Deathtongue

Sorry, it appears that I should be more clear. Being in a positive sexual environment with confident people sounds wonderful. Playing together with my wife in that environment in the presence of like minded people would be exciting for both of us. Paticipating in a community that exhibits that confidence and playfulness with others would be ideal. It's just that we simply don't have the desire to have sex with anyone else. The challenge for us is, it is difficult to find this in vanilla life. It appears that the lifestyle encompasses the spirit of openness and inclusion that we desire; but we are not interested in sex outside of our marriage. No judgement in any way, just a personal decision for us as a couple. So, what I am asking is, is there room in the lifestyle for people like us? We are not scared. We are not selfish. We don't want to lead anyone on or represent ourselves as something that we are not. We simply want to explore, have fun, and be challenged. What I am generally hearing is that we may be accepted without offense, as long as we are forthright with our preferences and we are sensitive to not interfere with the naturally intended purpose of swing club/events. Is this more clear? Am I on the right track?

Some very helpful thoughts. Thank you to all. As pointed out above, I should have said "interested in NEARLY all aspect of the lifestyle." That would be more accurate. And I should also point out that we are not really voyeurs or exhibitionists either. We are simply confident,sexual, playful, sex-positive people who desire to be around others like us. Unfortunately, these appear to be pretty rare traits in the vanilla world. Just trying to figure where and how we might fit in. Mysteryperson - I don't believe that we would have interest in your described senerio. Best of luck!

Thanks, San Antonio, but no soft swap either. Same room would certainly work, though.

My wife and I are interested in all aspects of the lifestyle, but we are not interested in swapping. We are sex positive in all ways, very much enjoy sexually charged environments, appreciate sharing in the sexuality of others, want to meet and party with others that have similar attitudes, but are not interested in having sex with other people. Would we be accepted at lifestyle events and is it likely that we could establish ourselves in a community of friends, even if we are unwilling to swap; or would this ultimately lead to annoyance, disinterest, or distrust? We would really appreciate thoughtful responses and advise from experienced members. Thank you!