it he was overly curious as to what my fantasies were and what I wanted and expected out of this. It took a lot of reasuring that I loved him and our sex life but that the idea of expanding our horizons was truly alluring to me. He really warmed up to the idea after he realized I wasn't only talking about fooling around with another guy but rather it was for the both of us and that I expected him to have fun as well. We have both talked about it a lot now and I mean A LOT! Always remember though no detail is to small when she is ready to talk. It may seem like a silly question or concern to you but it could be a very huge thing to her. I mean me and the Mr. have set up rules, boundaries, safe words, and we still find things that we know would bother us if they happened. Like it may seem silly but I wouldn't mind him screwing another girl in the bed beside me, while I ride her man, but I don't like the idea of another girl giving him head because I know Mr. finds that a very intimate action in the bedroom and at the end of the day we are still us and they are merely toys, as we like to say, for our pleasure. So there shouldn't be any real connections or intimate actions made, that is us only. So always be open to listen and answer all of her questions honestly, even if you think it will upset her, because if you lie to her there is no way can expect it to work for either of you. But even with talking through everything you can think of, when she's ready to talk about it, she may not want it but may just like how into things you get when you talk about it. I wish you both the best of luck with whatever the two of you choose.

I'm so glad that you posted this on Obsession Swing Lounge, because that is where I'm going to be going at the end of the month with the Mr. I have never gone to a swing club before and to finally hear from someone who has gone the place isn't bad is an amazing relief for me. Mainly because I'm completely new to this whole lifestyle and still trying to see if it's something that will work for us. So thank you for the information.

Thank you all so much. I will be sure to look into all of them and see which is the best match for us.

Ok so I have never opened myself to the idea of swinging until recently. Me (25) and my man (39) have been happily together for 7 years and have an amazing sex life because we both love trying new things and experimenting. The idea of swinging has always played in the back of my mind as more of a fantasy than a reality but recently he decided he didn't mind the idea anymore because he knew where we were in our relationship and was comfortable with it. One of the great things about us is we are both very open and honest with each other about everything. We have talked a lot about this in the past couple weeks. Our rules and limitations on people and even minor small things. The problem is we live in really Northern NY and there doesn't seem to be anything up this way, club wise. We want to use a club because it's a small area and we operate three businesses in the area. Also we know a lot of people and we decided on no friends, workers, or clients in case something went wrong. Does anyone know of any clubs in our area or even relatively close because NYC is like 5 1/2 hours from me. Thanks to all and if anyone has any suggestions or good advice for us for our first time I would love to hear it.