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madrigal0404

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About madrigal0404

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 04/04/1977

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  • Relationship Status
    Married Couple
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    Denver, CO
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    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. My husband and I have been married for about 6 months. Fantastic sex life, a lot of trust, brutal honesty and the other things that go along with a great relationship. We are not young, naive and have had enough experience in both of our lives to know ourselves very well. I knew before we got married that swinging is something that interested him, and there was not a single point where I have been opposed to the idea, in theory. The practice part frightens me a bit, but in theory, I have no objections. It has never been something I wanted, thought about or considered in the past, but I have always been aware of it and am generally really open-minded. I have always been a "moral" person, not in a religious way, but I have always been a loyal one-man woman. I am not opposed to alternatives at all, the situation has just never arisen. He brings it up on occasion, then drops it, brings it up, then he freaks out and drops it again. It is confusing because when he brings it up, I take the time to put myself in that place mentally, and start digging into my research. When he drops it, I drop it. When he brings it up again, I have to start from scratch mentally. That part is a little frustrating. At this point however, I am just going to assume I should do my research knowing that this is something he is interested in. I think he is just afraid that he may be trying to pressure me or sound like a salesman. He knows that I would rather have the honesty than anything else, and has become more comfortable with that being a part of his desires. The fact that he desires this doesn't bother me either, I just need to figure out where I am, and he is willing to be patient and wait for me to "catch up". At this point, I cannot say that I am interested in swinging, but I also cannot say that I am not interested. I am in some strange limbo that can lean either way at any time. I certainly do feel it is something I would be open to at some point. Although our relationship is built on something fantastic, I feel like we should be married longer, for whatever unknown reason. He finds the length of our marriage irrelevant. We talk about it a lot, we have created a profile online and had started conversations with some couples, but it hasn't gone anywhere for a variety of reasons. I don't know if I am keen on the online profile thing, and feel that a better "introduction" for me would be more immersive, so to speak. I would much rather go to some pressure-free event or party, be around people and see what occurs naturally. It seems difficult to do this without making a big membership fee investment, so I hesitate to spend a big amount of $$ for one or both of us to be completely turned off. Basing this assumption on online profiles alone, there is only one major fear I have. I am not bi or even bi-curious. I have no desire to play with another woman, and never have. It seems as if female play is required, or expected. Is it possible for a fully straight couple to be successful in the lifestyle? Does anyone have experiences they can share in this area?
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