WidowedSwinger
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- Birthday 03/03/1962
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Relationship Status
Widowed Male
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Location
Florida
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Swinging Experience
3 Years (w/ Late Wife)
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Anniversary
xx/xx/xxxx
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WidowedSwinger started following Do you find red heads sexy?, Should I look for a swing partner or convert a vanilla?, How single males can start swinging (couples tell all) and and 1 other
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Should I look for a swing partner or convert a vanilla?
WidowedSwinger replied to WidowedSwinger's topic in Swinging Solo
Thank you again. The basic situation here is that along with my best friend, we discovered something great and that includes, the spice to our lives, the friends and laughter, etc. THEN, to try to explain that is so hard to someone who has never experienced it. (as I'm sure you all know). Which brings me to an answer to your question of what is MOST important. Within the first year of our marriage, we went to a nude beach together for the first time, from there it was a nude cruise and then another, and then more local nude beaches, resorts close and far, raising children nude, more friends and more fun. And of course, NO TAN LINES OR SOGGY BATHING SUITS! We could not bring ourselves to wear suits anymore! Now, since widowed, when I meet a woman, I do tell her, almost immediately, I'm a nudist, and there is NO way I can change that. More women converted than I thought. Most loved it. I know I need to be more patient with the swinging. I was very lucky (Blessed) with my first 15 year adventure, right up to the last two years in the swing lifestyle. -
Should I look for a swing partner or convert a vanilla?
WidowedSwinger replied to WidowedSwinger's topic in Swinging Solo
Good advice. Thank you! -
Should I look for a swing partner or convert a vanilla?
WidowedSwinger replied to WidowedSwinger's topic in Swinging Solo
Thank you for your kind words. Since my loss, I have not looked hard enough within the lifestyle. I spent too much time on Vanilla sites and actually, believe it or not, I met a woman on a mainstream dating site who was divorced and was a veteran swinger. She too wanted that again... Unfortunately, our personalities just didn't work so we never even got nearly far enough to play even together. I DO KNOW exactly what I am looking for. I want what I had, a solid loving, fun swinging relationship but again that took over a decade to get to that point with my late wife. If I could "get pretty darn close" as you say, that would be great. I see a therapist but could not imagine bringing this up to her but I have only been seeing her a very short time. Thank you again and feel free to respond. -
Should I look for a swing partner or convert a vanilla?
WidowedSwinger replied to WidowedSwinger's topic in Swinging Solo
WOW! SO true on "a couple slowly growing into the lifestyle together" because after the first 12 beautiful years together, that is exactly what we did. We evolved over all those years before we were both ready and it was an amazing adventure~! and then for me to go out and duplicate that it just doesn't happen. So, the more I think about it, the more I think that the most ideal scenario would be someone who walked the same road I did. ~Had a great marriage, ~Discovered the lifestyle and it was great ~She is now widowed. I have dated and some were very opened to the Nudist Lifestyle and some were not. But, finding someone who understands the swing lifestyle has been quite a challenge. I often think to myself, just let time and fate take it's course. I have NOT ventured out to any swing clubs since losing my wife. And yes, I am always honest, you can only be that way in a situation like this. Yours and/or anyone else's feedback is always welcome. -
I dated over a dozen redheads before I married my redheaded wife. Her hair was a medium red and skin was very fair. When we finally did it on about the fourth or fifth date, her hair was much lighter down there. She started out with a quiet and shy personality who said she felt that oral sex was dirty and didn't like to do it. Ten years later she was the first to bring me to orgasm via oral! And soon after that we became swingers. She wass amazing! Once you go red, you can never go anywhere else.