As a couple we enjoy MMF.
I enjoy sharing her pleasure, I am not Bi and the choice of guy is always hers.
I don't know if it could be called her fantasy but what she feels safest doing is meeting up with a potential male playmate at a lifestyle club, we have partied at the Red Rooster Club Las Vegas many times.
We have had a couple of successful experiences but not many.In fact our first MMF experience was at the Red Rooster.
The type of guy she looks for is one who is respectful to her, dressed nice, and of course clean. Many times there are single guys who would be perfect, but their approach takes them from what could be a great evening to no way in hell.
Although she is not looking to fall in love, she still wants to have somewhat of a connection.
She is quite hot and our experience has been if she is left alone single guys surround her like a pack of dogs in heat. Not so bad except they act like dogs in heat also. She gets lines like "I would sure like to have a piece of that", "Can I have sex with you" etc etc. One guy said "I would sure like to see what those tits look like" or some guy will leer at her while whacking off in his pants.
I am not saying she does not like this kind of talk, but not as an opening line.
These lines may well work if a guy shows her some respect maybe takes the time to meet her have a bit of a conversation, flirt with her in a respectful way.
I can not count the number of times that from across the room she has made eye contact with a guy who interests her only to have the guy come over and make some crude comment about her tits or ass or what he wants to do to her.
Come on guys this is a total stranger you are making these comment too. Do you really think walking up to a woman anywhere and making those comments that you are going to score...maybe 1 in 100.
Not all single guys are like this but it seems there are more then there should be.The times we has connected with a guy who knows how to treat a lady the evening as been amazing.
These are ladies, wives, moms, etc they are not hookers.
For me this is disappointing, I miss out on a potentially fun evening.
If only these guys knew how many times a different approach would have provided them an unforgettable evening.
After my long rant, my question: Do other couples feel this way or is it just something we are doing wrong? Are our expectations too high?