Hi,
Male half of the couple here.
For around 4-6 months now my wife has come off of the pill and we have been a lot more relaxed about condom use. I wouldn't say we were trying for a baby but I wouldn't say we were not not trying either! I have low motility and, as we hoped to start a family in the future we figured taking a relaxed approach might be the best idea as we weren't sure how long it might take us.
Anyway, she has recently been talking/camming with other guys online (with my full consent) and about 2-3 weeks ago, she took the plunge and met up with one. We have done same room swapping before but this is the first time either of us have played alone. She made him wear a condom and, even then, he came on her, not in her! She did have him take some photos/videos and I can definitely see that he was wearing a condom. He did rub himself on her when he wasn't wearing one but there was no penetration.
After she met him, we had unprotected sex a fair few times. The whole thing drove us wild!
Fast forward to yesterday and my wife has told me that she is pregnant. According to the tester, she is around 2-3 weeks gone.
Now don't get me wrong, I know that it is almost definitely mine but there is a nagging doubt. We have been having unprotected sex for a little while and, typically, the first time she sleeps with another man since coming off the pill, is the same time that she falls pregnant. It was his own condom so could have been out of date for all we know. He also has a child so he is definitely fertile!
If we could say with 100% certainty that it is mine, there would be no problem here. We would keep it. However, we are both terrified that, no matter how unlikely, it will turn out to be his.
Does anyone have any experience in this? Has anyone here ever fallen pregnant whilst using condoms?
I know we probably come across as incredibly naive here but we are were we are now and neither of us know what to do moving forward.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
Thanks and sorry for rambling on.
