Striker1374

Ok so this isn't exactly related to the lifestyle directly but it is making me nervous. Things for me as of late have become let us say a little quicker in bed than I like. Now I'm not talking seconds but I'm guessing between 10ish mins after we start to have active penetration sex before I cum. To me this is to quick. If I'm on top can control the temp and last longer but she has a better orgasm while she is on top. I know the obvious answers like wear a condom and more 4 play but I'm looking for other ideas that you guys have used that work.

Ok so the next situation I'm going to ask about is positioning. I've heard several people speak about it gets awkward finding the right position during 3 ways. Who is the one who takes control and moves people around.

Hmmm. The situation I'm referring to is we are some place private and play is on the table. However you brought up a situation I had not thought about. We are meeting the guy at a local wing place for a drink. We have already talks about what we want and don't want. So if things go well how do we take it home?

Ok so I am eternally great full for all the great advice I'm getting here so I'm just going to keep firing away with questions I have. This is in regards to that awkward time period of we have had a couple drinks and chatted for a bit. I'm looking at her she's looking at me he's looking at her. How does the situation go from chatting to playing?

I very much enjoy kissing. She is the one to be hesitant bc of the smoking. As for her stopping smoking that has been a long arduous road. I've given up on asking her to stop. I guess I can talk to her about not smoking before we have sex so we can add more kissing that would be a good idea. As for him initiating kissing her, I thought the bed rock principle of another party is to abide by our set rules. If I tell the guy I am not comfortable with him kissing her than shouldn't that be then end of conversation?

We have set up a first meeting with a potential single guy for mfm. He has boasted about his penis size and kissing ability. At first I was intimidated by his cock size but after reading multiple posts in here I have calmed down about that. I have a problem with anyone kissing my wife other than me. From the neck down I'm fine with and actually quite excited about. Is this irrational? My wife is a smoker and knows how much I hate it. She is hesitant sometimes about deep kissing with me after she has had a cigarette which happens a lot right before we have sex. So we don't end up with a lot of kissing during sex. Don't like the vision in my head about another guy kissing my wife. Kissing to me seems more intimate with a deeper connection. I appreciate any input.

My wife and I have talked about the lifestyle for a couple years. She has always been the resistant one not necessarily not into the lifestyle but the couples we have tried to meet have turned out to be a bust. This is only two or three couples. I recently gave up the search of a couple because most of the women are bi and my wife is not. I started looking for a single guy for mfm. I started talking to a guy about three hours away. He displayed a lot of interest in my wife. He comes across as someone who is very proud of his 8" thick cock. We got several pics and one video of him jacking off. I expected my wife to do as she always does and just brush it off. We exchanged cell numbers so we could all text for easier communication. We set up a three way conversation so no one was left out. I have always encouraged my wife to express what she liked and wanted. The conversation got very heated with all parties contributing to the conversation. My wife talked about sucking him and having me watch before I could participate and also asked him to come to our area to meet and see where things go with no expectations. I have urged her to do this and now that it is becoming real I am very nervous about the situation. My concerns are: This guy is about an inch larger than me and thicker. Will she want him more than me after she experiences his cock? Will she be thinking about him while we have sex after she has him? I want her to enjoy the experience. I am the one to pursue this. Why am I so apprehensive now?