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TwoTogether

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About TwoTogether

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  • Birthday 10/09/1968

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Milwaukee, WI
  • Swinging Experience
    Newbie
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  1. If you know which club you're gonna hit, I recommend calling and asking them. It may not be a 'jeans' type of place. Ultimately, if she's getting dressed up, you ought to as well. I'd say slacks and a nice button down. If you wife is anything like mine, she may be picking you outfit for you!
  2. So Mrs. Together and I took the plunge last weekend, with our first LS experience. After lots of talking, reading this site to death, and talking with a friend in the LS, we headed out to a club. We were both concerned about ‘dressing to impress’, but her more than me since she was likely going to be exposing more than accustomed to right from the get-go. Our advice to other first-timers is to call the club and ask specific questions about attire. We called the place twice and both times they were very helpful. Their advice to her was to bring more than one outfit so she could ‘adjust her exposure’ as the environment or mood dictated. First timers, our advice is to wear what both of you feel comfortable in! It can be hard enough the first time so you don’t need the added wardrobe stress! When we arrived at the club, Mrs. Together got very nervous so we sat in the car a bit. Despite putting a lot of effort to arrange this event (farming kids out, blocking off the weekend, etc) and really wanting this to happen, I reminded the Mrs. that we could pull the plug and not go in if she wanted. First timers – remember that you are doing it at the pace of the slowest partner, so respect that! The night started slowly, and despite many posts on this site encouraging newbies to ‘get out there and socialize’, we stayed to ourselves. Part of that was the clientele – we really didn’t see any couples who we were mutually attracted to. We finally broke the ice accidentally when we were getting a drink and struck up a conversation with a single woman who had come with friends. She WAS really friendly and helpful, put us at ease, and encouraged us to have fun. As the night wore on, we were coming to the conclusion that we’d probably not end up playing with others, and as somewhat of a break from hanging out downstairs, decided to head to the play area and fool around with each other – partly to break the barrier of doing something in public, but also to burn off some sexual tension. When we got upstairs, the place was pretty much empty so we went into one of the ‘smaller’ group rooms. I figured I’d get her off fairly quickly with some oral pleasure and head back downstairs – WRONG! The next thing I realize as I lift my head for a moment is that we’ve got a full house watching our action. The Mrs. could see them but couldn’t care less. Moments later, our female friend who we had met earlier appeared and very politely asked if she could join us. The Mrs. checked in with me (a nice courtesy to me, but our rules included the rule ‘if one welcomed someone to join in, the other would too’). Surprised to see my bi-hesitant-but-curious wife accept the invitation only got me more turned on! The play focused primarily on Mrs. Together, but she also eagerly reciprocated with our new BEST friend. After both women were sated, the three of us unwound by talking about what we just did. Simply put, it was an almost surreal and exhilarating experience. When we returned downstairs, I was amazed by the feeling of confidence I felt about talking to others. I guess having naked sex in front of a bunch of people is a great way to tear down one’s inhibitions! We chatted a bit and danced some, and spent some time doing some ‘watching’ ourselves up in the play areas. It wasn’t too long before we decided to head back up and resume our play. By now the play area was packed with couples playing and others watching. The three of us found a room and with no inhibitions, stripped back down to our beautiful nakedness. Now I’m new to this, so I can only assume that being a threesome had a certain appeal, because almost instantly we had another packed room watching us. Mrs. Together amazed me with her absolute indifference about being the center of attention and showed no inhibitions whatsoever whether she was receiving or giving, whether it was to me or her. Our friend made it clear early on that she preferred women, so the women were the focal point of the play, but that by no means meant that I wasn’t participating or given ample attention by both partners. I enjoyed both Mrs. Together and our friend completely and when we were spent, relaxed on the bed and resumed our conversation about all sorts of things. It was great. First timers, if you can cowboy up and break the ice, you'll be surprised how much easier it is than you think! Mrs. Together and I talked afterwards and both confided that neither of us felt any misgivings, resentment, or jealousy whatsoever. It was a mutually exhilarating experience because we did it together. We’re already discussing where we should go next, looking at contacting a couple on SLS and attending a local event. I think with the first club experience behind us, meeting a new LS couple feels so much less stressful and going to a LS event equally so. We still have more to experience and assess – since our first event was only with another woman, I have yet to measure my feelings of seeing Mrs. Together being taken by another man, and neither of us were apart from each other so the first full swap may bring out different feelings. We’ve talked about this, but from our initial responses, feel good about moving forward. We would be remiss in not thanking that beautiful woman who helped us break the ice. For veterans out there who may stumble upon hapless rookies like us, you may not realize how much help you are in guiding newbies through the first time. Thanks! First timers – if you’ve talked it out fully, are BOTH about equally interested in trying the lifestyle, and have a strong and healthy relationship that is grounded in mutual respect, trust and open communication, I strongly encourage you to take the final, and clearly the most difficult step, and give it a try!
  3. My wife and I are preparing to go to our first club in a couple weeks and I wanted to ask the experts out there if we've forgotten anything… We've done our homework - reading this site extensively, talked to a friend in the lifestyle. Short of getting our feet wet, we believe we understand the community and its general expectation/norms. We've talked about this together EXTENSIVELY. After more than 10 years of marriage, we've shared things that we hadn't before. We both are interested in doing this TOGETHER and neither of us have expressed any inkling of backing out (though we both are naturally nervous). We've written down and discussed our rules. We both know that we'll need to continue to discuss these and ensure there is no misunderstanding beforehand. We surprised each other (pleasantly) with our openness to doing things. There were NO disagreements with the initial rules… From our research, we both know that nothing may happen the first time and that we shouldn't force things, but we both are interested in a same-room full play. We've read a wide range of approaches to first times - any thoughts or comments? We've called the club we're going to and spoken with someone. We got their recommendations on what they recommend bringing. We're also comfortable with the club as our friend recommended it so it's probably a good fit (and the club said that they regularly get newbies, so we won't be the only ones sticking out like sore thumbs). So… Have we forgotten anything? Any final recommendations other than 'keep communicating, respect each other, follow your rules' - all of which is great reinforcement, but something that neither of us are overlooking. Thanks!
  4. My wife and I tried this (at her recommendation) this past spring and things did NOT go well at all! Much to my surprise, she was willing to try again. There is certainly a learning curve for both Partners on how to do this without hurting her. Fast-forward to this winter and it is now a fairly regular part of our sex life. I'm better at 'loosening things up' before penetration and she's better at positioning herself. She loves the 'fullness' she feels with anal and experiencs a slightly different kind of orgasm. We're working on some DP with dildos for the same reason and have talked about (someday) possibly doing this with live partners. Her rule for that would be that I'm the 'back door man'. I know it would be a touchy topic to bring up, but she might acquire the taste for this if given some time,patience, and a gentle partner...
  5. Alura, Absolutely brilliant. So obvious that I couldn't see it! Even better - it's something I really enjoy doing! Thanks.
  6. So I may ramble a bit with this question, but appreciate everyone's patience... My wife and I continue to discuss our preparation for going to a club for the first time and she expressed some concerns/doubts about whether anyone would find her attractive. She's in her early 40's (I'm now officially in my late 40's) and she's had children. she works out religiously and eats healthy, but has never had a model's figure. I love her body and find her attractive, but she's worried that nobody would be interested in her. I shared that my perception was that women generally play the Alpha role in the clubs and is more likely to be invited to play than men. Any thoughts/comments on this? Second question - I find the idea of watching or publicly having sex to be totally erotic and it turns me on. But... I wonder if in the back of my mind that I might get there, have an opportunity to play, want to play, but have my body fail to cooperate. Is this common? What is the general reaction/response if it happens? Might this be a LS faux pax??? Thanks for the help, and I ought to get used to asking these very 'private' questions if I plan on going au-natural with strangers surrounding me!
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